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COREAN MALE/ COREAN FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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ka,
Perhaps taking to consideration about ethniticity is important. Since most asian family understand marriage is a union of 2 families, not 2 individuals.
That particular KA at the bar years ago was completely tackless.
I've dated my fair share of Korean females. From wannabe ganpe girls to all out church girls. Even though I knew their would not be much a future in these relationships. I never approach a fine AF with the line "Are
you Chinese?" Let alone walk away if your response was not to my liking.
AC dropout
Monday, April 15, 2002 at 01:40:01 (PDT)
-so_it_goes
I have to agree, I think when I cross an asian person I definitely check them out, as opposed to people of other races. This isn't to say that I'm not attracted to women of other races, but rather, when i see an asian woman entering a room, I check them out with the premise that they 'might' be a suitable partner for me. I don't think I have this same outlook with members of other race.
AC Dropout--
I'm not an exclusivist here, but I am realistic that a Korean American gal is more likely to understand where I'm coming from. So definitely given the same exact conditions, I will choose a Korean woman. I think a lot of the Korean guys are just being very pragmatic too--afterall, if they went out with non-koreans, they will be subjecting their g/fs to painful counter-reactionary elements back home(a.k.a. Korean parents). Isn't it better to let them off easy?
ka
Thursday, April 11, 2002 at 15:11:08 (PDT)
To So It Goes: I too have encountered the averted-eyes behavior, both in people I meet and in myself. After it happens I am always disappointed in myself for behaving this way, but it happens before I realize I am doing it. If I see that person coming towards me, I make a consious effort to acknowledge them now, in the name of brother- and sisterhood. But it is troublesome to me that when taken by surprise I sometimes behave as you described involuntarily. It pains me to admit that some of it is probably due to some embarassment at my Asianess, brought on by years of taunts and put-downs from having grown up in a white-only environment. I am trying hard to overcome those learned responses, but the things we learn in childhood often haunt us as adults. That is why I rail against what the media does to denigrate us. It does long term damage to us and our children, especially those of us who grow up in areas where we are not exposed to other Asians and positive images. We, as a group, need to show more solidarity and empathy for our shared American experience. We need to reach out to our brothers and sisters with the realization that what we go through we go through together and we only make it better together. To not be united in America is to be powerless.
Naki
Tuesday, April 09, 2002 at 18:00:26 (PDT)
so_it_goes,
This is my experience with the Korean pickup. I was at a dance club with some Chinese friends. One of the girls with us was about 5'8", a real stand-out glammed up for a night out.
We were at the bar getting drinks. When all of a sudden 3 korean guys come up to her.
One guy ask "Are you korean"
"No?" my friend replied and smiled "Are you?"
Without saying anything the Korean guys just kept on walking.
From my personal experience with Korean I know not all are like this. But it is a prevalent quality among Koreans.
AC Dropout
Tuesday, April 09, 2002 at 10:57:20 (PDT)
I'm sure I am not the only one who has sensed this, but when Asian people run across each other briefly, an exchange occurs when one makes eye contact, as if we are peering at each others souls in that solitary, unguarded moment. And when that connection is made, we avert our eyes suddenly. It's as if we are too afraid of going further than that one instantaneous moment of exchange. Has anyone else experienced such feeling? If so, what are your interpretations of this phenomena? Perhaps it is nothing at all but a mere consequence of being a minority (do African-Americans or Hispanics experience it?). Or maybe it is a consequence of attraction (does this brief exchange heighten emotion more over the opposite sex, or is the affect the same regardless of gender?). Any ideas?
Switching gears now...I see some Korean guys from Korea study at the university I attend and work at, and some of them are pretty cute. But I keep wondering if they think I'm a Chinese or Japanese girl because they don't say anything to me, like "Are you Korean?" In fact, more guys from other Asian countries seem more curious to find out where I am from. What's up with that?
so_it_goes
Monday, April 08, 2002 at 21:43:55 (PDT)
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