Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:30:04 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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Bostonian....

I am WF and my husband is Chinese. I am 5'7 and he is 5'3. As you can tell I am substantially taller than he! In the beginning he was also somewhat uncomfortable because he later told me he was thinking "will she actually like me and return these feelings because I am shorter than her"? Because of the way alot of society seems to say how the male should be taller than the female.

It sounds if you have fallen into the embarrassment and shame category that society tries to throw on us if something does not meet it's imposed standards of how things should be.

Be strong, if you care about each other, then you are a perfect couple..no height difference or race difference can interfere with love! We even tease each other now..I call myself his tall Dutch princess and he jokingly refers to himself as Shorty Asian Spiceboy or something equally silly!

people will always stare, one because of the height difference and mostly because you are in an inter-racial relationship, a point of curiosity, some unity and always controversy to others.
A funny side note...since we had our baby over a year ago, people hardly stare at us, they only smile and play with the baby! Be strong!
Hannybunbun Tuesday, September 17, 2002 at 08:51:36 (PDT) [207.172.11.148]

Brian Hong,

I don't know what the hell your friend was telling you, but as for me, I like to BE CHASED by men. I like guys who know what they want, who are polite and smart and, yeah you are right, who have a plan, and who care a lot about their girl and do everything to make her feel good, of course, if she deserves it. I don't like flowers, I don't like chocolate, but nice present-surprise is always sweet. Maybe my point of view is too traditional, but that's how I see it.
Cuttie Tuesday, September 17, 2002 at 06:45:48 (PDT) [213.59.137.60]

Bostonian,

If I were you I'd indulge myself with such a fatastic WF and ignore those cold eyes. Friend, you should cope with those jerks with more confident and don't let them fool you around.
The other way around, there will always be so many praying eyes admiring how lucky you are when you are with a WF they can only dream of!
TheAsian Monday, September 16, 2002 at 23:57:27 (PDT) [210.3.41.94]

Wow Girl,

Its ok, I understand you've been through some hard times. Believe me, I've been through lots of heartache with women myself, and it hurts. It kinda just crushes your spirits for a period of time.

I have some female friends who have gone through the same thing you have. Having guys try to buy their affections, and not being there when they need them most. On the flipside I also have some friend who only date rich guys and only want a guy to fuel their spending habits. I really dislike those kinds of women. Its good to know you want a man for who he is and how well he treats you, rather than his net worth.

Hope everything works out for you, and good luck!
Max orgazmo83@hotmail.com Monday, September 16, 2002 at 12:42:13 (PDT) [131.252.181.126]

Guys,

I am recently dating a WF. She is about 6.0' tall and I am only 5'8". To me that is not a really big deal at all. I like her for who she is and not really afraid that the height is the wall between us. I have alot of fun with her everytime we go out. She treats me so good that it is so amazed to me that a trait such as that could be found in a WF.

But I got a tell you this though, I feel a little uncomfortable being out with her in public and having eyes staring upon us wherever we are. Part of this is because I don't like attention at all. Sometimes it makes me feel like she is too tall for me. Other people might say what is that guy doing with a tall girl like that. But she does not seem to bother at all. She would hold my hands and kisses me in public infront of other people. She would do anything for me.
And now I am thinking to myself: "What the hell are you complaining about???"
Bostonian Monday, September 16, 2002 at 05:57:09 (PDT) [208.204.140.3]

I think white women in California are more accepting of Asian males than in Texas where i currently reside. Texas is a little slow!!
Asian Man Sunday, September 15, 2002 at 22:35:34 (PDT) [24.242.250.149]

I have a question for all the ladies out there. Would you rather have the man chasing after you, giving you flowers, compliments, trips to nice restaurants and get-a-ways, OR would YOU GALS rather do the chasing, Chasing that mysterious man who doesn't always cater to your needs, only touches the girl AFTER she touches HIM, and always has a plan. What are your opinions on that? In both scenarios, the guys are good, polite, chivalrous guys. ALso, I was wondering what kinds of traits you ladies think are attractive in a man. A friend of mine told me that women like it when THEY're chasing the men and the men are being a "challenge" to the girls by not always throwing themselves over the girls. He also told me girls like mysterious guys, polite, listens more than talking, and always has a plan.......Any feedback would be nice. Thanks ladies.
Brian Hong bakkoo@hotmail.com Sunday, September 15, 2002 at 15:55:57 (PDT) [24.205.60.195]

Cute1,

The best way to deal with it is to ignore it and you'll be better off not bring it up to your boyfriend about it. If he truely loves you, he's not going to let such comments change the way he feels about you. And if he doesn't, then anything you do to hold him tighter will lead to him breaking up with you. He'll see you as a more confident one by not letting this jealousy affect you.
HappyGuy Thursday, September 12, 2002 at 13:45:48 (PDT) [128.147.66.48]

wow girl,

Sorry you had bad experience in the past. I hope you can take comfort that we all go through it, not in the same way ofcourse. I think men don't understand women and women over-analyze men. Eventually after losses and being hurt, both sides learn a little bit more about each other. I think this is true regardless of inter-racial or not.

Ofcourse fault's not always divided 50/50 and in your case the guy was just selfish. Try thinking it could have been worse if you were in serious relationship with him or feel in love with him.
Happyguy Thursday, September 12, 2002 at 13:33:09 (PDT) [128.147.66.48]

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