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CHINESE MALE/ VIETNAMESE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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out of nowhere:
I am a northern Chinese from Beijing and I have never thought of myself as being superior to Vietnamese...
I do not see that much difference between Chinese and Vietnamese in a sense of mentality...or physiques...at least not any more different than Northern Chinese are from Southern Chinese...
In fact...I think that Southern Chinese in Fujian and such...can probably relate better to Vietnamese than they can to Northern Chinese...
I am not advocating the notion that all asians are Chinese...but I think that Asians are..unique...yet similiar enough to each other that there does not exist the problem of who is superior or inferior...
I think Vietnamese guys are very hot...
I also like Indonesian guys...and they kind of look Vietnamese...I think...
Sunday, December 15, 2002 at 11:43:14 (PST)
All I have to say is if you are friend with the wrong people you will get treat badly. I admit there are good Vietnamese and bad Vietnamese so I try to avoid the bad Vietnamese. It is true that a person can judge who you are by the people you befriended. The way you act and talk will attract a certain group of people. If you say that all Vietnamese are rapists and gangsters you know you are wrong. And the more you make those stereotypes it will get into people head that who we really are which is not true. If you were treat badly by a Vietnamese, well too bad for you, because you deserve it for having friends who are not good people.
I don't know why Chinese people think they are superior to us, well, keep on thinking like that you will get somewhere in life. And for those Vietnamese who believe them you must be very weak minded to believe them. You must not know anything about the your own culture because it has it's ups and downs. Vietnamese people, Vietnamese culture, and Vietnam as a country are very beautiful. If you don't want to be Vietnamese you can not just changed your race the next day and say I don't want to Vietnamese anymore, let me be Chinese. But why would you want to be Chinese, they have their ups and downs to and how are going to be special if you are one out of a billion people.
Chinese people are respected by the Cambodian people while the Vietnamese people are not. Do you know why? It is not because we are inferior to the Chinese but it goes back in history when we took over the Cambodian's land so they will always resent that, not because Chinese are any better. If the Cambodian favored the Chinese over us then sooner or later the Chinese will take over the whole country and expand their territory into Southeast Asia, now that would not be wise, so why don't the Cambodian people give us a chance will they and get along with us, we are like brothers.
My question to you is can you give me a clear reasons the Chinese are better than Vietnamese or vice versa?
Another question is do you agree with me that if you hang with the wrong crowd, they will come back to hurt you?
My last question is how far have the Vietnamese gone in America and have they been assimilate, or are they willing to assimilate to the American custom, and why?
out of nowhere
Tuesday, December 03, 2002 at 17:56:07 (PST)
To, the carrot;
Oh and that bragging thing about the degrees their child gets. That's something most asians do, and not just the Viets. HOPE YOU KNOW THAT, before you attribute that only to the Vietnamese character. I live in a city where Viets aren't so big of a population and i'm raised Viet, i can read Viet, write Viet, dress Viet if i have to, know all the customs (marriage, funeral, tet or festivals and celebrate them too), i went to Viet schools three days a week until i graduated HS and know more Viet history then probably 95% of the North American born Viets do. And i know why the Viets would breg. Because of the relative smaller size of Viets i hang around people who are white, chinese, black, blue whatever. I'm not whitewashed, bluewashed or whatever you want to call it. I am myself and myself is who i am. From my experience i see that all backgrounds have people who are proud of their children, most of the time over prided.
Mainly for face. Because of the relative poverty of the general Viets in the past (it'll improve in a few decades, C'mon we've only been here for 30 years it took the chinese a hundred years just to be average and the immigrants who come here later on usually are already filled with cash) no one wants to say their poor, and if they are and it's obvious no one wants to be unsuccessful, or atleast at raising a child. In the Vietnamese society your families success relies on loyalty, charity (philanthropy), virtue and education. Status is NOT measured by money but by loyalty, charity (philanthropy), virtue and education and this can be seen through your child if it's true and not faked. So if you can prove that you can raise a good child, then you yourself have these traits. When you can prove it, you would LOVE to show it off, even though it contradicts what you have just gained.
Get it? It happens because of this race to be better or atleast equal status. And it happens to everyone.
SO STOP IT. For all those who keep on bringing this up and giving such an attribute ONLY to the viets. It happens to every ethnic OK! Get's so annoying. It's like trying to say only blacks steal cars, or only Jews got killed in WWII. It's not true. Actually ridiculous.
Just to add on, because the relative success level in Vietnam is low, in the USA people succeed so much easier. People are proud of their children when they get their degree because in Vietnam it's so much harder and the parents grow up to think University is hard. In North America school is provided abroad and success in education isn't hard. Over half of my friend went to University, and a quarter are still in Universtiy while the rest have a well to do career (usually business). And because most Viets think it's hard they get EXTREMELY proud, and because of the number of succesful viets grow, you'll see it more often. It's kind of like a phase, it'll go away in a few decades when people start to realize that everything is easier here in North America (but more expencive though).
My father always said that business was so much harder in Vietnam then it is here. Too much competition in Vietnam, too many people trying to climb up. While in USA there is competition, but the competition isn't like an enemy in war trying to kill you either.
Sunday, October 27, 2002 at 01:13:42 (PDT)
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