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CHINESE MALE/ JAPANESE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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Though the topic is on JF and ChAM, I see very few comments from Japanese.
I always think this is Jap's weakness...
Be a little assertive!!
Me being JF have to make some comments here...
Issue 1: JF being crazy for WM and BM:
There has been a trend to have WM or BM as a boyfriend among true JF. You see how people are so busy following trends in Japan. Anyway, I assume girls just believed its so cool to go out with somebody very different. Also in most of places in Japan, we still do not meet non-Japanese people. So a lot of girls think that whole US is filled with Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise.. those super-gorgeous people from movies. Because we don't see non-good looking WM/BM, we don't think there are... sounds funny but its quite true. Just like people in minor cities in US think that there are no Asian with big eyes..
I am just pointing out the simplicity of general JF at the same time, AM shouldn't think JF look down on you guys.
Issue 2: JF in US look down on other non AF?? (some girl pointed this out earlier)
Ok, here is what I think. I have been in US for several years now. Most of my closest friends here in US are non-J AF.
We get along but at some point, I feel that they try to compete me in a lot of ways, from adademics to clothing, even how much attentions we get from guys etc... I am trying to figure out why... but not too sure yet. (Maybe not too much about different nationalities part but just about us being girl?)
Anyway, When I was walking through a room, there were a couple of AF groups around. They were literally checking me head to toe. I also sensed that those girls knew that I was Japanese. I hated the air there at that moment. There was this unexplainable tensed air... Its not only once I felt this way, I do feel the same whenever similar situations come up.
I was told from other JFs the very similar experiences too. So.. Are we supposed to walk through this situation as we feel sorry for the weird air existed for us being there? So we try to have this "we don't care what you guys think of us" attitude, I guess that makes other AFs to think we are stuck up or we look down of other girls.
The reality is we, Jap has merely smaller community compare to other Chinese or Korean communities in US.
So... we are a bit scared of AF groups gethering together but we try not to show that we are scared.
Issue 3: Main topic: ChAM and JF...
Why not?
I am with a Chinese guy for more than a year. We haven't found any cultural difference disturbance. But in reality, whether it works out or not isn't just up to him and me but anybody around us also. A problem might be the fact his parents do not have a good impression of Japanese but our relationship hasn't gone that far to involved his parents yet.
I am very sorry for what Japan has done to other countries in our shameful history.
As much as I wish I could do something, there is nothing I can do about it.
When I was in Japan older people poured biased statement of other countries into me or young generations. A lot of people are not lucky enough as I am to see the world by coming to different countries but to trust what old have told them... its sad but it will not change for a little while.
JF in Boston
Friday, February 22, 2002 at 15:20:53 (PST)
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