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CHINESE MALE/ COREAN FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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David,
Only because I trust him I believe him when he says that he loves me. But he acts weird sometimes. Maybe it's OK with him, but it's not OK with me at all. Believe me, I had a lot and a lot of "nice little chats" with him. All the time he says that he just didn't know that what he does hurts me so much, he swears that it's not gonna happen again. And it doesn't happen. Something else happens. And we have to sit and talk again. I'm getting tired of it. I need understanding. I don't want to explain what is good and what is bad all the time. I want the man I love to understand it and not to put my trust under pressure all the time. You know, it's OK once, it's OK twice, it's even OK when it happens for the third time, but then its too much. You would say, dumb him, what's your problem. I cannot. I love him. But there is a limit to everything. He's under probation now. He doesn't know it of course. I decided to give him two more chances :-). Does the person who hurt me so many times deserve these two chances? Maybe one is enough? I just really love him and hope he won't screw up. I know it's weak. But that's what I decided.
Tired girl
Thursday, September 12, 2002 at 05:48:38 (PDT)
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to Tired girl
your case is interesting, but really, how do you know that he really loves u?
It takes at least 2 years just to find out what the other person is about. If you have suspicions about him, then you dont have the trust in him, and if u dont have the trust in a relationship, it's just pointless. Sit down and have a nice little chat with him if he's mature enough to do that. And if you really love him, you should trust him, it is very normal to find others attractive even if u r already in love with someone, but as long as he still cares for u the most, u have nothing to worry about. So take some time to observe his behaviours.
As for the princess thing, i'm not sure how he treats u that way, ur not too clear on that.
If he really uses u, then i'd have to feel sorry, i mean there are many good Asian men out there!
Take time
David
Tuesday, September 10, 2002 at 15:09:20 (PDT)
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Hey Experienced Chinese AM,
It's not that he is first real Asian I've dated. It doesn't really matter I guess in my case. It's just the type of person he is. Or there might be something wrong with me, with my attitude. I am seriouly seriouly thinking about breaking up with him now. I'm gonna give him one more chance.
Tired girl
Monday, September 09, 2002 at 01:52:15 (PDT)
Tired Girl,
I'm assuming when you say that you are seriously dating an AM for the first time, you've only been dating caucasions prior.
First of all, dating an AM and caucasions are very different. Because both are from different backgrounds and cultures, what you'll experience is usually very different between the two. Understanding that there are significant differences and being open to it will always help.
However, there are a lot basic things that should be expected from either...and one very important item is being open and honest with each other.
What does he do that makes you suspicious? What does he do that makes him feel he is treating you like a princess. By not talking, both of you will only create walls of suspicion and tension. One day that wall will be so tall and so think neither of you can pass through. What's especially worse is if this problem is already happening at the very beginning of your relationship.
It's better to find out NOW that you are not compatible than 6 months down the road to discover that both of you have wasted your time. That's 6 months of being available on the market for a REAL relationship.
Experienced Chinese AM
Saturday, August 31, 2002 at 02:51:48 (PDT)
Hey, eveybody! I need a help! I am dating Chinese guy. He is the first AM I've dated in my life. I am AF by the way. It's not that I didn't like AM, but it just happened so that I didn't have a chance to date AM before. So he is first serious Asian I've dated. The problem is that he thinks that he treats me like a princess. If fact, he doesn't. Most of the time I just get the impression that he uses me. And obviously I cannot tell him this. Moreover, he swears that he doesn't cheat on me. But there is always something that makes me doubt it even if I want to trust him. I am so tired of it.
Tired girl
Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 10:01:02 (PDT)
To Shawn and others,
Yes i do agree with your assertion that it does not make any difference whether Chinese and Koreans date each other, as it all comes down to physical attraction.
I,m S.african-Chinese living in Jhb, and met a pretty korean girl on a tour of california a few years ago and we chatted just like anybody would to find out more about each other. She lives in Seoul and came to visit me in S.A. last year .She certainly does not seem to have any aversion to the fact that i,m chinese, and nor do i really care that she is korean, as long as she is pretty and attractive who even thinks about that.
There are so many similarities in culture so i dont know why everyone on this board is so derogatory about such pairings.
So those who dont approve of such unions have a choice to go elswhere .
I have heard from a cousin that the women in seoul are good looking but i,m sure that you will find attractive oriental women everywhere and not only in Seoul. And yes i,ve also heard about the women in Shanghai.One day i will go to Korea and take a look for myself, but i,m going to singapore and Thailand at the end of the year and i,m sure i,m likely to see just as attractive and pretty women.
As long as they are attractive who really cares whether they are Chinese or Korean.After all, people who dont like each other will not be together as lovers or friends.
S.A.-Chinese
Monday, August 26, 2002 at 05:23:41 (PDT)
Looked down upon by corner take out owners? PLEEEEZZZ. And I guess serving dirty greasey food while sweating your balls off is better? Makes some sense, loser.
Who says all Chinese own restaraunts? LOL why don't you make some sense?
I rather be a liquor store owner any time than own a hole in the wall take out.
Chinese restaraunts are very popular with mainstream society, alot of the owners make good money and for those that own several make a fortune. I can't really say the same about liquor stores.
As you know the restaurant business is an insanitary business.
While alot of restaraunts are rather dirty, on the same token alot are rather clean so can't say I agree too much.
And think about it most of these Corean store owners are first generation.
As are most Chinese restaraunt owners, your point? Besides, Chinese are huge food business people. They don't just own TO's, many of them are entrepreneurs of corporate franchises (Denny's, Burger King, etc.) as well.
Yup
Tuesday, August 20, 2002 at 20:34:03 (PDT)
Can we stop the bashing once and for all between Koreans and Chinese.
I really liked the letters from "Shawn" and "Korean Man" , it tells me there is hope for us.
ABC
Tuesday, August 20, 2002 at 19:50:54 (PDT)
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