Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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Yeah I agree with Machiavelli (cold S-O-B) anyways, there is definately conquest part of the game. I love my WF GF 100% she is so perfect. And the truth is, the fact a gorgous WF with me definitely raises my ego. I am willing to say most if not all asian guys go with WF both as love and conquest. (you girls know it too, girls probably do it more than men anyways)

SOG Monday, June 24, 2002 at 10:29:11 (PDT)

prima ballerina,

I do agree with you. Korean men are very romantic and passionate. I guess I am just being partial because my husband is a Korean man :P
Yummy Monday, June 24, 2002 at 08:48:46 (PDT)

They Who Knows:
Why is it that you have so much against blond haired women? Your either some ugly, fat brunette. Or your some AW or BW against AM&WW relationship. If this is the case you shouldn't be jealouse. There are plenty of AM that date AW&BW. So go and find them. Not here though.
Unmasked your identity They Who Know. You aren't fooling anyone. Monday, June 24, 2002 at 05:10:24 (PDT)

single Asian male,

I have to agree with you that yes WF are very attractive but I have to disagree with you when you say that they're not interested in Asians guys. I'm a young 25 year old working in retail and I always get stares and compliments from WF. Just the other day one of my female co-workers came up to me and told me that she overheard a couple of female customers that were talking about me and checking me out. I turned around and MAN were they HOT! They were ALL about that! Some WF I know have a name for AM they find attractive...they call them HAMs (Hot Asian Males). Obviously there are WF that are not going to find AM attractive but nobody has the same tastes.
Proud 2 b Azn Monday, June 24, 2002 at 03:26:27 (PDT)

I think the reason why I act like the way Brunett Girl described is because of my father. He never really showed a lot of emotion eventhough he was always very caring. It was because of this lack of showing emotion that I'm not as forward as I am. Can any other AM out there relate?
Proud 2 b Azn Monday, June 24, 2002 at 03:09:24 (PDT)

Thas laughs, cuz...,

The very thought of a Chinese Mormon definately put a grin on my face LOL. I think the wierdest I've ever come across was my German cousins. Hearing AM speak perfect German is quite a thing indeed. It took EVERY ounce of will power in me to keep from laughing out like a mad man. Luckily we were able to communicate in Cantonese.

Proud 2 b Azn Monday, June 24, 2002 at 03:02:12 (PDT)

brunette girl, too! ,

I'm also first generation, but Korean American. I am quite "Americanized" in the sense that I don't tend to socialize with only people from my ethnic background, and just associate with anyone that I click with.

I think that with 1st generation or immigrant groups, most prefer to associate with people of their own nationality, i.e. Korean, Japanese, Chinese, etc., then with people in the larger Pan-Asian community, then non-Asians. 2nd or later generations are more likely to associate (thus also date) more outside their ethnic groups and race, but agian, there are exceptions, as some are "born again Asians" who "rediscover" their ethnic pride and choose to only associate with Asians. So in conclusion, Asian Americans as a whole (since most are immigrant, 1st or 2nd generation Americans) are in a very fluid and flexible state of self-identification, and will continue to be so until later generations. Once you get to the 3rd and 4th generations, you could safely guess that their cultural alignment would be more in tune with the American mainstream. Then again, as America absorbs more immigrants of other cultures, the definition of "mainstream" (which at the moment is definately Euro-American) could also metamorphose into one that includes Asian influences, as is the case with Hawaii, which is definately recognized as part of the American heritage, but is obviously very Asian/Pacific Islander in nature.

Anyway, I just think that it's pointless to gauge your chances of hooking up with the Japanese guy based on what generation it is. At this point in Asian immigration, some people choose to be with others like them, some people are adventurous enough to date outside their race. Just treat this guy as an individual (as you should) and adjust your gameplan.
A Korean Man Monday, June 24, 2002 at 01:10:13 (PDT)

prima ballerina,

What's your ethnic background? I'm Korean and like white women, I was just curious. Take care.
A Korean Man Monday, June 24, 2002 at 00:51:37 (PDT)

I have a younger brother who is a dentist practising in southern Washington State in Vancouver area. He is handsome and well mannered. He is very busy (works 50+ hrs a week), and I try to get him hooked up. Any ladies interested, please e-male me.
-- Asian guy
Asian guy cty22835@centurytel.net Monday, June 24, 2002 at 00:37:52 (PDT)

I was hit on by a good looking girl (blonde but I prefer brunettes) at the bar. I was visiting Washinton DC and met with old friends at the bar so I couldn't talk to her long. No point in getting phone number either since I had to leave next morning.

Anyways reaffirm my belief that Washington DC and San Francisco is a great place for AM to meet WF. Also saw 3 AM/WF on the street.
nice guy Sunday, June 23, 2002 at 23:21:43 (PDT)

Pangolin

Then you must not love white females because we are the boldest!
Blondie Sunday, June 23, 2002 at 22:34:47 (PDT)

Kile

If you think that asian women are prettier than white women, but think also that white women's personalities are better than asian women, then why don't you date hapas. You could find a half white and half asian girl who looks asian but think and act white. You would get the best of both worlds.
Blondie Sunday, June 23, 2002 at 22:33:55 (PDT)

Asian Biker,

I can imagine that if I were an Asian man asking out a white woman and I were rejected, I would probably wonder in the back of my head "Is it because of my race, or because she just didn't like me?" Maybe you will never know. I can only imagine how hard that must be, it gives me a slight inkling of what it's like to be a minority.

Kile,

Um..are we supposed to say "Gee thanks!" to your comment?? Yeah, thanks a lot for coming onto the Asian Male/White Female board and saying that Asian women look better. Very nice of you.
curious girl Sunday, June 23, 2002 at 18:24:50 (PDT)

The poster who is using the tag seems to be some sort of female with something against Blonde White Women. My first guess is that she is most definitely not a White Woman. This is most evident by her posts and specified concerns. Just look at her posts, it is easy to see:
"Cybil Shepard is not a beautiful blonde. She looks like skeletor in the face and has no curves."
and
"Would you take Linda Tripp over Cindy Crawford or a black brunette like Halle Berry?"

But this is besides the point. Whoever this is has a severe emotional dilemma and deep rooted issues with color. I suggest they seek counseling and try a message board that appeals to their taste. A therapist would be good, they have help for people like her.
This is a place for WW and AM. This is not a place where everyone should be made to explain their preferences. Chris Poet/Warrior and any of the other AM on here should not be questioned and fried in a pan for having a certain preference in women.
clinician Sunday, June 23, 2002 at 16:00:52 (PDT)

TheyWhoKnows,
I didn't realize that I sounded that way. I know I still have alot of growing to do. My family was sort of prejudiced. Especially my mom. She always made a big deal out of blonde hair and blue eyes like it was so great or something. I always told myself I would never be like her. I still have alot of things to learn I see. I never really thought of some of the things you pointed out to me. It makes alot of sense really. I guess I thought by my having so many non-white friends made me different than alot of people. I have alot to still learn about other cultures. I do still try not to put myself above anyone else. I have a daughter to raise and I don't want her growing up confused about who she is. I want her to feel beutiful and loved. I think she is the most beautiful little girl in the whole world, she a little brunette with dark eyes. I love her with all my heart. So I have to stiil learn alot, for the sake of my daughter and for my sake too.
Megan Sunday, June 23, 2002 at 10:04:14 (PDT)

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