Chinese Male / Vietnamese Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

CHINESE MALE/ VIETNAMESE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:23:26 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a male of Chinese ancestry, which of the following most attracts you to females of Vietnamese ancestry?
Their facial features | 72%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 13%
Their education and cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are a male of Chinese ancestry, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with females of Vietnamese ancestry?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 68%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 18%

Assuming you are a female of Vietnamese ancestry, which of the following most attracts you to males of Chinese ancestry?
Their facial features | 63%
Their physique | 8%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 14%

Assuming you are a female of Vietnamese ancestry, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with males of Chinese ancestry?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 10%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 71%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 18%

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For ALL you Chinese People out there:

I grew up admiring the Chinese culture, but since I started going to school in Irvine, it seems as though most of the Chinese people that I intereacted w/greatly scrutinize & sneer down upon Vietnamese people quite often!

At first, most Chinese people will ask me what my nationality is and they're usually very nice to me at first, but once I tell them I'm Viet then they get this surprised look on their face and then back away. Some will say, "Oh, well you're NOT really Viet, because you were born here!" It kind of hurts, it's as if they denounce me from my own culture as if it's such a disgrace. Then they'll start telling me all this ish like Viet people are often pre-judged by all of the other Asians as being warlike, barbaric communist, and of course other things that's not worth naming.

This caught me by surprise; especially, I've never heard of such nonsense about my own culture. It not only forces me to feel inferior, but also changed my attitude towards a culture I most admired while growing up.

I know that prejudice exists amongst every culture, but why is this negative attitude about Viets so prevalent amongst the Chinese culture?
Shocked, Sad & Confused Monday, August 12, 2002 at 17:51:34 (PDT)

First of all, this post is about Chinese male and Vietnamese female relationships, so I don't get what all this other bs is.

Anyways, I have a chinese bf (me, being the viet female). I really like him as a person, but i really hate his family, how they are very selfish towards one another. THey are all brothers and they would not help eachother out in any way. They don't even act as if they are related. The whole family rarely are seen together, everyone in the family just does their own thing. The whole family hasn't had one dinner together for 3 years. And if one bro needs to borrow money then the rest of the brothers will run quicker than lightning. (by the way, their ages are 17, 19(my bf), 22, and 24. Is this common or typical of a Chinese family to be so selfish? I am disgusted at how his brothers treat eachother, but I really believe it is how his parents raised them up. I mean like I really love my bf, but I can't stand his family values and morals. Vietnamese families are the complete opposite. They always support and love one another. My parents always taught me the importance of "family comes first". Love your family before you love an outsider. And that is why all the sisters in my house always supportive of one antoher.
Loan Chau Friday, August 09, 2002 at 14:08:00 (PDT)

To, Let's get along;

Just to let you know, the Muong and Hmong tribes aren't related. Someone in another forum is ignorant enough to think they're the same. WOW, they both have the ending 'uong'. OMG and he's viet too.

Just to let you know, so if you go searching up on a search engine if it mentions Muong, then it's not Hmong. The muong are indegeous to vietnam and are related to the viets. The hmong moved in later and is more numerous in laos i think.
Hafti Friday, August 09, 2002 at 12:03:03 (PDT)

i've seen Hmong before and they look like Han but they don't have light skin.
k Thursday, August 08, 2002 at 22:49:42 (PDT)

To, Let's get along;

The Hmong are mountainous tribes i think. I don't know much about them, never really meet one in real life. When i ask people from Vietnam, they just say the Hmong look asian and if they walk the streets of Saigon or any other big city they would probably have the same looks but a bit lighter due to their living in the mountains and usually in the north (i think).

HEY, at least you realize that there's more then one look for viets. Most people just say viets are dark, it's so untrue because if you ever go to vietnam it's not like that. Every region has it's differences.
Hafti Thursday, August 08, 2002 at 14:29:22 (PDT)

To v (viet girl)

I am 100% pure vietnamese guy. I am 5'7 and weigh 160 pds. All my friends said that I look like Chow Jun Fat (Chau Nhuan Phat) or handsome I would say.

So...
Marry Me! Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 20:11:17 (PDT)

[You belong on the Viet Men/Viet Women page. --Ed]

To v,

You generalized the Vietnamese's treatment/ attitute toward mixed folks in Vietnam. Maybe the Vietnamese in Vietnam that you know have that attitude. The Vietnamese in Vietnam that I know treat mixed folks with neutral attitude, neither negative or positive.

Be careful. There are about 80 million people in Vietnam. Please don't generalize.

All the best.
vietnamese-american Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 15:19:27 (PDT)

Not having been to Vietnam, I don�t know how folks in Vietnam look like. But from what I have seen in the West Coast USA, it seems there are three different facial types of Vietnamese.
In order of frequency I met. 1) Chinese looking; 2) somewhat Malay Looking; 3) Asian/White looking.
I admit my observation may not reflect the true and overall racial composition of Vietnamese. Enlighten me on this if you will.
From where I live, Coreans and Vietnamese seem to be getting along quite well. Based on my observation, the most frequent intra-Asian friendships among Coreans is with Vietnamese.
From my encounters with them, they all seem very nice folks.
By the way, can someone educate me on the �Hmong� people in Vietnam?
I often hear they are mistaken for Coreans? Are they really Corean looking? What are they?
Being Corean, I am kind of curious about them.
Thanks in advance.
Let's get along Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 08:38:34 (PDT)

Hafti,

I agree with you totally that vietnamese people are rarely mix with the french or american. I'm a vietnamese girl, and I know that in Vietnam, if you are a mix or whatever, the vietnamese people really treat you badly for it, the vietnamese people in vietnam does not like the mix people. Just because the french were in vietnam for a while does not mean that most of vietnamese people are mix with them, that is so untrue. look the the african american people who live with the white people for ages, I don't see them mixing alot, espeically back then. In vietnam, it's considered shameful if you are mix or whatever. Well, that's what I know, cause I'm vietnamese and my friends and family are vietnamese also, and they know that too.
v Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 15:22:45 (PDT)

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