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Very good point, trowa in montreal.
Steven Empy23@msn.com
Thursday, October 17, 2002 at 23:17:35 (PDT)
[67.119.138.142]
Derrik,
you're relying too much on eye contact. i make eye contact with tons of people everyday. on the subway, on the streets, in school, etc... (i'm from nyc too). it doesn't hold much significance. a smile, that MIGHT mean something. then it's up to you to find out. but you think you're confused? here's a recent experience. 3rd week of college and i finally initiate conversation with a girl in class who was giving me the usual signs - eye contact and smiles. our conversation was brief (though there was friendly light touching from her) but she offered her #'s, home and cell (w/o me asking). the next 2 times class met our conversations were also brief (no time) but after the following one she joined me for lunch (though i didn't formally invite her). she seemed quite interested/fascinated (so was i of course) and we had a nice 1-2 hour chat. our little lunch 'date' ended with a nice hug. ahh, the sparks of new friendships (she was being more than friendly, imho) after this however, she doesn't seem to care anymore (6th wk. now) we've only scratched the surface and i feel like i was left hanging. small detail: she has a boyfriend but she did mention how unexciting her relationship was. (not that it implied anything) however i am NOT planning anything disrespectful towards her boyfriend. i simply would like to continue getting to know her.
'I am soooooooooo damn confused....!' Doc Love Graduate, i have her numbers (she GAVE them to me), so what's your advice? thanks all.
compass error
Thursday, October 17, 2002 at 23:16:36 (PDT)
[24.191.63.72]
trowa in Montreal,
Why, that didn't occur to me, men do that too? ;p...I do prefer your idea, much more meaningful and enduring. The writer wasn't speaking of love though.
Wtt ;)
Thursday, October 17, 2002 at 23:03:30 (PDT)
[68.146.234.43]
What thinkest thou,
I am also an Ayn Rand fan and wondered if that is an excerpt from " The Fountainhead" or one of her novels, or one of her other books such as " The Virtue Of Selfishness". I would like to read further elaborations on this topic and similar ones by her , if you can point me in the right direction.
Thanks~
Happy Clam
Thursday, October 17, 2002 at 19:21:16 (PDT)
[12.217.192.139]
What thinkest thou,
there is also the idea that one just might fall in love with a woman and genuinely care for her
trowa in montreal
Wednesday, October 16, 2002 at 23:24:40 (PDT)
[65.95.239.125]
SOG,
Glad you enjoyed it- I think there's some logic here for either sex. But to be completely accurate, I'm a brilliant b****, no son...*grin*
makes sense ;)
Wednesday, October 16, 2002 at 22:46:14 (PDT)
[68.146.234.43]
Curious Girl,
Where have you been lately? I really miss your interesting questions and insights.
Max orgazmo83@hotmail.com
Wednesday, October 16, 2002 at 16:14:46 (PDT)
[205.238.9.194]
wf lovin the AM
You rule girlfriend!
;)
Love and Luck with the Asians!
wf-25
Tuesday, October 15, 2002 at 13:26:25 (PDT)
[66.90.196.195]
what thinkest thous
You are one brilliant SOB.
I loved your post!
SOG
Tuesday, October 15, 2002 at 11:59:40 (PDT)
[128.193.5.191]
Alright lotus, here is an example of somethings that happened to me.
I live in New York City, and I travel through the subway a lot. And to be clear, I'm only 18 years old. I see A LOT of pretty women giving me eye contact on the subway. But for some reason, you kind of just have like a sixth sense that you know that she is interested in you. But you can never be sure and you are not really interested in her but you want to know if she is intersted in you. (Am I making any sense?) I want to learn how to tell if a women is interested in you without actually going up to her and ASKING!!! I know, there is no definate way to know... yada, yada, yada.
Here are some examples :
I was on a train from Prince St. getting onto the N train. I just casually happen to look in the way of these two really gorgeous girls, not thinking much about anything. Both of them notice me too but they don't seem to be interested at all. But when we get onto the train, we separate looking for seats. I couldn't find one but the others did. So I was standing there and the blonde one seems to be smiling in my direction. And seems to be whispering OH MY GOD to herself after looking at me. I smile at her, she smiles back and makes a funny face when she catches me.
Now, my question is.... why did she not show any interest while I was standing right next to her waiting for the train. But on the train, she seems to show interest. I am soooooooooo damn confused....
And I have lots of other experiences which I will share but right now I think I typed toooooo much.. Thanks for all your help.
Derrik derrik241@yahoo.com
Monday, October 14, 2002 at 18:50:39 (PDT)
[64.12.96.237]
The Romantic Manifesto
A man's sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions. Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive, and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with, and I will tell you his valuation of himself. ... He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience - or to fake - a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer - because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut.
~~~Ayn Rand
What thinkest thou? ;)
Monday, October 14, 2002 at 16:11:31 (PDT)
[68.146.234.43]
Looks aside, but helps, another important factor.
Here is what girls like,(personality wise, before relationship);
1) confident
2) in control
3) spontaneous
4) smart
5) funny
6) click (meanning you can talk to them)
7) interesting
8) comfort
9) high sprits
10) natural reaction
11) conversation that flows
12) good common sense
13) overall, just being yourself
14) patience
here is what girls don't like;(personality wise, before relationship);
1) awkwardness
2) insecurity
3) rude
4) boring
5) inspontaneousness
6) trying to be something you're not, they can tell.
7) low self-estem
8) confused
9) no-logic (no common sense)
10) sloppy
Good luck guys and awarkward student!!
awarkward student,
Girls don't like awkward guys b/c you make them feel awkward or insecure and they don't like to feel this way. You have to make thing happen spontaneous. Sometimes it can be hard with the girls you like, i know, this, everyone's been through but it's alright, you'll learn.
LadiesMan
Monday, October 14, 2002 at 09:22:17 (PDT)
[162.83.147.228]
-Canadian Guy
In regard to u'r earlier posting about wanting a girl u can take home...just because she doesn't make her intentions known to u, doesn't mean u can't ask. And because i'm new to this board i can't really say how aggressive "those" type of girls want AM to be, but asking a girl out isn't all that aggressive. I have always been attracted to AM and always been frustrated that they shy away from asking me out. I agree that i don't like overly aggressive men, but that doesn't mean u'r too aggressive if u initiate conversation or ask for her number. BTW, whats with the blonde thing...i'm blonde, not dying out anytime soon, and find the over facination thing a little outta control...lol
One more thing, wf-25 I'm right there with u, all the more power to u and good for u!!
wf lovin the AM
Monday, October 14, 2002 at 00:15:21 (PDT)
[205.188.208.136]
derikk,
You're right, eye contact is one of the key parts of knowing if someone is attracted to you. However, the key words are ONE OF THE... Sure, eye contact is good, but to find out if she's interested or not is a whole different thing. There are many girls out there who flirt for the heck of it, and there are those girls who, like you said, just look around and make lots of eye contact. Basically, if you want to stop letting your ego tell you if the girls are interested in you or not, and if you want the bottom line factor of the situation, you MUST, you MUST approach her. Otherwise, you will torture yourself for the rest of your life wondering if the girl is interested or not. What you need to do is the next time you see a lady smiling or making eye contact, APPROACH HER. Don't try to use pick up lines or anything like that. Say something casual about the environment, or something harmless. Thus, you two will be able to converse. Some signs she's interested in you are light touching, body signals (which you can have someon else explain more of), eye contact, and others, of course. Then, the FINAL TEST to find out if she is actually interested or just polite is asking her for her home phone number. First off, remember, it's not cell phone, it's not work, it's not pager, it's the home phone number. that way, the girl has to let you inside part of her comfort zone. second, many guys think way too much of getting the girl's number. don't put so much pressure on yourself. getting the home phone number will lead to many other things, but for that instant, don't even think of that aspect. the only thing you have to think of concerning getting the lady's number is that it's a test of her interest in you! If she gives you her home phone number, then she is interested in you, and if she doesn't give it to you, then she's not. Simple as that. AND, if you DO ask her for her home phone number, regardless of her reply, you will now settle your thoughts on whether the lady is interested in you or not.
It is not going to be easy to ask for the home phone number, but practice continually. It will get easier as time goes along. Good luck, and keep asking for their home phone numbers to ease your ego, and get on with some loving!
Doc Love Graduate
Sunday, October 13, 2002 at 22:22:22 (PDT)
[24.205.60.195]
Derrik-
Can you maybe give us an example of something that happened to you recently so at least we have a context to give advice in? Thanks!
And why wouldn't you be good enough for some "model types" whoever that may be for you...? Aside from looks, do you have a good job (stability)?
I think I need a little more info... heh...
Lotus ^.^
Sunday, October 13, 2002 at 20:22:33 (PDT)
[216.221.33.242]
"oh, okay..well i didn't catch your name. I've seen you a lot around campus but I never knew your name. What is it?"
Ask her name a few more time later even you do remember her name.
Jersey AM
Sunday, October 13, 2002 at 19:48:24 (PDT)
[172.133.133.114]
"Let's be realistic, if she's beautiful she has alot of guys chasing her and maybe she's out of your league. Most people end up with their equals in apparances.
Unless your wealthy and just buy a pretty bimbo."
This is completely NOT true. Most women are not so much into look and money. Just learn how to talk to women properly....
Jersey AM
Sunday, October 13, 2002 at 19:37:32 (PDT)
[172.133.133.114]
Thinking positive
I am interested in getting teased. Its all the sweeter! as long as we get to eat at the end!
SOG
Sunday, October 13, 2002 at 14:49:38 (PDT)
[216.239.163.155]
Ok, I have a problem with WOMEN!!! Who doesn't? Who can understand them? I've been trying to since I was 12 and its still not kicking in. Anyway, here is my situation :
My problem is that I can never tell if a women likes me. For some reason, I usually think the most attractive women out there are interested in me. People tell that I am good looking but I don't think I'm good enough for some of those "model types." Anyway, how the heck do you tell is a women likes you? Because what I am doing currently, about 90% of all the women I'm interested in likes me. What I am doing is the eye contact thing. For some reason, when you make eye contact, I think I can instantly tell if a girl is "staring" or just looking around and happen to catch your eye.
Damn i am not even explaining this correctly!!! if anyone understood what i wrote please reply!!! help me with this eye contact thing that lasts maybe 1 or 2 second.
- most confused asian male.
Derrik derrik241@yahoo.com
Saturday, October 12, 2002 at 19:49:22 (PDT)
[205.188.208.136]
Awkward Student,
Could you be any cuter?! ;)
Best of luck woth your girl!
Touched WF
Friday, October 11, 2002 at 17:45:49 (PDT)
[68.146.234.43]
Awkward Student,
Please stop writing about how you are going to go after this girl. Unless you are actually successful, you can share in the story, but no one is interested in getting teased about your mad obsession.
Thinking positive
Friday, October 11, 2002 at 12:20:14 (PDT)
[198.81.27.8]
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