Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:29:00 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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o( are there any wfs' also living in Japan? Was it hard for you to learn Japanese? What do you do for fun? How do you keep from feeling sad missing your family?

I think anyone who moves such a great distance from their homeland goes through these stages - perfectly normal. I moved 6,000 miles away from my own country - from England to USA - leaving all my family and friends behind. Admittedly, there was no language barrier I had to overcome, but there are still many differences in communication, spelling, and the culture. It will help you to keep contact with you family and friends, but you must force yourself to get out and about.

I encourage you to take Japanese lessons - I have taken a year of this language at college and it is a very beautiful language. (The added benefit being you will also learn Kanji which are the Chinese characters - I believe the meaning is the same, but the pronounciation is not and I'm sure I'll be corrected on this if I'm wrong). Japanese was not easy for me, but I was determined, and I think it is easier to live in the culture where you will have plenty of opportunity to practice the language, rather than just in a classroom setting.

I have visited Japan and there is so much history there - the people, both male and female, were very kind and gracious to me. I have some fantastic female Japanese friends.
You will have to force yourself to get out and about. Enjoy this opportunity -many people would love to be in your position.
Have you ever considered teaching English there?
The food is fantastic too!
Good luck -
Samantha Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 11:10:09 (PDT)

Hi seeking advice,

Check out this site. Hope this helps. But to me, if I ever fall into the same situation, I would think that I step on poo. And what do you do when you step on poo? You wipe it off and walk away form it. You don't stand there and argue or fight with it.

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Bostonian Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 05:32:02 (PDT)

Max, and anyone else who is curious.

Hey guys, I can't remember if I wrote down my angency's website for anybody who was curious what I looked like. If I did write down, great! If not, then here it is. www.actorsinaction.com click on the talent link, then click on the men link and I'm #215. I should be the only asian male on the first page.

Latez

Max
Max orgazmo83@hotmail.com Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 00:13:26 (PDT)

I'm sure Asian guys pop in and out of racial consciousness. In some contexts, "race" becomes an issue, and it "pops" right in; in other contexts, "race" is not an issue, and it "pops" right out.

In dating a white girl, the Asian guy sees the girl, initially, as a "white" girl, and then later on, as particular personality. The critical moment arrives when the charm of her "race" wears off, and he has to ponder whether he can really endure the thought of living with this personality for the rest of his life.
The Truth on Racial Consciousness Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 20:55:21 (PDT)

The thing I don't understand, and I think it really is a paradox is why are people so negative when they see an AM/WF couple, but don't care when they see a BM/WF couple? There are 1000x more BM/WF couples than AM/WF couples, so what gives? AMs are "whiter" than BMs. Wouldn't people think it is better for WFs to be with AMs than with BMs? I guess white guys are scared that the BMs will kick their asses. Well, I am not a weak AM. I will kick any white guy's ass if he gets in my way. AMs and WFs should not care what others think, especially AFs. AFs blew it by selling themselves out a long time ago. WMs can't control "their" WFs like AMs can't control "their" AFs. I guess white people in general have screwed up logic.
Mr Paradox Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 19:38:23 (PDT)

Hi everyone, thanks for all the nice responses. I haven't posted in a while because my b/f and I were on vacation in the Caribbean (had a fabulous time!) but I truly think the people on this forum are some of the most sincere, caring people of the whole site.

"We don't see each other as different. When I look at him, he is my boyfriend and best friend not a race."

I feel exactly the same way Lotus!

Bostonian, thanks for the compliment! I think we look great together too. :) Our relationship is strong, and no I don't care that much what other people think of us.

To "don't worry", thanks for your support. I have also gotten some hostility from Asian women on this site, especially in the "AM seeking out non-Asian women" forum where some AFs are "laying claim" to "their" Asian men. As though anyone owned anyone! Ugh it makes me so mad.

seeking advice- what do people say to you exactly? I say if it's something minor just let it go, it's not worth your time. But if you truly feel insulted stand up for yourself and tell them where they can go.
curious girl Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 19:24:36 (PDT)

hi,

after a breakup out of a serious relationship, i went buck wild with white girls. yes, they are different.
much more chill (not all, just the ones i was attracted to), was always infatuated with anything asian, and was usually pretty kinky.

honestly, the kinky thing is wut scared me off. and the fact that they did not like korean food too much. and also, i found that the most fun i had with them was either sex, or walking around with them in public. ok... byebye
rah-rah Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 18:14:58 (PDT)

Have any of you ladies dated black men before dating your Asian man? Was the backlash toward your being with a black much stronger than it is being with an Asian man? I'm curious to know. I thought that being with a white woman would be no big deal in comparison to a white with a black, but that hasn't been the case... we still get stares and even nasty comments. This s*** pisses me off.
FTAH Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 16:43:44 (PDT)

Lila,

Have we met before?
Christian Guy Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 13:19:30 (PDT)

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