Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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HappyClam,

I saw your pictures. They are very very nice. I love your little boy! Hes so sweet. Looking at your pictures made me really even more excited about having my baby. I don't know yet if its a boy or a girl. People in my family always try and guess. They say that since the cat is always trying to get away from me, that its a boy. Its really hard to tell. I think its cool how you still managed to stay so slim after having your son. I hope I lose all of this pregnancy fat too. Whoever said you are big is lying. You are very small, and look very good. This will be my first child, I hope I lose absolutely all of the weight. I will be really happy then. I guess the most important thing is that I have a healthy baby. When you were pregnant with your son, did you know in your heart he was going to be a boy already? My sister said she could tell that she was pregnant with a girl in her 3rd month. She could be bluffing!LOL
miserable Samantha Wednesday, July 24, 2002 at 12:25:07 (PDT)

Withheld,
Does she know that you like her? It does not seem like she knows. Have you told her before?
I know that Buddhist organization well and most of the members are pretty nice and compassionate. The reason she is inviting you to chant is because she cares for you.
I think you really have to question her motives for being so hard on you and for visiting you in the first place.
Either way wish you the best of luck.
bulletproof Wednesday, July 24, 2002 at 12:19:14 (PDT)

I was dating an AM for 2 years. We had great communication with each other, and so many things in common. He proposed marriage to me 4 weeks ago on cruise we took to the carribean. We talked about moving in together and changing jobs. When we got back home he stopped calling me on the phone. Then I would call him and keep getting his answering machine. I went to his house and his car is hardly there. And when it is there, he doesn't answer the door. I called his job the other day and they said hes not accepting any phone calls.
This morning I checked my messages and saw a payphone number. He left a message saying he changed his mind and doesn't want to see me anymore. I don't know what I did wrong. I feel terrible. If he didn't want me, why did he give me this ring? He won't even talk to me. If he would just talk to me and tell me what I did wrong. He won't even pick up the phone. A friend of mine told me that she saw him with his arm around someone at Macy's. I don't really believe that story. I think she is just jealous because she never has a boyfriend.
very confused Wednesday, July 24, 2002 at 09:32:40 (PDT)

Impartial Observer,
I happen to think that Ionic has an attractive face. I love his lips especially. Hes cute. Have you seen Derek2000's picture? Hes the one with the face that is nothing to write home about. Ionic is a very cute guy. Derek2000 is not. He looks NOTHING like Chow Yun Fat! NO WAY! Chow Yun Fat is HOT HOT HOT!

Lady,
Are you sure your not a guy?
or maybe a gay female?
>:) its me again! anyone miss me? I could care less! ha! Wednesday, July 24, 2002 at 06:44:51 (PDT)

Hi friends,

This is Christian Guy. For those interested, I have a few photos on the internet site: http://community.webshots.com/user/swaneagle2002

I do not care about being cool. I dress the way I want to, i.e. shirt, pen in pock, dress pants, dress shoes, every where I go. I could not care less if some girls think I am nerd looking. I weigh 160lbs, 5'8".
I do not care about growing muscles either!
Christian Guy Wednesday, July 24, 2002 at 03:00:07 (PDT)

Lady,

I still love to carry a pen in my shirt pocket, especially pretty ones. I love people buy me an expensive pen as a birth date gift. As for the clothe I wear, I never wear jeans, I always wear dress pants. I never wear sweaters, I always wear shirts with buttons. In my profession, it is not acceptable to wear sweaters and jeans to work. Besides, I feel the fabric quality of jeans too hard, i.e. does not feel comfortable. I think shirts with buttons on look nice. I think pen in my pocket is extremely convenient when signing credit cards, cheques, write down someone's phone number, etc. When I am outside doing yard work, I have a green pants that I wear in the hospital. It is loose, extremely confortable, and easy to wash. I know what you mean! Thanks for your advice though! My brother is the one who told me I look nerdy or else I would never know it. He is a dentist and has a masters degree in gingivitis research. See, not all smart people look nerdy. Thanks for your advice.

WF and all females should explore some "nerdy" guys, ex. doctors, engineers, lawyers, pharmacists, and computer programmers. Some of them are actually quite nice and honest.

P.S. By the way, some people still think Bill Gates is nerdy!!!
Christian Guy Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 22:34:55 (PDT)

sobanoodle,

I know this is a late response to your posting from Friday, July 19, 2002, but I was back-tracking through various comments made on this forum, I felt I had to respond to the last thign you said on the above date.

You asked, "[Do]AM expect females they date to be as intelligent as they are?"
All I can say to this is that I think this is one of those things that should not be a question addressed to any whole group of people. Like ny type of man, AMs want intelligent women as much or as little as any type of man. Some do appresiate it, and some AM are shallow and don't care about that. ---But not to the degree greater or lesser than any other type of man. I welcome questions from you and others with your type of questions, so I do not berate you for your question, but again, as I have said before on this forum, one really shouldn't see AM as being so different than any other males personality-wise. We AM are as capable of creating, as we are destroying. We can have 'beautiful minds', but we can be very cruel. We can be as sensitve and thoughtful, as we can be clueless and self-centered. Perhaps we do do some things differently. But regardless of how we go about it, our minds share the same collective consciousness as anyone else. I hope you ignore your apprehension and go for that guy you like so much. I'm not saying that because he and I are asian. I'm saying it because you seem to like very much. So go get him! And good luck!
Steven Empyrean20@aol.com Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 20:41:55 (PDT)

to: jade

"As a WF I agree that celebrities such as Gwen and Gweneth are beautiful women, but I have to disagree with your selection of Lopez and Knowles. I don't think they are that attractive. They both have abnormally huge rear ends."

those are physical traits of the average black and latina women, Whites are lacking in the rear end area, that's probably why a woman with an fine big booty like j'lo's and beyonce are though of as being "abnomally large"
However, white men LOVE that big booty j'lo.

maria Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 20:32:27 (PDT)

wfsd -

i'm not trying to advertise. again, i put stuff up because i think it's always nice to put a face to the name. no one's making you look.

you don't think i know that i'm attractive? the last thing i need is your approval. i would have thought that my individuality would have been apparent from my recent posts but, unfortunately, it's lost on you. i don't use my attractiveness, or my asian-ness, to define me. it's called individuality - you should look into it.

>It has nothing to do with your background, its just your behavior. Noone has to accuse you, they can see it immediately

so you can divine my nature from a couple of posts on an anonymous board.
you should find some way to bottle that and sell it. i especially like the fact that you still haven't provided hard evidence of me being 'white-washed' after i explicitly challenged you to do so. so what else can you tell me about me?

please, if someone can provide hard evidence that i've acted 'white-washed,' let me know. apparently, wfsd is more comfortable speaking in generalities.

now i think you should post a picture of yourself with your supposed boyfriend. i'm curious to see insecurity incarnate.

bostonian - you shouldn't hang out with anyone self-centered, asian or not.

impartial observer - you insist on making blanket statements based on questionable observation. how have i pretended to be something i'm not? what am i pretending to be? hard evidence would be nice here.

thanks for the advice, though - i'll try not to let emotion cloud my judgement the next time i attempt to address ignorance. if you can provide evidence of how i've been unable to keep my cool...you know the drill.

you've made the incorrect assumption that i care what you think. don't hate me because i'm me, hate me because you're not.

believe me - i have PLENTY of faults, but real confidence is one thing i'm not lacking.
iconic Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 19:25:57 (PDT)

impartial observer, do you have a picture of yourself> if you don't then don't comment on another person's looks. if you think you can look better than he does, then why don't you post up your picture? ah, that's what i thought, ur too ugly. I get really annoyed by "anonymous jerks" like you on this board, those who only know how to talk the talk but can't walk the walk. you're all talk. interesting how you don't comment on those other ladies' pictures but you choose to comment on this goodlooking asian boy's. by the way, i was just checking up on this board to see what was going on and i just noticed something that struck out at me, thats all. i have nothing else to say. bye
Auburn Haired Lady Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 17:16:34 (PDT)

SOG,

you mean americanized german girls right?? not native/true germans. i would be surprised if they are open to interracial dating/marriage. there are a lot of racial issues in germany such as anti-immigrantion views that still abounds today. remember when boris becker, a german tennis player, married an african american women... the news media were up in arms, questioning why he had married a black american and not a german...

also, i went to germany w/ my family to visit (the whole european trip thing) and boy did we get stared at. it was like they were witnessing an asian exhibit. i definately did not feel comfortable. another thing, i didn't find the women there too attractive.

however, we did stop in switzerland and that place is magnificent. people were open and friendly and the women there are very beautiful. they actually smile at tourists :)

oh yeah, find a way to post your hot girlfriend. i gotta see it to believe it. have her hold a newspaper w/ the date shown...like a ransom picture. :) haha, just kidding :)
show me the money Tuesday, July 23, 2002 at 13:47:04 (PDT)

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