Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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As a WF who has dated a Korean, a Fillipino, a Chinese man, an Indian, and a half Vietnamese man, I am starting to agree with Size 2; Asian men are more arrogant. I don't know if it to mask some deep rooted self-esteem issues that resulted from growing up in a predominately white society or what, but I'm thinking I may need to make my way back to white men. They've treated me a whole lot better in the past.
yummy blonde Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 08:24:44 (PDT)

To the females;
Question!!
Does girls expectation of a man change when they grow up [older]? From my experience, girls at age 11 all seems to be interested in guy's look. But as they grow older they seems to care about other stuff such as money, power and certain quality [personality, dress code, height, hygiene, sense of humor, outgoiness, productive, popularity, etc] of a man. It's this true? Or does young girls by age 11 to 17 already has standard like this? I'm a man and can't possibly know how a women think, so it is why I asked. I'm young, early 20 and for some strange reason I had attracted some young girls, between age 11 to 17. I also attracted older women [around my age]as well [I guess less frequent maybe b/c they open up less].

P.s I just hope I had more women my age open up!!
Azn-Pride Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 07:30:09 (PDT)

Balinese Guy,

Come on now. Do you really expect me to believe your story? I have been to Bali. I have met many people there. I am not making this story up. I have been to that place. Some women have even gone to the press about their financial losses and heartbreak, its so bad over there. It is good to hear that you are doing well for yourself. But you know just as well as I the reality, lets just be honest. You know what I am talking about. Don't try to pretend like this is a very small number of men who do this sort of thing. I would say half the population on the island are gigolos'. I know it sounds terrible, but this is very real. No one should trust Balinese men or the culture. It is very deadly. I have a hard time believing that all asian men don't fall into this pattern. If a woman opens her heart up to these men, she risks severe disappointment and heartbreak, and STDs'. I still have an attraction to asian men's outward appearance. They can be very beautiful men. But they treat women horrible. I came here to read some views other women had about them. I have read some positive things written. It puzzles me, and sparks curiousity in this fascination with them.
I am just being brutally honest. Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 06:43:58 (PDT)

sony computers,

no, the truth is that most eastern asians grow up from middle-upper to upper class families here, and have supportive parents that would financially support their kids until they get married. whites on the other hand have to be on their own much ealier in their lives than asians.

do u know that on average, an asian teenager spends 20k buying his first car while an average white kid only spends around 5k?

do u know that most asian girls worship high-priced brand clothes(channel, prada, gucci, etc) at an early age? (most of the white girls i see don't wear these)

asians have come a long way from being looked down at as poor, low-skilled resturaunt workers and house cleaners.
only until recent decades have asians gained economic status in this age. so, a lot of us would highly value our personal acheivements and equities; sometimes, even show it to others.

this is just like the black rappers in the music videos driving ferraris and bentleys, showing their multi-million dollar houses and their hot women.
high jack Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 21:10:19 (PDT)

size 2 wf, Sony Computers

as an asian guy, i would like to apologize for narcissistic/conceited guys like that. no shame at all. they ruin it for us humble guys

"I have my WHITE friends, my BLACK friends and my ITALIAN friends"

people like this have ulterior motives. who classifies their friends like this? he must think he's achieved some kind of superior status among the asian community. these guys are trash. seriously, whose mind works this way? you're sick if you do.
jared Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 17:52:07 (PDT)

So, this poll basically indicates that the biggest factor preventing AM/WF couples is that they don't think the opposite party will find them attractive? How funny! And yet, I've always believed it...
An Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 16:48:06 (PDT)

size 2 and Sony,
Sorry that you met a shallow guy, who just happened to be asian. There are gazillian asian guys in the world, they can't all be arrogant and conceited simply because they are asian males. In fact for any relationship to work at all, (even same race), it's much more realistic to understand each person from a individual level instead of judging from preconceived notions and perceptions. Any relationship will fail if we are busy chasing our own illusion of what the other person should be rather than understanding and accepting the other person as who he/she is, black, white or yellow. So instead of thinking about dating asian guy, it better to set out looking for a "decent guy" regardless of ethnicity.
ranmasaotome darrengoh@mindspring.com Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 14:07:14 (PDT)

"his car, motorcycle, hot tub, places he's been, you name it."

mmmm size 2 wf, if you don't want his telephone number, can i have it! what are you complaining about? this asian guy sounds like a great catch. there's nothing wrong for a female to be attracted to a man who is financially set.
sexy blonde Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 10:44:38 (PDT)

To trip to bali:

Hi there,
First of all, I would like to introduce my self. I am a single Balinese male who have been living in the United States for more than 10 years ( I am 28 yo). I currently live in Jackson, Mississippi and work for a local venture capital company ( although I have been living in most of US continent). I have been working here in the US as a professional, mostly as Financial Analyst for several America's bigest corporation. I hold two master degrees from one of the nation's most elite business schools. I am also an Ex- Mr. Jakarta in 1994 and used to be a professional balinese "Baris" dancer when i was younger. However, for confidentiality reason, I can't disclose my name.

Anyway, I would like to change some of the images/ impression that you have on Balinese male. It is true that some of us have chosen a different path on their life. But, The majority of Balinese people are well known for their integrity in their life, work real hard to achieve their goal and also honest. So, I guess it'd be very misleading to say that ALL Balinese male are gigolo and that they are all cheaters and liars.

If y'all ever need to find a husband who could provide you peace, happiness, wealth and prestige in life, then I could assure you one. Let me know if you have any question.
Balinese Guy spectralanalyst@yahoo.com Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 09:47:26 (PDT)

size 2 wf,

Most asian men are arrogant the way the guy at the gym was. I have learned that they are raised to think they are superior to others at a very young age. If you notice most of the asian men you encounter, you will see exactly the same behavior. It may not be as severe, but I guarrantee that it is very close to the same attitude. Its really a shame that they behave this way. But it is very true.
Sony Computers Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 07:34:17 (PDT)

size 2 wf,

Damn, that guy sounds conceited as hell. Sounds like hes one of the player type guys from the Fast and furious. Doesn't seem too intelligent either. Oh well, atleast now you know...it just wasn't meant to be.

good luck
Big Dave Monday, August 05, 2002 at 19:08:40 (PDT)

Virginie can sleep in my bed any day,
Thanks for sharing your pic with us. And your question is great, I'm glad you asked. Thanks!!
WF are wonderful and can look nice in everyway they come. Whether their hair is brown, black, blonde, or red. It is all beautiful.
Azn-Pride Monday, August 05, 2002 at 15:29:35 (PDT)

SIZE 2,
Please reconsider not approaching Asian males first. Don't let this one 'player' sour you to all the nice, regular Asian guys out there(which most of us are). I hate when jerks and guys too full of themselves spoil things and what could be the beginnings of truly meaningful relationships. Just give us a chance and approach us.
Asian Admirer Monday, August 05, 2002 at 13:43:44 (PDT)

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