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Awkward Student...
Sigh. The only way you will learn anything is if you go out and ask girls out. Hanging out here isn't gonna do a damn thing. I'm kinda glad this place is dead. It will make you go out there and ask girls out. Then you wouldn't be here being a twit. God, I just hate to see a brother sitting at his computer, praying for a date. Ain't gon' happen bro. You gotta go out to get one.
To everyone:
I think this place would be a good place to ask each other about cultural issues in a AM/WF relationship, but as far as getting dates and stuff is concerend, it's simple. Just ASK one another. The WFs too. Some WFs aren't open-minded enough to do IR, some are. Same for AMs. All you have to do is keep asking until you get a "yes".
Be A Man
Monday, November 25, 2002 at 23:43:37 (PST)
[128.253.186.46]
It is great to get into relationship in high school. It helps you grow and mature as a person. Most importantly, high school romance is one thing in life that cannot be learned from books. When you do decide to get into high school romance, just do not get too obsessed with it or let the girl(s) become the center of your universe. Because life (and your high school "sweet hearts") will move on.
I can only tell you my experience. I did NOT get into a high school relationship because I was totally focused on my school works and my parents were against it. I can only say missing out high school romance is perhaps my deepest (but still very minor) regret because I have absolutly no fond memory of my high school years (and my hometown.)
Also, I have never had any "virgin" because I "started out" late, when most girls have already lost their virginity. I do not know if you are into that sort of thing but I know I was (but I ultimately got over it.)
To sum it all up: Yes, I recommend you getting into high school romance.
One final word of advice: when you get into a relationship at that age and decide to have sex (which you will if you are normal. I am considered abnormal by American standard. LOL,) MAKE SURE that you do NOT impregnate any girl. ALWAYS USE PROTECTION, and HAVE HER USE PROTECTION. Getting a girl pregnant will seriously ruin your future. While I regret that I did not have any high school romance or virgin, on the flip side I am SO glad that I am not paying child support or locked into an unwated marriage because I had unprotected sex when I was at a naive age.
(The same rule also applies if you are a girl. Getting pregnant at high school will seriously limit your options and attractiveness to men in the future. It is great to get into high school romance. Just be sure get into you with your eyes WIDE OPEN.)
T'K Chang t_k_chang@yahoo.com
Monday, November 25, 2002 at 13:48:34 (PST)
[207.167.96.92]
this is a question for all you people who are in, or have completed, college life...i was wondering if high school romances were worth it. im thinking I should wait utnil college becuase that's where the best experiences ar, and where the girls are but i dunno some people have said that experience in high school is also good........what are your guys take on it?
btw where is everyone? y is it so dead in here? come on people share opinions questions and experiences...were here to learn right? so lets talk and learn!
Awkward Student
Sunday, November 24, 2002 at 23:46:29 (PST)
[24.205.64.102]
i agree with wedding bells. The WF I spend quality time with, they usually want me setting up plans on how to spend the day. The ones I treat like crap want to jump me. Yes, no shy.. take charge. Good fun. They won't reject you, and if they do, it's off the record; doesn't count. Not true, but that's the way to go about it. Be nice to yourself first.
1AM in Marin
Sunday, November 24, 2002 at 23:30:57 (PST)
[207.173.174.234]
Curious - Bella girl,
I am quite fine, and yourself?
Steven empy23@msn.com
Thursday, November 21, 2002 at 23:36:21 (PST)
[67.119.138.244]
An AM friend of mine is one of the sweetest, most considerate guys I've ever met. And quite shy. That doesn't turn me off at all, in fact just the opposite. Truth be known, I would love to be more than friends. He has it all... beauty, intelligence, wit, and a good heart to name a few. Lately though he's been making attempts at breaking out of his shyness & getting out there more, which is great. But to my dismay he acts cocky and superior, which is irritating and unnecessary. I guess he feels this is what he needs to do but I like who he really is; thankfully he's usually himself with me.
GreenEyes
Friday, November 15, 2002 at 21:03:49 (PST)
[68.146.234.43]
wedding bells- I'm very happy for you and I wish you the best in your upcoming nuptials. I'm glad that you found a formula that works for you, but not every girl will be attracted to a cocky man. Some may even be turned off by it. There is a huge wide range of what types of men women are attracted to, so each man must find what works for him.
I was wondering, why is it that you've only dated white females? Are you just more attracted to them? Or did you grow up in a predominantly white neighborhood? I'm certainly not putting you down in any way, I'm just honestly curious. I myself wonder why I've often preferred dating Asian men, and I think it's just because I'm more attracted to them, I can't explain it. Take care.
Bella
Friday, November 15, 2002 at 11:16:27 (PST)
[207.183.118.60]
i like asian men......most i know are very polite and treat everyone with respect....this is way more of a turn on than how people look.....they don't go around acting like they are these cool freaks trying to sex up anything in a skirt...i'm considered a very attractive white female.....35 but still get carded at times.....and believe me i have no trouble finding men ...i'm single now....but i'd MUCH rather date an asian man who was nice than some self perceived stud white guy...i dont see this as strange at all either...i don't bat an eye if i see an asian man with a white woman....plus i have a terrible crush on an asian guy that i don't really know but see him periodically :-)
beautyqueen evilwondertwin1@aol.com
Friday, November 15, 2002 at 10:47:13 (PST)
[205.188.208.136]
I'm getting ready to marry a white woman. She's absolutely beautiful. I don't understand why some of you are having such I problem. The only race I ever dated was white and I didn't have a problem. It's all about acting cocky and sexy. Don't act shy.
wedding bells
Friday, November 15, 2002 at 00:12:00 (PST)
[66.138.124.7]
Be a Man,
I appreciate your respectful reply. Yes I have seen that scene in "Magnolia", I loved it too. I honestly think that about 90% of people in their 20's are immature at some level, though immature is a relative term and everyone probably has their own definition. In my opinion, and from my own experiences, I think that women tend to grow up a little faster than guys. Definitely not all women, believe me I know plenty of women in their mid to late twenties that are wishy-washy, only care about going out to the bars and getting drunk or maxing out their credit cards on shopping, and are needy and insecure. But I also know plenty of women that are the exact opposite- comfortable with who they are, that know where they are going, that are loyal and devoted girlfriends or wives. These are the kind of women I like to have as friends.
I know I'm not perfectly mature. I think it takes an entire lifetime to become completely mature. I think I'm doing well in some areas and not so well in others, just like anyone else. Life is a journey- enjoy the ride. :)
On a side note, I have to say that I have found Asian men to more often than not be more mature than white men. Not to put down white men, I like them too, but I like that my boyfriend, (AM) is focused on the important things in life and especially his and our future. Most guys that I work with that are in their 20's only care about going to cheesy clubs, getting wasted, having one night stands with random girls. I just couldn't date someone like that.
Thanks, Steven. How are you? I used to call myself Curious Girl but I thought maybe I needed a new name. ;)
Bella
Wednesday, November 13, 2002 at 09:34:56 (PST)
[207.183.118.60]
Very good. HEHE. Very Good Bella. :)
Steven empy23@msn.com
Tuesday, November 12, 2002 at 19:12:34 (PST)
[67.119.139.119]
"Be A Man, it is quite obvious that you have yet to date a mature woman."
You've got to be kidding. I KNOW that. I've already said it, just read my previous post. That's why I'm on the lookout for mature women.
Please note that I've said many women under the age of 30 are immature like that, just like men are at that age. I can already see the hands go up, going, "Hey! I'm offended! I'm twenty [something], and I'm very mature for my age!"
Of COURSE you are, sweetheart. [*cough*] I don't doubt it. After all, you know yourself better than I ever will. But please know that people usually overestimate themselves in most capacities, myself included. But at least I've learned to be honest. Sometimes being honest brings out the ugly truth. People always think very highly of their abilities. For example, they might think that they are mature, even for their age, when infact slivers of immaturity still hide in them well into their 30s. I guess that self-denial is part of hammering and forcefully molding yourself into a real man or woman, but it sure as hell is annoying putting up with people's growing pains, isn't it?
I used be quite immature too. I always chased the skirt. And I've realized that I've been an ass in the past. But then I saw all women point their fingers at men like my former self, and decided that that wasn't fair. Women are just as bad, but in a different way. They crave attention, and validate themselves in the attention that they get from others. This can hurt men's feelings too. They scream for equal treatment, yet try to weasel their way out of sticky situations or ask for deferential treatment because they happen to be beautiful or simply female. They ARE illogical in this sense.
Most young women in their twenties are like this. I never said all of them were, but a healthy majority are at that age. Men are immature into their twenties because they chase tail and are striving to prove themselves to the world, often recklessly. They are overzealous, and are careless with people's feelings. Women are immature because often they don't know what the hell they want. And to me, that has become a fact because that is what I have observed while dating in my twenties.
Have you seen the scene in the movie 'Magnolia' where the coke-addict girl and the police officer go on a date? It's quite cool. They sit there and start doing the smalltalk BS, but then the woman suddenly breaks down and asks to "cut thru the s & p", and to just lay themselves on the table (figuratively), faults and all. And he agrees. I thought that was beautiful. That is what I want at this point in my life.
I hope you understand where I'm coming from. Like I said, I'm open to hearing your opinion or rebuttal, but I am done here. I do respect your opinions and will read them.
Be A Man
Tuesday, November 12, 2002 at 13:54:44 (PST)
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