(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:23:45 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a male of Chinese ancestry, what most attracts you to females of Japanese ancestry?
Their facial features | 67%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 22%
Their education and cultural values | 5%

Assuming you are a male of Chinese ancestry, what most dissuades you from relations with females of Japanese ancestry?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 8%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 18%
Assuming you are a female of Japanese ancestry, what most attracts you to males of Chinese ancestry?
Their facial features | 46%
Their physique | 8%
Their attitude and personality | 24%
Their education and cultural values | 22%

Assuming you are a female of Japanese ancestry, what most dissuades you from relations with males of Chinese ancestry?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 4%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 68%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 22%

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Your best bet would be to move to California. Way more Japanese here than anywhere else. Besides, Asians elsewhere tend to be more whitewashed.
Move man    Saturday, November 02, 2002 at 19:42:16 (PST)    []
To John John

I am not sure if you have been coming back here to see comments any more. The truth is, I didn't come back in a while, or long time either. Things have changed a lot between my boyfreind and myself. I have met his parents.(to follow up, they are Chinese, obviously so is my boyfriend. I am 100% Japanese with Japanese citizenship but living in US) His parents are pretty old, old enough to have bad impression of Japanese. I had always been afraid that they might dislike me because of my nationality but ever since the first time I met them, they have been treating me as if I am their real daughter. If they are the parents of somebody I love, they should not be narrow minded, I now realized it.
Yuki    Tuesday, October 15, 2002 at 15:18:59 (PDT)    []
I am a Chinese American living in the Northeast. What would be the best ways/places to search/dig Japanese girls? Can anybody give some suggestions?
Jim    Monday, September 23, 2002 at 19:06:14 (PDT)    []
Hot Babe,

I like your idea/comment. It's so refreshing and encouraging :)
Mr. I    Monday, September 23, 2002 at 02:26:32 (PDT)    []
Why are Asian families so racist? This entire website is about brainwashing those who view it to avoid us Japanese girls. I say, get in there and find a Japanese girl. You got to move it move it! There is no time like the present to experience Japanese girls! We are modern and very crazy!!! That is the perfect wife! If our parents don't like you, who cares! Love between lovers is what counts most -- and beautiful children!
Hot Babe    Thursday, September 19, 2002 at 01:05:03 (PDT)    []
Chinese guys with Japanese girls is much more so than with Corean girls Saturday, August 10, 2002 at 23:39:10 (PDT)

I believe it, Coreans girls don't dig Chinese guys. Coreans associate Chinese Americans with southeast Asians.
Seri    Sunday, September 15, 2002 at 17:53:54 (PDT)    []
This post is not for those Japanese girls in Japan, but the Japanese-American girls here.

I know that Chinese-American and Japanese-American intermarriages with each other are very common in California and Hawaii.

In fact, after whites, they probably marry each other more than with other Asians or other racial minority groups. This is true in the case of Chinese-Americans. Our most common outmarriage partners (for both genders) are whites, followed by Japanese-Americans, then Mexicans, followed by other Asians and blacks.

I find many Japanese-Americans to have the same easygoing and laid back mentality as the Chinese-Americans. Our parents and grandparents generations suffered a lot from racism and as a result humbled us (most Democrat Party members are Chinese-Americans and Japanese-Americans). We are sensitive to racism issues. Our forefathers also taught us to not only be humble, but to be cheap and stingy as well (eg. parents taking home the leftovers from a restaurant meal). We don't have much of a temper. And, we have a sense of industry and diligence. Our diet is similar, in that we live by seafoods, vegetables, noodles and rice. We play and enjoy the same sports. We dress the same and follow the same trends at school. Our parents do not object a bit to our associating and dating (unlike interracial partners). We longed to leave the socioenvirons. of our respective Chinatowns and Japantowns, etc., but in the real world, we still find that we got people who resemble us so much. We also have a sense of communal responsibility, and that is why most Asian Pacific organizations and law offices are dominated by Chinese-Americans and Japanese-Americans. University professors in Asian-American studies are also mainly from these 2 ethnicities. The similarities go on, and I cannot list them all in one day...

Bottom line, is that Chinese-American and Japanese-American intermarriages are more common than we think.

Chinese-American boys fall in love with Japanese-American girls, and Chinese-American girls fall in love with Japanese-American boys. They see such vast similarities, but there is still the thrill and excitement of dating and marrying someone from a different ethnic background, no matter how similar they might be racially and culturally. Actually, from what I know the Chinese-Americans find some pleasing physical features among Japanese-Americans, and vice versa.
Chinese guys with Japanese girls is much more so than with Corean girls    Saturday, August 10, 2002 at 23:39:10 (PDT)
To Yuki:

From my point of view...Ithink your boyfriend is afraid of his parents or he just want to play a short term game with you...can you tell me how old are you and your boyfriend ages too?? because i did the same thing before to my ex-gf. just want to have a sex relationship with her...I'm feeling bad..anyways...good luck...
John John    Sunday, July 14, 2002 at 21:00:59 (PDT)

Japanese girls on average, I don't know, do not look better than HK girls.
But,there is a kind of uniqueness/charm about them that is peculiar of Japanese girls.
I was watching this Japanese soap the other day, I think it's called Tabloid. (has T.Kashiwabara in it) There is a girl in there that I think looks so typically Japanese, not the main charater but the other girl. That woman is not pretty at all, but there is like really cool uniqueness about her.
by the way, chinese girls i think look the best but many do not have as much charm in a sense.
oh yeah, i think that kyoko fukada look alot like zhao wei.
really i think that zhao wei is alot prettier but kyoko has more charm probably guys would prefer her over zhao.
Zhao wei    Monday, July 08, 2002 at 10:13:28 (PDT)
Some might, bu they usually go crazy for Chinese/Korean celebrities. Then again, they go crazy for American celebrities as well.
Intermarriage rate in Japan is still VERY low.
Japanese girls are like any other girls. Some may like you, others will not.
aa dood    Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 15:24:36 (PDT)
Is it true that some Japanese girls go crazy for Chinese/Korean guys?
Harry    Friday, June 14, 2002 at 11:43:04 (PDT)
Japanese girls from Japan are the most sexually open. In my opinion, even more so than other race women. They don't display it, but when you make a move, they will respond. They know all the tricks that you know.

Of course, you got to be nice to them.

Is it true that some Japanese families will actually disown their daughters for marrying a Chinese or Korean guy?

Japanese American girls are cool though. They outmarry not because they hate Japanese-American guys, but because they want something new. Sometimes, when you date or marry your own, it just feels like you are dating or marrying your own brother/sister. They are not hard to approach, and actually a couple of the Japanese American girls told me that they would give first chance to other Asian guys if they would have approached them. And, she asked me if it was true that Chinese, Viet and Flip guys go crazy for Japanese and Korean chicks.

I didn't know what to say. But, I said if I had a choice to kiss her or the other Chinese girls I knew, I wouldn't think twice and do it to her.

So, she started to play games with me. She asked me to go down and lick her light feet. I did. Up and down, and it ain't in Chinatown. She then asked me to bark like a dog. I did: "woof, woof, woof." She was laughing non-stop and I knew she was mine already.

She finally asked me to behave like a dog that night. I obeyed my master.

Two years and we are still together. It is serious now.
Asian guys got to be dogs to their own women sometimes    Saturday, June 08, 2002 at 20:07:06 (PDT)
Chinese guy, who finds Japanese girls irresistibly pretty,

Let me shed more light for you. I actually lived in Japan for a while and find most Japanese girls incredibly better looking than HK girls, although most of them are shorter, and they tend to have much lighter skin tones. Their style are more elegant, like Burburrys and Ann Taylor. Most enjoy eating, drinking and shopping. If you really want to score some points, take them to a nice Italian or French restaurant is probably a good choice. They are much more polite and courteous than HK girls. And lots of bows of course
Proud Terp    Tuesday, June 04, 2002 at 09:08:36 (PDT)
T.H. Lien,

Thank you very much for your reply!

I have gotten a lot of useful information from your post, especially about the conventional style, in terms of looks, a Japanese girl looks for =)

About the most popular haircut for guys with the most success, is it possible if you could find a pic for it?

Also, are there any significant differences in approaching or treating a Japanese-American as compared to a pure Japanese girl?

And I know this may sound a bit broad, but are there any particular specialities a Japanese girl would tend to look for in a guy?

Thanks again!

P.S. You're absolutely right about Japanese-accented Cantonese sounding really cute. I totally agree! In fact, it kinda floors me or puts me in hypnosis when I hear it =P
Chinese guy, who finds Japanese girls irresistibly pretty    Thursday, April 11, 2002 at 01:57:04 (PDT)