Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:30:05 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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JB,
I don't know who made that 'joy luck club' movie but if it's a hollywood film, I am sure that hollywood was very happy to make it as it seems to stereotype that AMs are sort of dominating and violent. I am very glad for you that your WF girlfriend could listen to your explanation and distinguish between fact and fiction.

Look, those stupid couples who stared at you two were sad cases. Those couples were interested in that movie because they were trying to find something to confirm their stupid 'beliefs' and that's why it had such an instant effect on them. You can see how brainless people can be!!!I do understand that women were mistreated in the past, especially in China, but, if you look at China or East Asia or Asian Americans in general, those bad treatments have almost disappeared. (though in China, there are still cases where male babies are preferred to female ones). Nevertheless, Think about how women are mistreated here in the US!!!

But still, I can't see the point in digging up our 'ancient history' and showing it on screen as popular entertainment.

Why can't these people go and rent the film 'Heaven and Earth' where WM/AF is so much glamourised but Tommy Lee Jones is violent and almost kills his Vietnamese wife!!!

By the way, that Amy Tan person is ENTIRELY sick. Personally I can't stand her. She writes as if she had no brain.
AM Protestor Tuesday, September 03, 2002 at 10:20:04 (PDT) [147.188.84.239]

"It's just one or two inches. As long as you are around 5'9", I don't think its such a large problem."

I think the reasonable range for height is anywhere between 5'3" to 6'3". Anything more or less than that range creates an added factor. Also, if you look around, there are many white males who are between 5'1" and 5'5" running around.
AM Tuesday, September 03, 2002 at 10:05:57 (PDT) [198.81.27.8]

To Steven, on height:

I am a WF, just under 5'4". Frankly, I prefer shorter men. I dated a guy who was an inch shorter than me, no problem, and most have been between 5"6" to 5'10". Men over 6 feet are intimidating to me, but I wouldn't rule them out just cuz of that. But I like to see "eye to eye," if you know what I mean. ;) There are a lot of nice-looking shorter men. All the more for me.
Sue Tuesday, September 03, 2002 at 08:39:35 (PDT) [216.17.76.225]

I've dated a number of WFs of different nationalities, and American women seem most concerned with the male being substantially taller than the female. Not all American women, of course, but that mentality is more prevalent in the USA. All things being equal, it's a definite disadvantage if you're shorter than 5'8", but there's lots of exceptions (millions of attractive WFs, literally) to every rule. Just be bold enough to stick your neck out and risk rejection (still our role to be the chaser); I'm only 5'8" myself and most of the women I've dated loved to wear their heels (I like women who dress up). And European women have seemed to care the least about me being shorter. I'd dated a number of women who towered over me; especially funny were the 5'11" German girl and 5'10" Swedish model I dated a few years back. Even for AM/WF dating, you should have seen the gawking and whispering! *smile* But they didn't care at all about our height (and race) differences. There's more to a man's attractiveness than his height and $$! *smile*
Hoboken_CornellGuy Tuesday, September 03, 2002 at 05:47:08 (PDT) [64.119.241.171]

FYI,

Just in case, it means anything to anyone, I'm 5'8". Walk tall guys, and I mean with confidence. For you ladies, I will see you later ;)
Steven Empy23@msn.com Monday, September 02, 2002 at 22:07:55 (PDT) [67.114.228.46]

RECENT RESPONSES,

Well, nice to hear some responses to my previous post. Although, it seems as though people think I'm down on my self and am apprehensive about women, in general. Although, the sentiment is appreciated, the advice is not necessary. I know there is a woman for everyone, and I hope that there is more than the one possibillity, hehe. I posted the question about height so as to get into the mind of Caucasian females and dicover atleast, in this small online cross-section, if there are particular issues regarding height, with respect to Asians.
An example of this, is that since the general feeling/statistical evidence that Asians are shorter than other people, if Asian men were taller, would they been seen more equally. Is there any other thing besides height that prevents women of other races from considering them as potential mates. Yes, we can point to occasional cultural/language/social barriers. But I think most people who are open-minded can atleast try to overcome those kind of hurdles. Things like height or any other thing that can not be so easily changed is another issue entirely. It would be intersting to see what a study on what may seemingly be a miniscule thing. But as many point out occasionally, physical characteristics are something that we can not lie and say it is a total non-issue. Plus, I haven't had anything to say recently :)
Steven Empy23@msn.com Monday, September 02, 2002 at 22:02:14 (PDT) [67.114.228.46]

Steven, I've never set a height requirement for guys that I date. I'm 5'4 and my boyfriend is 5'8, and I think we're perfect together. I don't think of him as short. I wouldn't want to date a guy who was 6'. Anyway I hardly think of height at all when I judge a person's attractiveness, I usually look at their face, hair, body, the way they carry themselves, the way they dress, how intelligent they are. These things matter much more than height.

JB, The first time I saw the "Joy Luck Club" I really didn't pick up on the negative portrayal of all Asian men, I was just more focused on the sad fates of the Asian women, and sympathizing with their characters. But after having read Asian men's viewpoints on the movie, I can see how damaging it is to the image of Asian men. There was the abusive cheater, the anal retentive, uncaring geek, and the husband that was never there. None of the Asian men I know fit into any of those categories. We women can be pretty smart, and don't take everything at face value. :)
curious girl Monday, September 02, 2002 at 19:51:14 (PDT) [209.110.39.224]

Lotus

"you guys are supposed to be strong and protect us from all evil no?"

Definatly
SOG Monday, September 02, 2002 at 14:14:06 (PDT) [216.239.163.213]

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