Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:28:56 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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[Deng Ai and his anti-AF blithering is hereby banned from this page. So let's not get sidetracked. --Ed]

Deng Ai,

Then for all intents and purposes, YOU could be attractive, "for a Chinaman". Geez bro, you sound pathetic. If everyone judged others by a completely Eurocentric scale of attractiveness, then you yourself would be considered slighlty above average at best, simply because you have golden skin and black eyes and hair. You don't have blonde hair and blue eyes, therefore you couldn't be considered attractive in your own eyes. You must suffer from a crippilng case of an inferiority complex.
U got issues man Friday, August 23, 2002 at 00:44:53 (PDT)

Deng Ai.

"Maybe the girl is pretty good looking for an Asian girl, but in an absolute sense, she may not be all that good looking."

--Oh COME ON!!!! I'm not surprised that this came from you. You constantly complain all over this website about AFs that never gave you a fair chance to start with, yet you judge AFs by a Euro-centric standard of beauty and thus negate their worth as women as sexual beings. At least thats what I thought when you said "for an Asian girl"... a phrase thats very familiar to me for a reason that I'll explain.

I may be reading into this somewhat, but I think that you've been hurt by AFs before and are angry at them. Maybe it wasn't a personal rejection, but the hurt you felt to your ego when you read/saw things that made you, an AM, feel unwated and attractive. I know how that is, b/c I felt the same way too. I was bitter as hell about it, and treated every AF I met like scum, only went after WFs etc.. I wisened up in time, and feel a great sense of shame when I think of my youth. I felt like a petty child and felt like I was a hamster on a wheel, constantly racing for something that would validate me as a man, as an Asian. That cannot come from any animate/inanimate thing like fat wallets, trophy girlfriends, or fancy degrees. It comes from INSIDE A MAN. You determine your self-worth, not some chick with blonde hair (with all due respect for the WFs here).

I have dated WFs, and in past only dated WFs. I was missing out b/c I was only chasing after a skin color, a hair color. As pretty as blue eyes and blonde hair is, a woman's worth and personality and values/goals in life is much more important. In fact, its infinitely more important. My future wife could for all I know, be a green-eyed woman with kinky, curly hair and mocha skin. who knows. Or maybe a cute Asian woman with straight jet-black hair. Or a redhead. I'm now a wiser man and am more openmined.

Please, stop being such a bitter self-hating person. It's not worth it. Sure you are entitled to your own opinions, but there is such a thing as misguided or stupid opinions, judging by universal standards of decency and self-respect.
Grow up bro.... be a bigger man. Forgive and move on. Friday, August 23, 2002 at 00:41:01 (PDT)

Deng Ai-

Thanks for that great insight! When I look at men, I will also "compare" (using the term loosly) them to each other, race non-withstanding so it's normal any male would compare all females as well.

You wrote "Maybe you are comparing this AF with the typical AFs you�ve seen in real life"

Actually, when I see someone I consider good-looking, be she Asian or not I don't only compare the woman in question with others of her own race. For example there could be a WF standing next to a AF and I could look at them both and find one better looking than the other.

Also in my case (for men) they can sometimes be the most handsome guys ever but I will find them ugly if they are arrogant, ego-centristic, etc. I think looks can be important in attracting someone but there are always other factors. I knew a guy who used to find this woman fun & nice but in his words, 'butt-ugly'. He told me he would never ever date her. Now they are engaged, which shows beauty is not always everything... lol.

You also wrote "There have been scientific experiements that show infants also recognize beauty in facial preference tests that align with what society considers beautiful."

I did not know that... Very interesting! :)

To Samantha-

So sorry about the mix up!! There seems to be a few Samanthas around so I got a tad confused!! >_< I saw a travel show on the TV about Japan and it seems like such a great country... I would love to tour around the world a bit! (not to beaches, I don't find them interesting enough, I need history in my trips hehe) I am sure almost everyone would love to go around the world though! We are just missing $$$... *sigh*
Lotus ^.^ Thursday, August 22, 2002 at 16:01:12 (PDT)

Sue,
Sometimes guys are just absent-minded. How long was it since you last heard from him? Sometimes guys will not feel like contacting you for a while just because it's in our nature. We feel the need to be left alone and go off doing our thing (maybe it's part of the hunter instinct...??). I was in a club recently and a blond chick came over to ask me to dance. I was pretty intoxicated and before you know it I was grinding with her. But as soon as she turned around and said thank you,I figured I done my job and turned around and left. She might have been offended but it was nothing personal. I was tired and didn't feel like trying anything. She was cute (I think...I was intoxicated..and had a nice plump ass for sure.) The point is that guys are not emotional creatures the way a girl is, so don't read too much into it either way.
If he is serious, he will call you. I wouldn't advise calling him within the week to ask him why he hasn't called.That seems kind of nagging, a guy's worst nightmare. Maybe after 2 weeks you can give him a call to ask what's going on.
"I think most women prefer honesty to stupid games. I'm not saying that all AMs are this way, or that men of other races are perfect (hell no), but I'm getting so disappointed by this "mysterious" crap, and I'm not imagining it. Does anyone have any constructive insight on this?
Sue (I'm back)"
sean Thursday, August 22, 2002 at 14:59:04 (PDT)

To Max and Former Wait person:

my husband and I go to many different Chinese restaurants. Ones we frequent and that we are sort of "regulars" at, they do not bring me a fork,not anymore I should clarify. However, if there is a new wait person, or if it is a new restaurant, they almost always give everyone chopsticks and then present me with the shiney big fork.

I try to see it as perhaps they are wanting to make me comfortable since I am from a different culture, but in a way it really makes me feel different and sort of stand out.

My husband's cousin is Chinese, yet she prefers a fork and I think it is funny when she asks for a fork and they forget who asked and automatically bring it to me.

I don't make a big deal out of it, but it does make me feel a bit different when they do it, and I am the only one they give one to. I like to look at the positive as though they want me to be comfortable and eat with what they assume I am used to.

I think there has only been one time when I thought it was done out of racism. A waitress broguht me a fork and did not even look at me, I smiled and said "oh thats okay, thank you though" and she gave me a dirty look and gave a sort of smug disapproving look over at my husband and son. I usually give the benefit of the doubt, but I think I know when someone is being pissy with me.
hannybunbun Thursday, August 22, 2002 at 14:47:09 (PDT)

Curious Girl,

I happen to like long detailed answers to questions like the ones I ask on these polls. I post on several of them actually. I tend to post on the AM/WF, Chinese men/Chinese women, Chinese Men/Korean women, AM/LF, AM/BF, and WF/AM most often. If you get a chance you should see how someone named AC Girl inulted me on the Chinese men/Chinese women forum.

Anyway, sorry for getting off the subject. I think it's so great you and your bf are so in love with each other. If he is "The One", I wish the two of you nothing but the best of luck, love, good fortune, health, family, children, and prosperity. I hope if you do have children with him, the two of you will teach them how to speak chinese.

So there aren't that many AM/WF couples where you live? I'm just curious. What city do you guys live in?

No, I'm not currently dating a WF. My current girlfriend is Korean-Russian and she's really a great gal. My ex was a wf and most of them women I have dated were wf's. Like you, I've dated people from many races.

I'm chinese-american, born and raised in Portland, Oregon. I'm about 5'11", tan with a muscular build (I'm not saying it to be arrogant)I've been practicing martial arts and acting for about 8 years. If you want to see a pic of me you can go to my agency's website, www.actorsinaction.com Go to talent, then men, and I'm #215. I try to as open minded as possible for anything, but especially when it comes to friendship and dating.

I'm always very excited and eager to meet and get to know people from other countries and their perspectives on everything. Many people in the U.S. think life is just like it is here as it is everywhere else. Where in reality, life overseas can be very different then here in the U.S.

Sorry this is so long!

Latez
Max orgazmo83@hotmail.com Thursday, August 22, 2002 at 14:38:48 (PDT)

NotConfusedAsianDude & Curious Girl,

I think the real reason some WFs look at Confused Asian Dude is that they are thinking "I can probably beat him up".

Hahahaha.... I've seen some of the Midwestern Cornfed Cowgirls out here in So. Cali... and yeah, they probably could put a hurtin' on me.

In response to being a lil' harsh on ConfusedAsianDude. Yes, I could have chosen better words to get my POV across. But, I think everyone got the gist of my point. Now, if he said a lot of WF stop and talk to him, then I'd would say they're semi-interested, to say the least.

A point on height, my lil' bro who's all of 5'6" has dated many WF who were at least 2-4 inches taller. I don't think it's a problem if the girl is mature and doesn't let height get in the way. What people lack in height, they can easily make up with an ebulient personality.

But, in order to look deeper into a person, you have to get past the exterior. And for some, they can't see beyond the facade, which is their perogative.

Just gotta work with what God gave you and not worry about things that are beyond your control.
NotConfusedAsianDude Thursday, August 22, 2002 at 13:58:53 (PDT)

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