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ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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Hi Asian Doctor Love, thanks for sharing your story, you sound so happy and I'm happy for you. :) I agree that marriage is a very serious thing, and you should wait to find your true love first. That's great that her family accepted you so readily.
Hi Max, I'm 25 and my b/f is 27. We've been together for three years. I was really nervous to meet his parents, but his family has been very warm and receptive to me. I think it's helped that I show an interest in their culture and language and customs and food. My family loves him to bits, they are just happy for me that I found a man that is so smart and together and successful and nice, and they see how well he treats me. They couldn't care less what race he is.
Well, I had sort of a relationship with a Vietnamese guy when I was about 13, we were friends, but we actually had secret crushes on each other, nothing came of it. I just thought of him as I did any other guy- he was cute and smart and nice. And then when I was 18 I dated a Korean man for almost 2 years. I don't think I really had any pre-conceieved notions about what Asian men would be like, except that I had some vague fear that Asian men would be physically controlling and expect me to stay at home and cook and clean, basically very old-fashioned. I'm not sure where I got this idea, and I certainly hope that I'm not offending any of you! I have of course since learned that not all Asian men are like that, and there are certainly men of other races that do treat women very badly. (I've seen it happen to friends). And while my boyfriend is very frugal (not stingy) it's a good thing, he doesn't spend money on things he doesn't need, and he plans for the future, which is a wonderful trait.
curious girl
Wednesday, August 28, 2002 at 12:04:16 (PDT)
Curious Girl,
I was just wondering when you first started dating asians, did it raise some questions that never came up when you dated other types of men? For instance, I know some caucasian girls who didnt' really know any asians before they knew me and had seen "Joy Luck Club" too many times, and thought all asian men treat their women horribly, and were very stingy. I had to show them that in reality its quite the opposite. Well, every race has its bad seeds of course.
Did you ever face any criticism for dating an asian? From what you tell me about our bf, he probably has the special power to change people's perspectives. How did both of you and your bf's parents react to the two of you dating compared to how they view the two of you now? Also, how long have you been together? How old are the two of you?
Max orgazmo83@hotmail.com
Wednesday, August 28, 2002 at 11:00:41 (PDT)
Curious Girl,
My wife and I met four years ago at a local health club. I asked her to go to Friday's. One thing led to another and we became a steady couple. I was attracted to her physically when we first met. Her long blonde hair, deep blue eyes, beautiful face and sexy body sent tingling sensation up and down my spine. As time went by I realized she was marriage material. We had similar beliefs in religion, politics, family values. The only thing DID NOT have in common was that I loved sushi and she hated seafood.
I was initially apprehensive by the fact she was from a different background culturally and racially. I wondered how her parents and siblings would view me. I live in Northeast Pennsylvania and there are very few Asians here, and I often wondered if her family has had any exposure with "outsiders." (I am Filipino if you are wondering.) I met her family within a few weeks of dating her. The more I got to know her, the more I got to know her family as well. They are down to earth people and they did not care what I was. In fact, we have a family get-together every Wednesday, and some people just can't believe how close I am to my in-laws.
I've dated WF's before because I admit that I was more attracted to them than any other race. I guess you can say I had a white fetish. But my wife (who was my gf at the time) was the only one whom I was truly compatible. I proposed to my wife after six months of going out. We were engaged for over a year before we finally got married. I brought her to California twice so she could meet my parents and relatives. My parents are conservative, but they are not the stereo-typical Asian parents who want their kids to marry within their race. My parents welcomed her with open arms needless to say. We've been married for two years and we are having our first baby in six months.
So the moral of the story is that skin color & facial features are nothing but a blanket to one's heart and soul. If people want to date just for the physical enjoyment of it then it's cool. But if people start thinking about getting married and settling down, then it's imperative that they find their true soul mate - interracial or not - and not rush getting married just for the sake of it. I've been blessed because I can honestly say I found mine.
Asian Doctor Love
Wednesday, August 28, 2002 at 08:45:14 (PDT)
Jon Jon, I'm the girl you're talking about. I'm been thinking of your all these years....
Wake up, this is your father. what's wrong with you! (excerpt from Saturday Night Live - Adam Sandler - the guy who couldn't get over it)
wake up dude
Tuesday, August 27, 2002 at 12:26:58 (PDT)
Jon Jon you must be joking.
You give a girl a candle in the first grade, don't talk to her, don't know her, but yet you call her out of the blue because you needed a prom date eleven years later?
Of course, she went with you because she'd just broken up with her boyfriend and you showed up just in time for her to use you and make her ex-boyfriend jealous.
Now you're still having a critical obession about this girl three years later!
In the movie A.I. that little robot boy wanted his mother to love him no matter what and I thought that was spooky behavior and so are yours.
Jon Jon the Blue Fairy don't exist and you need to move on with your life.
Do you think, this beautiful blonde has spent the last 3 years of her life even thinking about you? Do you think she has not dated other men because of you?
I agree with you, you are going nuts.
Tuesday, August 27, 2002 at 08:18:49 (PDT)
Hi Asian Doctor Love, (cool name)
I'd love to hear about how you and your wife met, how long you've been married, whether or not you have kids, what difficulties you've faced regarding your relationship. If you don't mind!
curious girl
Tuesday, August 27, 2002 at 06:38:28 (PDT)
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