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IDENTITY OF ASIAN ADOPTEES
(Updated
Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:26:02 PM
to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)
Assuming you are Asian American, which best describes your feeling toward Asians who grew up in adoptive white families?
I can relate with them as I do with other AA. |
27%
They put me off by seeming more white than Asian. |
22%
I make an effort to be understanding of their situation. |
19%
I am unsure how to relate to them. |
32%
Assuming you are an Asian adoptee raised by a white family, which best describes your own feelings?
I feel perfectly comfortable around Asians. |
18%
I make an effort to fit in with Asians so I can reclaim my proper identity. |
38%
I have all but given up trying to fit in with Asians. |
27%
I am comfortable around Whites and see no reason to be with Asians. |
18%
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Quite frankly, the kids are better off being adopted especially the Korean orphans. Korean orphans have little to no future in Korea. They are heavily discriminated against and would have a tough time being accepted in Korean society (to put it mildly). The thinking seems to go that since bloodlines and ties are so important in Korean society, if a child was abandoned by his/her parents then the kid is either defective, impure (biracial), handicapped, or illegitimate. Either way, people will assume the worst and treat the person as such. It is very rare for a Korean couple or family to ever adopt. If they do, it is considered a huge family secret that no one outside the family must know about. Without international adoption, I don't see how these kids have a decent chance of growing up with some semblence of normalcy and love. Arguments that kids should be raised by people who are of their own race has a certain amount of logic but unless you can provide a way to get more of these same race couples to adopt in much larger numbers, it would be better for the kids to go with whatever pair of parents that can provide the proper love and support for the kid, race be damned. If you can't realistically create a better solution, then it's just moronic to destroy the only other viable alternative and make the problem much worse.
Asian Hauptsturmfuhrer
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 11:59:44 (PST)
Amy,
Shame on you for downloading Rurouni Kenshin. That licensed by Media Blasters in the USA. Go buy it instead of being a software pirate, like every other asian. ^_^
That the issue. You feel that Martial arts, Buddism, and anime are asian cultures. They are only the tip of the iceberg of culture.
That's like finding a Chinese guy in China who Studied western boxing, is Catholic, and into John Wayne westerns. Then meets a white American one day in China, and states I'm not a racist nor do I have any bias agianst Americans. I'm well versed in American culture because of boxing, Catholicism, and John Wayne. Did I mentioned by the way I have a few cousins that are half white in America and Canada.
Does the Chinese guy I describe have any clue to what it is to be an American. Probably not.
Would you be offended as an American if you bumped into a guy like that in China. I would and am everytime I bump into a person like in China and I'm asian.
There is nothing wrong with being open to other culture. There is also nothing wrong with having biases. However, you must also realistically understand even though you have had a lot of contact to asian things as oppose to your other white counterparts, you've only touched the tip of the iceberg of asian, or in your case Japanese, culture.
AC Dropout
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 11:40:10 (PST)
Comments from Devon McCallister and Amy opened the door if realization. I didn't know that the NAACP has stringent restrictions against non-black family adopting black children. that's a shame. i watched WNBC-NY and wondered why are there so many black orphans featured on Wednesday Child program. now i understand. i live in the Bronx ghetto and don't comprehend why parents are letting their teenage kids have children?! that's plain irresponsible. well, if we're to talk about the ghettoness, a lot are wrong with the community. anyways, from the comments, seems to me that many Asians are protective are their own, but not necessarily narrow-minded. One advice i urge to Asians is to not be shun by bad experiences with people, everyone! Why make life stereotypical and unpleasantly stressful? you're not in your own world... everyone else live here too.
JJ
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 10:53:55 (PST)
the only problem i have with white families adopting asian kids is, it seems to be the "trendy" thing to do. i've visisted countless numbers of big cities where i see parents toting around their adopted asian kid. it's almost kind of a status symbol it seems. i have no problem with people who adopt because they genuinely want to out of their heart. i just have a problem with the people who do it cause it's "fashion".
girl
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 09:20:44 (PST)
I know that this isn't really on-topic, but I haven't had much luck finding a place that it was on topic, and I feel like I should say it. I'm a young caucasian woman, and I strongly believe in adoption, and always intended to adopt children of other nationalities. Due to various policies of the Chinese government, I've always assumed that I would probably adopt a Chinese child. I have every intention of raising any and all of my children with roots in their heritage as strong as I can give them. That isn't really the point, though. What's on my mind is that when I ended up on this site (and a couple other AA oriented sites), I discovered a lot of noise about racism. Yes, I know, it's naieve of me, but this really upset me. I come from a small town with a large technical university. Around here, Asians are all professors, graduate students, and children of the above. I have had Asian friends, as have my parents, and never thought about anyone being racist towards them. Not that I didn't know it happened, but it certainly never touched me. If anyone in our school ever bothered the Asians, it was rednecks, and heck, they tortured me too. My father is a blackbelt in two different forms and lived and taught in China for many months. One of my best friends (white) is a buddhist. I have a Japanese uncle, and hence two stunningly beautiful (and intelligent and sucessful) half-Japanese cousins. I watch martial arts flicks far more often than American action movies and endure 2-hour downloads just to get anothr episode of Ruroni Kenshin. I just...well, I've failed to keep this short, but I just wanted to state clearly that not all whites are racist, and...well, maybe why I'm so upset is that Asian culture has been such a part of my life, and it's hard to find that many Asians might actually resent that and feel that I have no right to "their culture." I don't seem to be able to draw this all into a neat conclusion, I'm afraid, but I've tried to provide a different point of view, and I hope that it gives you something to think about. If anyone has anything to respond to or add to what I've said, I'd be more than happy to talk to you via email, as this issue is very much bothering me.
Amy squrrl@vt.edu
Wednesday, February 20, 2002 at 12:04:08 (PST)
If those complaining about the gender disparity in international adoptions would stop complaining for a few minutes and actually do a tiny amount of research they would realize that the vats majority of international adoption agencies do not allow the adopting parents to choose the gender of the adoptee. Thus the desires of the adopting parents have no effect whatsoever on th egender disparity. Th edisparity is entirely caused by the situation in the originating nations.
YS
Wednesday, February 20, 2002 at 11:06:48 (PST)
As an Korean American raised in a white family, I don't think that it is a bad idea for white families to adopt Asian american children. I was exposed to Korean culture from a very young age. Even though I felt like sort of an outsider in the overwhelmingly white community in which I was raised, I think that cultural heritage must take a back seat to the real goal of adoption. To place children who have been given up by their biological parents in homes where they can be happy, loved, and safe. While it's good to expose children to their culture, it's more important for children to be in a home as opposed to a hospital or orphanage.
Adoptee
Tuesday, February 19, 2002 at 17:12:34 (PST)
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