Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:29:00 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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curious girl,

I have always enjoyed your positivity.I I admire that about you, because I know that sometimes I am not always so positive. Some people have thought I was maybe a bit opinionated and stubborn. I can understand how you feel. I get tired of the people against us being with asian men. I do not understand it. I don't feel that way toward asian women being with white men? So why do they have this feeling toward us? I hate to admit it, but I get most hostility from asian women who think they own asian men. For some reason there are alot of them who hate to see white women with asian men. I don't quite understand it. I am not speaking bad about them. I am only saying this is what I have been dealing with in my life.
don't worry, your not alone curious girl Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 10:41:56 (PDT)

I just moved here to Tokyo with my lover. I don't know anyone here. I can't speak Japanese, only a few tiny phrases. I feel so sad. I cry all the time because I miss my friends and family. My lover keeps telling me that I will feel better in the future. I cry and sleep most of the day. His mother said that I need to eat something otherwise I will get sick. I can't eat, because I am too sad and lonely all of the time. We are moving to Nagasaki in a short time.
:o( are there any wfs' also living in Japan? Was it hard for you to learn Japanese? What do you do for fun? How do you keep from feeling sad missing your family? Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 09:07:15 (PDT)

Curious girl,

You have the right idea. You and your bf are a good match simply for being open-minded.. It is good that you have gone past the superficial stuff (i.e. She is a hot blonde white chick, or he is a good looking Asian dude.)

I am AM and my wife is WF. We have been married for two years and are expecting our first baby in six months. We have been together for a total of four years.

Naturally, when we first met the initial attraction was purely physical.. But we learned to love each other for who we are inside and not for the outward appearance..

Everytime I am with my wife I do not see myself as being with a "white chick", just with someone I love with all my heart.. Good luck to your relationship..
Joel Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 06:04:23 (PDT)

curious girl

I think it is important how you look at yourselves, but not how others look at you. I have been dating a few Caucasian women in my romantic life and have always looking at ourselves as a couple and nothing else. But as long as you in the eyes of the media, you will be labled. If not a Asian couple then it would be a white couple or a Black couple, or a White and Asian couple. You guys look good together. Looking at your picture I can feel a strong connection between you two. If you love that man and he loves you then I don't think how people think would bother you at all.

I am just a guy with the same feeling.
Bostonian Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 05:52:00 (PDT)

Heheh... understood, Ed. Get on Google, everyone!
Asian horndog Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 01:50:56 (PDT)

i have just started dating a caucasian female and i have noticed alot of negative comments directed towards my gf and i. whether it be in lecture halls or just walking on the street.
i want to know what's the best way to deal with these comments.
seeking advice Tuesday, August 13, 2002 at 21:26:16 (PDT)

Well I think chinese people have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen, but then I think I enjoy speaking to christian american born chinese because I was hurt pretty badly by a native born chinese guy who was in a rush to get his green card. The thing is that he wasn't a christian and I realize that christian asian guys are probably not like that. I hope.
Lila Lila_jane_98@yahoo.com Tuesday, August 13, 2002 at 20:08:17 (PDT)

Hey Max
Its our ettique on this board to post your photo as a new board member.
Post it.

Steven
nicely said
Book'em Dano! Tuesday, August 13, 2002 at 19:08:49 (PDT)

curious girl

I agree with you. I was never conscious of race when I was in a relationship and, quite frankly, never thought two winks about it until my mom made a big to-do about it one day.

I don't think you're being negative (towards Asian men, which is what I think all those "don't be negative" remarks were directed at). It's a valid point. How are you supposed to have a fulfilling relationship when all you see in your partner is his or her color? I think it's precisely that kind of race-consciousness that leads some of the earlier posters to say blatantly racist things like "they're all bad" when things don't go well in their relationships.
JJP Tuesday, August 13, 2002 at 18:12:47 (PDT)

curious girl,

I can relate to what you are saying exactly. If something bad happens once and awhile (like an argument) I don't use his race to say "oh, you are all so arrogant" or something like that. I always look at him as an individual and not from "x" country. It is saddening to see that ppl have so much hostility sometimes but there are different factors for this behavior (bad experiences, media, etc). I just hope one day we can all just be "couples" and not be put into different racial categories... We don't see each other as different. When I look at him, he is my boyfriend and best friend not a race.
Lotus ^.^ Tuesday, August 13, 2002 at 16:56:21 (PDT)

Hey,
If I offended anyone with my last post, I apolizge. I can't sleep thinking for the past two days that I might have offended some of you. So to those whose's offended [m/f], "SORRY" goes especially to you, yummy Blonde included. Forum police, get out now was, and we don't want you here was an exaggeration. Didn't mean it.

P.s- I wish you guys and girls best of Luck in all that you do. To all the wonderful ladies [WF] here, don't feel bad cause all of you are just simply the best. And so, A LOT OF LOVE goes to you.
sincerity from <== == Azn-Pride Tuesday, August 13, 2002 at 14:13:05 (PDT)

Yummy Blonde,
If your still here. I want you to know that we support you all the way. What ever choice you make, it's fine. And if you ever have any question, want to share experience or needs advice, your always welcome to share it with us. We will be happy to respond to you.

To the wonderful ladies,

P.S, together we are bestfriends and are like brother and sister, so don't feel awkward posting with us. This goes to all the wonderful and lovely WF out there.
All WF, you ladies are wonderful [AM] Tuesday, August 13, 2002 at 13:36:50 (PDT)

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