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ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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Steven, I hear you man.
I'm not a woman, but I have noticed it too. Most Asians who have relationships with WF's are taller, but it does not mean that they generally meant it to be like that. Most are at least 3 to 5 inches taller than the female.
Actually some women prefer shorter men.
Most women prefer taller men, but they do not on average prefer men over 6 foot 6. That is just too tall for most American women who average 5 feet 4 inches without heals. Only 26% of American women want their prince charming to be over 6 foot 5- 6 foot 6.
Any taller will be a turn off, but some use their personality and wit as their weapon. Some have the dough and the smooth talk.
Height is not an issue; there's a lady for everyone
Monday, September 02, 2002 at 09:41:53 (PDT)
[68.96.110.59]
Steven,
It's just one or two inches. As long as you are around 5'9", I don't think its such a large problem.
But, you have to be realistic. If you're 5'10" and only average looking, you will probably only get attention from average white women. If you are built well on top of that, then you proabably have a slight edge. If you dress well, and are articulate/witty, then that is a definate advantage. If you're handsome to top it off, then hey, you are set... game, set, match.
=)
I am 5'8". I am not tall but I have a cute face (or so I hear... =P), and I dress perfectly and work out enough so that I have good posture (the key is a large, WIDE back and good arms... they make you look larger). People often guess I'm an inch taller. I get attention from pretty decent to great looking women of most races, probably with the exception of the very good-looking black women, who I think tend to place greater emphasis on height and very large build. It's all good, I have my hands full enough as it is.
Btw, I think that men under 5'7" are at a definate disadvantage. Guys that are 5'7" - 5'9" have it okay with white girls, guys that are taller than 5'11" definately have an edge, especially if they are good looking or are well
"put-together".
This is how the game is played.
Monday, September 02, 2002 at 09:17:18 (PDT)
[128.253.186.46]
Max:
I did one better. I watched "Joy Luck Club" with a white girlfriend at the time and though she watched it before I did, she wanted to watch it with me.
I must say that stupid movie setback the Asian Male perspective even further back to the Ming Dynasty in terms of how we treat women in general. Like we had any honor or dignity left to begin with here in the states. Amy Tan is not the end all and Oprah hearseer of what Asian and Asian American culture should be. In fact her perspectives and books set back AM/AF relationships several centuries. Most of her writings are biased and untrue. She's a Fiction Writer for g's sake. That movie did a disservice to us and Asians in general.
The only people who cried at that stupid movie were the Asian females with their White boyfriends. I was the only one as a AM/WF couple and we got stared at by everyone especially me! It was great to tell her my side of the story to her. I told her not to believe this "victim me, Woe is me" crap in that movie and that she wrote that book to get at the Asian males in general that's why she married white anyways. No Asian guy would give her the damn time or day.
She was cool because she listened to me and understood the conspiracy surrounding the oppression of Asian Males in this society. She noticed too that we tend to get bad service in white resturants and how some people in this country still can't accept AM/WF relationships but WM/AF relationships are HOHUM, just another day, you need a sock with your shoe? type attitude.
She was great because she wasn't like a AF who would've said, "SEE, SEE I told you how it is like in the movies if you date or with an Asian Man" No, she was able to distingush fact from fiction and know that there is good and bad in everyone and it is not race specific.
So it was nice for a change to tell someone how things really are and not be told off or be snickered at had she was a Asian female.
JB
Monday, September 02, 2002 at 03:13:13 (PDT)
[199.174.233.152]
Steven,
I for one have never thought of it that way! I'm 5'6 and my bf is 5'8 (so he is taller) but when I wear some shoes with heels I am taller than he is! I tease him and all but it dosen't bother me... hehe! Even if he was shorter than me I think it's more important on what kind of person he is... but what can I say. Some girls just WANT the guy to be taller... you guys are supposed to be strong and protect us from all evil no? Just kidding...! ;-)
Lotus ^.^
Sunday, September 01, 2002 at 21:51:23 (PDT)
[207.134.91.151]
"You see, those sellout Asian women would not rub it off on the weaker or more nerdy-looking Asian guys. They do it to the more tough or good looking ones."
and what makes you think you qualify, bro? seriously, you have some issues to work out before you honestly have any real chance of having a meaningful relationship with any girl of any ethnicity. besides, you're in the wrong forum. keep the hostility and negativity in the gender-divide forum. ;^)
live and let be
Sunday, September 01, 2002 at 16:20:27 (PDT)
[65.184.81.113]
Jon Jon,
Now's your chance to pick yourself up and shoot for the stars! Real men don't sit and think of what could have been. They go back out and find the next best thing out there. Who knows... perhaps the "next best thing" you find might actually turn out to be THE best thing that ever happened to you! Good luck, and remember, you always shape your own destiny. Fight on, brother.
I got mine.
Sunday, September 01, 2002 at 16:19:13 (PDT)
[128.253.186.46]
Jon Jon, get a grip and move on with your life...a great philosopher once said, do nothing extra. Don't waste your mind on a senseless adventure that won't amount to anything.
Move on
Sunday, September 01, 2002 at 00:19:53 (PDT)
[24.228.76.114]
To ALL of the Ladies,
Here's a general, straight-forward question for ya...Does it now, or has it ever been a factor for you that an Asian male must be a certain height for you to date them? The last few WF/AM couples I've seen were where the guy was 5'10" and above. I welcome your comments.
Steven empy23@msn.com
Saturday, August 31, 2002 at 12:35:28 (PDT)
[67.114.230.8]
This is a very interesting poll. It seems like we (AAmale & Wfemale) just don't know each other.
D. Her daniel_her10@yahoo.com
Saturday, August 31, 2002 at 02:32:02 (PDT)
[152.163.189.232]
Riceman, Canadian AM, Asian Doc Love&co
I thank you all·for your encouragements and insightful thoughts, especially CAM, I took your advice to heart and will always keep in mind of what youāve said.
Well·bad news, I found out through word of mouth(not sure if entirely reliable/accurate)that she is married and currently is pregnant! When I first heard this I was so heartbroken, got a sick feeling and sore throat(still have):-( After all these years hoping I could set right what Iāve done and maybe·just maybe have a relationship
with her was all blown away. We knew each other at 7 and I always have fantasies about ending up with her, having children and grow old together but I know it wonāt be happening now
:-( I regret my inaction, I regret for not being aggressive enough, I regret my self sabotaging weak character trait, I have hit rock bottom...but..itās time to let go and climb back up again even if itās inch by inch. For those of you who think we barely know each other, we have many things in common and share the same interests I know b/c from many observations and vivid childhood memories we had and shared.
As of now, I have no plans or the time to seek out anyone and have none in mind, I still have another stressful year or so plus CTA honours at college and after that a 3 year training contract + 2 major qualifying exams and finally the board exam. People doing this course have no time either and Iām no exception. When Iām finished Iāll probably be a lonely 26 year old assuming I pass all those exams-from
then on hopefully Iāll meet someone.
Anyway, thanks again to you guys for your positive feedback, it really meant a lot to me.
Jon Jon rookie_decoy@hotmail.com
Friday, August 30, 2002 at 16:31:38 (PDT)
[196.2.20.25]
Hi Folks,
This came out in today's (August 30) Seattle Times. It is about a marriage of a Seattle City Councilwoman and her Japanese-American boyfriend. Check this short article out.
Wills wedding: Seattle City Councilwoman Heidi Wills tied the knot Saturday with her longtime beau, Kobi Yamada. Ceremonies and reception were held at Lowell-Hunt Catering on Lake Union, with Kristel Wills as her sister's matron of honor.
Yamada, 34, heads Compendium, a motivational-message company. When Puget Sound Business Journal profiled him last September, Yamada said the book on his nightstand was "The Fountainhead" by Ayn Rand; the person he'd most like to meet was Emerson or Thoreau, and his personal hero was ÷ surprise ÷ Heidi Wills.
Will and Yamada left after the wedding for an Africa safari. The councilwoman returns to her City Hall office Sept. 16, but her staff doesn't know if she's returning as Mrs. Yamada or Ms. Wills. Said one staffer, "She hasn't said anything."
Thinking positive
Friday, August 30, 2002 at 13:26:27 (PDT)
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