(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 04:26:01 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are Asian American, which best describes your feeling toward Asians who grew up in adoptive white families?
I can relate with them as I do with other AA. | 27%
They put me off by seeming more white than Asian. | 22%
I make an effort to be understanding of their situation. | 19%
I am unsure how to relate to them. | 32%

Assuming you are an Asian adoptee raised by a white family, which best describes your own feelings?
I feel perfectly comfortable around Asians. | 18%
I make an effort to fit in with Asians so I can reclaim my proper identity. | 38%
I have all but given up trying to fit in with Asians. | 27%
I am comfortable around Whites and see no reason to be with Asians. | 18%

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Okay Kim I can understand you're feelings. My advice for you is try getting involved more in Asian cultural groups. So that way you can fully understand the culture in which you were born.Try to find some people who were also born in your country,learn the language, visit the country of your birth, etc.....and I can garantee you will start to fit in.
Now Devon, I think your testimony sounds great.It's good to know that people of other races care about people of our race.I'm mulatto and never denie that I'm not Black. It's also nice to now that an African American couple has adopted internationally.
My plans are to adopt children from:
India, China, Korea, Thailand, Africa, Brazil, Kazakhstan (central Asia),and Romani children(gypsy). I thought about Mongolia
in which I will be traveling there in 2005 to build a children's home for street children. But unfortunatly Monglia has strong restrictions and the citizen prefer that their children be adopted inter-country.There's much concern as far as the children of the world.
Kennita    Friday, May 03, 2002 at 10:17:44 (PDT)
To: beachgerl

I read your post on adoptees. Please email me. I am also a female Asian adoptee with a hearing loss. I would be interested in hearing more about your experiences as a hearing impaired asian adoptee.
sundri    Saturday, April 27, 2002 at 21:10:44 (PDT)

I liked your post.
albi    Tuesday, April 23, 2002 at 23:01:25 (PDT)
To so_it_goes:

Looking back, when I was growing up, I got accustomed to being different from other people 'cause I was lost in my own world with books, writings, etc. and didn't socialize that much. I focused a lot on my sister who needs lots of help. But yes I did have identity issues growing up and got depressed for few years 'cause I never understood why there's not lots of people like me around (where I grew up). I did meet another Corean-American as a kid, but she's kind of wild girl, unlike me. She dyed her hair red/orange. She has total disregard for her Corean culture and values in her home. I've seen some of it. So I got used growing around white kids 'cause I had no problems with them. My family's white so people saw that. Big deal. Moving to California helped a little, feeling I belonged, but in the end, it's I who I have to turn to 'cause friendships don't last forever, nor do families. So I have to look after myself and I have a Mexican-American boyfriend.

In college I finally got to meet more Asians but they're very traditional meaning they're VERY close to their families, carry out traditional values, live together, and support their families financially or otherwise. I opted to live far away from my family and don't support my family financially or otherwise. I wanted to be independent, while traditional Asians aren't that independent. They stick close around their families, I'm not like that. I did make several Asian friends from varying backgrounds (Malaysia, Corea, China, Taiwan, Japan, Vietnam and Thai) but in the end we didn't stay close 'cause they graduated or moved away. Those who remained behind never bothered staying in touch with me even after I made efforts to stay in touch with them. I just gave up basically 'cause they must think I'm not someone special and they all already had that kind of bond before I came in the scene. Friendship thing can suck, even if they're Asians. That's why I had one Asian friend who stayed in touch with me ever since and I did the same in return.

My invisible disability is hearing loss. Therefore, I'm hearing-impaired meaning I rely on sign language and interpreters. I can speak but not on the same level as hearing folks. Most people in general are afraid of people like me 'cause they don't understand or how to handle me, even worse if I'm an Asian, a woman and an adoptee. But I overcame the obstacles by receiving college education, having a good job, and getting things I need to live. I'm not afraid of my identity anymore and I am happy with who I am. I'm a strong believer. I have dreams to achieve, too. I'm on that track now.
beachgerl    Wednesday, April 17, 2002 at 12:08:43 (PDT)