Chinese Male / Japanese Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

CHINESE MALE/ JAPANESE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:23:42 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a male of Chinese ancestry, what most attracts you to females of Japanese ancestry?
Their facial features | 67%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 22%
Their education and cultural values | 5%

Assuming you are a male of Chinese ancestry, what most dissuades you from relations with females of Japanese ancestry?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 8%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 18%

Assuming you are a female of Japanese ancestry, what most attracts you to males of Chinese ancestry?
Their facial features | 46%
Their physique | 8%
Their attitude and personality | 24%
Their education and cultural values | 22%

Assuming you are a female of Japanese ancestry, what most dissuades you from relations with males of Chinese ancestry?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 4%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 68%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 22%

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Chinese guy who finds Japanese girls irresistably pretty:
Hehe. I think Japanese-accented Cantonese is really cute. I guess you're around university or a few years post-university age? Anyway here's my observations regarding Japanese girls in HK who are around my own age. I may have a slightly strange perspective for ya (I'm an exchange student from the US, I speak Japanese and Cantonese, and I'm also half-Chinese and look Arabic so people are confused when either one of the above languages comes out of my mouth), but I hope you'll find a lot of this applicable.

style: you've probably noticed, Japanese girls wear lots of makeup. Slightly longer hair also seems to be in these days. Don't seem to like long denim skirts, t-shirts/crew-neck sweatshirts, or "chicken wing sleeve" shirts. All in all, clothing tends to be bright colored and eclectic, but more high-class/elegant. As for the Japanese guys who have the most success with them, the popular haircut seems to be just brushed forward, no part, a bit long, covering the ears. Light-colored subtle plaid baggy shirt (short sleeves), dark-colored jeans or something similar. It's your call on how you best present yourself if you think the style doesn't suit you.

personality: hard to comment. Less conservative than HK girls on the whole, except when it comes to the area of interpersonal relationships.

values/culture: a minority prefer hanging around guys as opposed to girls and you might consider them your best bet ... I don't know about that, though. But many are less open than HK girls to the process of independently befriending lots of guys as a way of finding a boyfriend, even in a large group setting it's hard to get to know them. (also, if the group is Japanese, even if your Japanese is very good a lot of the group dynamic will just go straight over your head until you get used to it. This may be worth it just to get yourself into place in the social network, but the group will probably be a bit more hierarchical and status-conscious than you're used to).

Basically unless you're dealing with a Japanese girl who speaks good Chinese (or maybe English), she, like all foreigners, will rely heavily on a small social circle which speaks her own language. Only route is to get her away from the group while at the same time offering her the opportunity to expand her social circle a bit, best way to accomplish that first break from the group is get her to go out somewhere with you, her, and another guy and girl, preferably one she doesn't but can still communicate with her.

Hope that helps! good luck ...
T.H. Lien Monday, April 08, 2002 at 00:18:55 (PDT)

Hi! I'm a Chinese-Canadian guy and I've only dated Chinese girls (non-native English speaking) and westernized Chinese girls before. Since I live in Hong Kong, there is a great lack in Japanese girls.

I personally find the majority of Japanese girls fantastically pretty. The cute and charming facial appearance of Japanese girls is what I am attracted to, as well as their natural beauty and taste for fashion. Those are the main reasons why I'm really interested in dating Japanese girls. (Who doesn't want a hot date :)?)

However, due to my lack of interaction with Japanese girls, I am unfamiliar with their styles, general personality, and culture. I've only dated Chinese girls before and since I'm Chinese myself, I had no particular surprises in terms of culture, values and styles. I'm sure with Japanese girls, the case could be quite different.

Can anyone please give me advice on the differences in styles, general personality, values, and culture between Japanese girls and Chinese girls?
Chinese guy, who finds Japanese girls irresistibly pretty Wednesday, April 03, 2002 at 13:34:47 (PST)

To chinese aussie guy

Thanks for your comment. I appreciate it. Nowadays, Japanese guys would casually introduce their gfs to parents. I wasn't sure if that applies to Chinese guys too.
I try not to think too much about it, thanks a lot.
Yuki Monday, March 04, 2002 at 13:53:25 (PST)

To Yuki:

I could only assume why your boyfriend doesn't allow you to meet his parents:
1. It could be the case that he is afraid you will meet his parents' expectation or vice versa (his parents will not meet your expectation) after the meeting. You can find out by asking him what kind of girlfriend is right for him according to his parents. If you meet the criteria, then maybe he is afraid that his parents are not good enough for you. Then I suppose you know what to do next.

or

2. Perhaps he wants his relationship with you segregated. He wants privacy for the relationship, without parents' intervention or comments or criticism.
If he is a private guy, then this cause will be very likely.

or

3. You name it...

As far as I know, the reason why he doesn't allow you to meet his parents has nothing to do with his chinese nature/culture :)

Good luck...

chinese aussie guy Friday, March 01, 2002 at 22:24:24 (PST)

to JF in Boston:

Hi! Konnichiwa!

Are you really one of those super-gorgeous Japanese ladies in Boston?

I will always remember you (hot Japanese ladies) from the time when I was in Boston a couple of years ago... unfortunately I never went out with any of you at that time... although there were a couple of fine J-girls who make passes at me...

anyway, i am a VERY handsome ABC guy who really appreciates beautiful J-girls.
i just want to say ARIGATO for posting here, beautiful J-girls are really the best!

ABC who loves gorgeous Japanese girls Tuesday, February 26, 2002 at 18:50:15 (PST)

Question to Chinese guys
{I am 100 % Japanese}
I have been going out with my boyfriend who is Chinese, its has been more than a year. Things are going very well. However, my concern is the fact I haven't met his parents. I'd love to meet them and they want the same. But my boyfriend doesn't let me meet them. What does it mean?
Yuki Tuesday, February 26, 2002 at 15:11:14 (PST)

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