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Lotus,
Thanks for crushing our hopes, you're so negative. Somewhere out there, there are probably a few guys who are on the verge of breaking out of their shells and start talking to women are taking a step backward. You said "The guy prolly thought I was checking him out when I am only looking at his hairstyle!" YOu were only looking at his hairstyle and not into his EYES. Go read my post again, I was talking about EYE CONTACT (there wasn't EYE CONTACT between you and he) not looking at other parts of the body like the hair. So my theory still stand. Also, why would you make eye contact with someone and then look at his shoes? EYE CONTACT 80% of the time tells that the porspect is interested in you sexually. Look it up, it's all psychology. REmember 80% of the times which means there is a 20% chance that they're not interested in you. YOu happened to be included in the 20%.
lordt78
Monday, October 28, 2002 at 06:20:44 (PST)
[140.212.205.40]
Were any of you at the Irev carshow in Chicago on saturday? Lemme tell ya, I saw about 10+ AM/WF couples there. It was amazing. Not to mention there were also some AM/LF there too.
supaman
Sunday, October 27, 2002 at 18:34:27 (PST)
[12.245.16.165]
Lotus ^.^ ,
Good that you are here to help keep everyone grounded in reality. Strategy is the way for fools when it comes to love. Act true, and you can never really be wrong, guys.
Steven empy23@msn.com
Sunday, October 27, 2002 at 01:13:55 (PDT)
[67.119.138.83]
Lotus,
Thank you for your insight. I can see what you're saying. However, I was thinking that if the girl already knows he's a sweetheart and there's some nice chemistry, then her seeing him with beautiful girls (and I don't mean ALL the beautiful girls, like a movie star. I mean just be seen talking to attractive ladies, which will give hte signal that this guy is actually capable of getting those highly-valued superficial girls, and has something that attracts those superficial girls, which would attract normal girls to him) will cause her to feel a twinge of jealousy. It's not really a strategy that's imperative, but rather a tip if he's able.
By the way, 2 things I'd like to say. 1) Compass, are you Asian and this girl white, because I would assume that would be the case because of the environment of this forum and 2) Lotus, I would really appreciate it if you looked at some of the advice I am giving and give your point of view. Whether you think that it's crap, or brilliant, I would really appreciate your input, as well as any other females in this forum. Well, I will be awaiting with a patient fervor.
Doc Love Graduate
Friday, October 25, 2002 at 22:28:23 (PDT)
[24.205.60.103]
Comments to the post of Doc Love Graduate-
You said that he should be seen talking to beautiful girls because it will make her want a piece of the action, right? Just some female insight here... If I see a guy talking to a lot of girls (flirting) I would assume he's a player and would NEVER consider dating him. So it's dangerous to do that, since you don't know how the girl thinks!
Girls like guys that are sweethearts too, not just challenging. We like it when guys do nice things for us not just walk around with their nose in the air, chatting up with all of the female population! lol ;) The important thing is to be friendly... oh, and try to find out what kind of guy she likes (difficult I know). It might help in the approach!
Lotus ^.^
Thursday, October 24, 2002 at 19:49:25 (PDT)
[216.221.32.187]
Some solid advice from Lotus. Good job, sister.
You basically won't get any play from women in public settings, esp. in a big city like NYC or LA (It CAN happen, though not often... last week I got a number from a cute white girl on a bus!). You gotta find more intimate, less threatening place to interact with women. Good luck, gentlemen.
Good luck
Thursday, October 24, 2002 at 13:57:59 (PDT)
[128.253.186.46]
well Compass Error,
You're right. Women liked to be pursued. However think about it, so do guys. So if you take a step back and look at the situation, it seems as if the one DOING the pursuing has less power in the relationship because, as it is well known, the one doing the purusing is MORE in love with the person he/she is pursuing rather than the one getting pursued. Thus, in most relationships when the guys are chasing the girls, the girls have the power to reject the guy or keep him. However, it's time the guys get some power. First of all, there are 2 pro's to getting the girl chase the guy. 1) THe guy finally gets the power of rejection in his hands because the girl is too busy chasing after the guy. A girl cannot be chasing and rejecting a guy at the same time (that's like walking or sitting at the same time). 2) You're actually doing the girl a FAVOR. Why? You tell me this, isn't it more fun, exciting and exhilarating when one chases something, instead of getting it right away? It's the chase that makes it fun. Thus, the chase that you will put the girls through will give you the power in the relationship, and will also give HER the fun by letting her chase you.
Okay, Compass Error, you being the lone wolf is good, because you're probably seen by her as a "challenge", or an object to chase. However, like you said, you don't want to "steal" her, while at the same time you still have dreams of "sweeping her off her feet." Well, in order to get what you want, both things, all you can really do is be her friend. Wait, first, you have to decide if you want be JUST FRIENDS, or a friend with possible future. Whoah, let's first clear up our meaning of a friend with a possible future. I don't mean the kind of friend that sits by and lets her be your patient as you play the psychiatrist. You shouldn't be her male "girl"friend, because that will permanently disqualify you from becoming "more than friends with her." The kind of friend you must become is the friend that is always seen as confident, a challenge, and with beautiful girls. Pussycats compete, simply put. If she sees you talking to other beautiful girls, she will wonder "I wonder what those beautiful girls see in him. I want a piece of that too." THen, the more she likes you, the less she'll like her current boyfriend.
ANyway, slick, if you need anymore help from me to point you in the right direction, keep the questions a' comin. Until then, be a challenge, and keep getting phone numbers from other girls. She's only one girl in the world. There are millions of girls out there desperately waiting to chase a guy such as yourself. Go out there and have fun!
Doc Love Graduate
Wednesday, October 23, 2002 at 23:22:22 (PDT)
[24.205.60.103]
Hi Derrick,
Okay about your whole eye contact thing. Maybe the girl said "omg" because you had something stuck to your face and it was funny... Do you see already where I am going? Sometimes people stare out of interest... and sometimes because there is something funny to see... or they like your shirt...! And lordt78 said that a girl will look down if she likes you... Well, what if she likes your shoes? See my point? You can truly never know if a girl likes you. The old method of actually talking to someone is best. When you look at a girl, smile, and if she smiles back without looking as if she is laughing or mocking you go up to her and say a clever and *nice* line and hope for the best.
You are probably wondering how I can say all of this and be sure of myself. Well, I am a WF and I have a bf but sometimes I stare at guys... not because I like them. But, it has happened that I saw a young AM on the subway with a nice haircut/dye and I started to think "wow that would look nice on my bf". The guy prolly thought I was checking him out when I am only looking at his hairstyle! Then when I got caught looking at him I looked down quickly since I realised I was staring. But even if I looked down, I didnt like him!
You have to be vey careful and try to meet girls in other places besides subways. I am very wary of guys that I see on public transport and usually if they talk to me I ignore them or tell them to buzz off. Maybe if you go to school or at your job... join a club that you like (like a book reading club for example) where you can chat up with girls that have similar interests to you. Get out there and take chances! Hope I was some help... Good Luck! :)
Lotus ^.^
Wednesday, October 23, 2002 at 20:54:59 (PDT)
[216.221.32.75]
Well, guys, just to let you know if you're interested, I am just letting things happen naturally with the girl I was so busy chasing after. I'm friends with some of her friends, so I'm pretty sure something's gonna happen.
anyway, i'm going to a dance with a good friend of mine. At first, there was lots of non-communication about what was happening, but we talked today and got things straightened out, and i really think we're going to have a really great time. its my first time going to a dance with a white girl, so i dont know if its going to be any different...well see...
Awkward Student
Monday, October 21, 2002 at 22:47:21 (PDT)
[24.205.60.103]
"you want more than a friendship. However, the thing that stands in your way is her boyfriend ...she is not being swept off her feet by her current boyfriend. This is when you come in the picture."
doc, the cat with all the answers! you read my mind. i'll admit, i have imagined sweeping her off her feet. but seriously, i don't intend to 'steal' her. it's more like putting your foot in the door to increase your chances in the future (nothing wrong with that). meanwhile i do want the friendship. (aren't relationships started that way?)btw, needy? if i was, she wouldn't know that (yet). but i'm more of a loner, which is not exactly a good thing either (but i'm working on that). if you read my post, i said i DIDN'T ask her for lunch (don't intend to either). if women play hard to get, men can too (there's the lone wolf in me) but, women like to be persued don't they? thanks for the advice. meanwhile, i have other women to call. =)
compass error
Monday, October 21, 2002 at 20:23:23 (PDT)
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Happy Clam,
Hi, actually I hadn't read anything from her previously to finding that quote, so I'm afraid I can't be of much help to you... :)
What thinkest
Monday, October 21, 2002 at 20:03:51 (PDT)
[68.146.234.43]
well, Compass error,
From what you're telling me, it seems this girl is one of 2 things. Either she has really high interest in you, or she's a big flirt. Let's just assume it's the first for this discussion. Her giving you her cell phone number AND her cell phone number WITHOUT ASKING are VERY good signs of her interest in you. However, before we venture any further, let's get one thing straight: you want more than a friendship. However, the thing that stands in your way is her boyfriend. It is known, though not widely accepted, that women like to stick with one man. They like the security. However, her high interest level in you shows that she is not being swept off her feet by her current boyfriend. This is when you come in the picture.
Like I said, women like to stay with one man. Thus, the only thing that you can do, at this instant, is to keep your distance. You said that it seems she lost interest. There are a million reasons for that: maybe she was using you to get back at her flagging boyfriend and he got his act together, or maybe you were acting too needy (which is a BIG turnoff). Whatever the case, she's losing interest. If this girl is worth it, then all you should do is just keep your distance. It's called "being a challenge", or aka "playing hard to get". Don't ask her out on anymore lunch dates, and if she asks you, then just say that you're busy. If she really wants something more from you, then she'll eventually ask you to join her for something MORE than a lunch date (because lunch dates are usually a sign of 'just friends'). However, if she doesn't show any signs of interest in you, then drop her. There are millions of women out there my friend, so don't let her hold you down.
Until next time, good luck and keep fresh with the ladies.
Doc Love Graduate doclovegraduate@hotmail.com
Saturday, October 19, 2002 at 11:39:45 (PDT)
[24.205.60.103]
compass error
she has a bf already? sounds like a whore. I tell you some good advice, forget this girl. She is not worth it.
SOG
Friday, October 18, 2002 at 12:09:35 (PDT)
[128.193.4.98]
Derrik,
Also if you're trying to make eye contact with a woman and then she looks right away to the side (left or right)she is trying to avoiding eye contact. If you try to make eye contact with a woman and she looks DOWN then to the side, she's interested in you. In conclusion, if you're trying to make eye contact with a woman and she looks down first then look elsewhere, she's interested in you. How do I know? I just read this book on body language.
lordt78
Friday, October 18, 2002 at 10:50:41 (PDT)
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