Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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Thanks ck and Viet Guy in Houston.
Appreciate your comments.
pixie Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 08:34:48 (PDT)

2hot 2handle wf - I think you have some really good points here. I have to ask you though, if you don't cook, how do you eat? You know, cooking isn't really that bad - but I agree with you regarding ironing shirts, that really sucks. Do you think us WF are really a handful next to AF? I have read a lot regarding difficult AF's.
pixie Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 08:33:41 (PDT)

strawberry shortcake - I agree with you that if two people are willing, interracial relationships can work. It is really sad that out of all the people in your life, family can sometimes really be so cruel. I think that hurts almost more than anything. I hope you and your husband are doing well together, away from those who have the need to control.

Does your family realize they have driven you away from them?
I am sad for your sister - can she try to get back with her ex?
pixie Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 08:30:08 (PDT)

SOG - Is your GF white? You seem to be a fair person and it sounds as though you treat others as you would like to be treated. I thought my Asian guy loved me, I loved him very, very deeply which is all the more reason it hurts so much. I don't know that I'll ever truly be able to trust another AM again.

When I get angry about it, I do tend to tell myself that deep down he wasn't a real man, but I'm still hurting right now.
pixie Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 08:24:22 (PDT)

What do you ladies think about Yao Ming? Isn't he hot? Hes 7ft tall! WOW! I have never dated a guy that tall before!
curious girl Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 06:57:22 (PDT)

Proud 2b Azn,

You know that pretty girl from church that I met. That was the thing of the past. I will never go back to that church again. Before I left that church the pastor actually admits to all young people that he himself has a gross mind. He is an honest guy. No one is perfect. I try to just forget about the whole thing.

That pretty girl tends to be more open to interracial relationship I think it is because she has a half sister who is half black and half white. You see, her mother was married twice or three times?. Her sister also looks very attractive, but a lot younger than her.

Thinking back, the best place to meet girls in general would be in colleges and universities. I used to view them as competitors (shameful to say) thus lost a lot of chances. I might do some volunteering soon this fall. Hopefully meet someone who is kind, not just someone looking for some cheap fun.
Christian Asian Guy Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 03:02:43 (PDT)

To Megan Wannabe,

This is Asian Guy. I respect your comments even though I might not agree with all of them, but there is some truth about what you said about me. I respect that.

Can you please leave Megan alone? Use your own screen name for the first time. If you really want to be someone else, why don't you use my name for a change.

Sincerely,
Asian Guy (Male) aka Christian Asian Guy Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 02:34:24 (PDT)

To kind Megan,

Hi Megan, I do not know why anyone would pretend to be you and make mean and harsh comments. It seems like this evil twin of yours also calls herself "the real Megan" wants to ruin your reputation or she is too chicken to put her own identification down. I feel that you are a nice person. May your words show who you really are.

Sincerely,
Asian Guy aka Christian Asian Guy Thursday, June 27, 2002 at 02:23:33 (PDT)

I have a question for all the people on this forum. I am a christian and as a result is a virgin. Can't do it before marriage.

Anyway, I heard from many people that sex is overrated. Is that true???. Especially for women.

SOG Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 23:52:43 (PDT)

SOG (christian),

"oh another thing I think if we all interbred over and over we would all look like middle eastern people. Maybe more attractive!. They did this with dogs and after ahile all the dogs looked the same!!!"

I don't usually respond to hate-fests like this but even you must see what an ignorant piece of shite this statement is. You're Christian huh...riiight...I think you missed something.

Cinstinna Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 22:33:25 (PDT)

prima ballerina,

"Is it acceptable for Asians to expect no attitudes from other American, yet expect blacks in America to get attitudes. Do Asians in America feel that they should be special when it comes to prejudice from white Americans."

I don't think SAG was trying to say that Asians are special and should be excused of any attitude. What he was trying to point out was...why is it more acceptable to have a BM/WF relationship then a AM/WF relationship? Why are AM/WF subjected to more pressures then others? If anyone is going to discriminate then I'd rather have it distributed equally throughout ever race and gender. Unfortunately IT DOESN'T HAPPEN THAT WAY. Some groups receive more pressure then others.

Nobody ever said Asians were special in anyway. If you don't believe me...read his post and tell me exactly where he said that. The bottom line is, nobody deserves to have any attitude just because they want to be with whomever they want.

Proud 2 b Azn Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 22:10:25 (PDT)

I have to agree with Red Devil to some degree. Just because someone has one bad experience with an Asian Man should not make the person blame all Asian Men.
There are some bad apples out there. I should know because I have had my share of them in life.
curious girl Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 18:44:02 (PDT)

chris (poet/warrior):
i have the same first name! anyways, yeah, I've met so many gals who PREFER us asians, and in my experience, mostly gals just dont' care, as long as you are confident and cool and take care of how you look. I used to be so brainwashed to believe we were all undesirable, but thats not true. We asians make awesome partners.

BTW, I live in the capital of the confederacy, in The South! You'd think a guy like me would strike out in a place like this, but no sir!

locke maison Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 16:46:04 (PDT)

Just Megan,

Has it ever entered your mind that perhaps you are not the only female on this planet with that name. Perhaps another Megan wants to be known by her name too. Then again, it could be a kid with a lot of time on their hands.

Single Asian Guy,

With the way priests are exposing themselves, maybe that priest wasn't angry at you for dating a WF. Maybe he was angry that HE didn't a chance at you.

A Korean Man,

Please be considerate. You should have sent a private email to the ballerina.
Forse la latta del ballerina di prima o non pu˜ parlare italiano. Quello non importa. Che cosa importa che forse il resto dei idiots qui non come voi e la I e non conosce l'italiano.

Prima Ballerina,

It took me a while to realize this, but yes I think that Asians feel more status over blacks. It's not Asians fault because Asians are not the ones who asked to be called the model minority. It's not fair, but if any opportunity arises in which it's better to be seen and therefore treated better than a black. I don't know any Asian who will say no to that unfairness. It's survival.

Chris,

Five feet nine is not short. White men who are five nine will never refer to themselves as being short, so why must Asian men? I think Al Pacino, Dustin Hoffman and Tom Cruise are five feet nine inches and they don't put themselves down because of it.

Red Devil,

Go to the devil with those Jewish remarks.

Unmasked your identity They Who Know,

You sound confused.

That's wonderful.

TheyWhoKnows Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 15:23:36 (PDT)

Re: curious girl

1. "Do you really believe that for Asian men, getting a white women to date and marry them is nothing but a conquest?" Answer: No, not necessarily. But, it is always a factor.

2. "Or do you think that AMs/WFs can have great, happy, real relationships...?" Answer: Yes, it is not only possible, but also a frequent reality.

Asian Machiavelli Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 15:02:11 (PDT)

2 Hot 2 Handle WF,
"I don't know about you, but I don't cook, iron shirts, or act like the "little woman,"."

OK, point taken. You are no pushover. This is 2002 and gender roles should be a thing of the past.

"I don't think they would last even a month with most of the WFs I know, including myself."

Why is this so?

"But if you could find an AM who could handle you, I believe you would have found yourself a very good catch."

You have advised Pixie wisely. Are you willing to follow your own suggestion? Would you be willing to spare just a little bit of your time? How about a harmless email?

Cordially,
Oven Mittens Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 12:55:27 (PDT)

Kile,
Give me a break. If you didn't find white females attractive then you wouldn't be on this poll in the first place. What game are YOu trying to play?
Brunette girl Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 12:39:55 (PDT)

SOG,
Your posts are becoming so long and boring. I wonder why you are so concerned about everyone else. This is a WF and AM poll. Don't you agree? Why are you constantly bringing up black people on this poll? Noone wants to hear about that.
Brunette girl Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 12:34:27 (PDT)

Dear Pixie,

I am sad to hear that your relationship with your boyfriend did not blossom because of his friends/family members' influenced him. Although you got hurt by the breakup, I believe it turned out to be better. I mean... What would you do if you guys got married and then he would pull that stun on you? That would be worse. It is better to find out about his commitment sooner than later.

Personally, I do not see a Caucasian female as a play thing. As a matter of fact, I do not see any female as a play thing. Having said that... Well, I simply enjoy being around them. When I was in college, my interactions were with Caucasian females. At the time when I entered this college, there were not many Asians females. Consequently, I did not have opportunities to know Asian females. (So, I cannot say anything about them.) I got to know several wonderful Caucasian females, however. If I had my way, I would have married one of them.

I don't know about your experiences, but after the graduation, everyone left to pursue their goals. We are still in contact. Most importantly, they are doing very well out there. I am very happy about them.

To answer your question, based on my personal experiences, Caucasian females make wonderful wives to any men. The Caucasian females whom I have known are outgoing, smart, sassy, attractive, and funny. Moreover, if we were to take out "Cauc" from "Caucasian," it is actually "Asian"! So, Asian males and Caucasian females are not much different than we think. Besides, I have noticed that Asian male and Caucasian female make wonderful, cute babies!

I hope that you find a good guy who does not care what others think of an interracial relationship.

horseshoe Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 11:39:11 (PDT)

Kile must be blind if he thinks Asian girls look better than white girls. Sure, there are individual Asian girls that look better than some white girls, but on the whole, there is no comparison. White girls are by far much much prettier than Asian girls. None of my Asian friends can honestly say Asian girls in general are better looking, they readily admit white girls are more beautiful, but I I guess there are things more important than looks to them. I have this friend from college, who used to say Asian girls are the most beautiful, which was fine. But he from time to time would bring up the subject how come I don't look at Asian girls, and we'd get into long arguments and all, of course looks is high on the list. Anyway, to make a long story short, this guy today is only dating white girls.
Deng Ai deng_ai2000@yahoo.com Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 10:54:56 (PDT)

I am curious what other AMs parents tell them to discourage their sons from dating white girls. I know what my mom's biggest ploy is always to tell me that white girls are not loyal to their parents and will not understand the closeness of the family bond in an Asian family. She tries to lay the guilt trip that when you date white girls, you will forget and no longer care for your parents. Have any of you gotten this much? It'd be interesting if some of you could share your stories.
Deng Ai deng_ai2000@yahoo.com Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 10:41:04 (PDT)

Yes, there are a lot of pressure on AMs to marry AFs in Asian families, curiously though, the same pressure for AFs to marry AMs is much less severe. I know my parents have always wanted to match me up with some AF from friends they know. I never told them straight up that I prefer white girls, but I think they have gotten used to my actions that they don't bother me as much anymore. It's funny how my mom always come up with reasons why white girls are bad for AMs. Incidently I have this friend who used to date white and hispanic girls but is now dating an Asian girl and is considering marriage. Anyway, through repeated questioning, I finally got him to admit he prefer white girls, but he felt it was his duty to find someone whom his parents can talk to, since his sister is dating some white guy.
Deng Ai deng_ai2000@yahoo.com Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 10:34:08 (PDT)

did anyone see the Fifth Wheel Dating Show on TV last night or 2 nights ago? An Asian guy made a love connection with a blond WF (the other 2 WFs were brunettes). He picked her and she picked him. And they kissed each other in the end. I guess it is true there is a stronger attraction between Asian Males and Blondes...

tv addict Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 10:20:58 (PDT)

hey christian boy -

this isn't a survey of the old testament. this is a poll at am/wf. so take your old testament fables about noah and what-not and shove it.

anyways, the noah and his 3 sons story was and is perpetuated by extreme fundamentalist and evangelical christians to justify servitude among the races. you should read a book called 'the arrogance of faith' - i'm sure you can find it on amazon.

fyi - i was raised fundamental baptist, did the whole campus crusade for christ thing in college, even went on a summer missions trip. my feelings now? organized religion, as marx said, is an opiate for the masses. fundamentalist christians (fundamental anything) are fighting to maintain the status quo - generally, they're pissed off because it's 2002, not 1850.

incidentally, i completely dig white women. that's all i'll date.
iconic Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 10:16:52 (PDT)

I did not write the following message:

"Hi AzN-aKiRa-21=)"
Tuesday,June25,2002 at 11:25:23(PDT)

Someone wrote the message to this person. I did not write it. Someone used my S/N. I don't know Azn akira to even have such strong negative opinions about this person. Whovever did this was being childish. I said in one of my first post to A Korean Man about my background. Just because I have an itallian father and a hungarian mother doesn't mean anything. I speak perfect english and I was raised in the United States and I understand American culture VERY clearly. I am an american citizen. So everyone should clearly see this is another childish name imposter. Disregard this persons fake posts.

A Korean Man,
Yes I understand itallian! :)
cool! You speak it very well!!!

prima ballerina Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 09:59:34 (PDT)

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