(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:53 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a woman, which most closely matches your idea of a great first date?
Coffee and Conversation | 51%
Picnic in the Country | 3%
Brunch and Tennis | 1%
Dinner and Movie | 45%

Assuming you are a woman, which gesture by your date would you most welcome?
Brings flowers or candy | 2%
Arrives precisely on time | 72%
Compliments your appearance | 9%
Calls the next morning | 17%

Assuming you are a woman, what's the worst mistake a guy can make on a first date?
Showing up late | 5%
Showing up badly dressed/groomed | 7%
Hogging the conversation | 3%
Making a premature sexual advance | 85%

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Yeah I know...

Stingy guys are a hunge turn-off...
I actually don't want guys to spend a lot on me...but they should at least be willing to... like makes them less of a man...
Right on...    Sunday, November 17, 2002 at 12:19:02 (PST)    []
To Each Her own,

HOW late is okay? 5 minutes? 20 minutes? I made that girl wait 15 minutes, but I'm sure I would have lost points with her if I was a minute later than that. I personally don't mind waiting 15 minutes, but any more than that I consider rude.
That's True Sometimes.    Sunday, November 10, 2002 at 15:27:28 (PST)    []
don't lie, I know it:

That is so not true! A lot of the times, yes, most young girls are most likely attracted to boys for their looks.

However, in the process of becoming a young woman, these ladies start to realized the bigger picture; in which the personality is what makes a guy most charming, but he needs to have of course, good hygene and eating habbits.
I mean, we don't want a man he's overweight because he eats everything that he sees.

Honestly, I can tell you for one thing, I used to date thuggy guys, but now, I'm more into the shy, quiet, studious guys. They are more of a turn on than some overgrown thuggy boy. I realize that these guys are the nice guys, they are the real man, and it turns me on...

I'd like to get to know them a little more, but their shyness is what keeps me from doing that.

So, keep your head up high; maybe, you had a couple of sour experiences. Just be patient, and the opportunity will come someday!
Adios Amigo!    Friday, November 08, 2002 at 16:36:27 (PST)    []
Only a good mannered and well-groomed man will attract me. I would not enjoy spending my time with a stingy guy because it would turn me off on a first date.
Lucy    Saturday, November 02, 2002 at 22:11:54 (PST)    []
Girls lie a lot. Many, if not most young and beautiful women are fixated on looks in a guy.

It really makes or breaks whether she wants to go with you a second time or even the first time around.

They don't get to know who we are inside, while a lot of the bad boys get all the play they can get simply because they are also pretty boys.
don't lie, I know it    Wednesday, October 23, 2002 at 21:18:32 (PDT)    []
That's true sometimes,

HAHHAHAA "charmed the pants off her"...nice. You're making me rethink what I said earlier! 0_0 but yeah...that WAS cute though...just hope that you weren't running your ass off because you wanted to make a good impression just to get her in the sack! =_=
To each her own!    Sunday, October 06, 2002 at 04:12:05 (PDT)    []
To Each her own,

yeah... I remember a time in college when I had a date with a really cute brown haired girl. I was late, so I ran down. I was like, "man.. *pant*.... I'm sorry....*pant* I"m so... late.."

And she was like "You ran all the way down here?"

I said "yeah.... *puff puff*"

She melted.

Lolz. That was the most ridiculous pimpin move I've ever (inadvertantly) pulled, but it sure charmed the pants off her. Haha... good times.
That's true sometimes.    Friday, October 04, 2002 at 01:39:22 (PDT)
I noticed that the percentage is very high requiring that your date arrives on time. Personally, it's alright with me if he's late. As long as he has a legitimate excuse and arrives with flowers...I'll be all smiles. I mean sure, anxiety sucks, but if he has a reason, then I'm alright with it. (As long as he doesn't do this all the time!)Plus, if he shows up looking very out of breath because he was in a rush, I find that kind of cute in a way, because he was stressing over meeting me on time. Perhaps I am simply quite the odd ball? Who knows?

...who cares?
To each her own!    Monday, September 30, 2002 at 02:38:42 (PDT)
I love vietnamese guys around 5'7" to 5'10", they are soo soo cute, I love their facial feature and bodies, they look so manly, not too girly. Any viet guys in here?

so of them so lean, they look so sexy
Angelina    Friday, July 19, 2002 at 12:32:28 (PDT)
Everyone just wants a little loving

Please get some professional help. You sound so desperately depressed, and I am unable to help you on a board like this.

There are good women out there, just like there are good men out there. It's not about the looks or about the money. If this was the case, I would have no faith left in the power of love.

I hope you find what you are looking for.
MLK    Friday, July 19, 2002 at 00:06:51 (PDT)

I have to disagree with you on that. Some girls live for the chase. I know many who would stay with a married man, even have a baby with him because he was her "Prince Charming." But, then there will be the nice guys, the quiet guys who let such girls treat them like sh*t and never get no love or play.

Men, especially good men, have feelings too. Those guys don't want to date no lady in her late 30s after she knows she's got no more assets to chase after those players, studs and hunks. Usually the guy they want to settle for later are the short, rich, fat and uglier dudes who are loyal and family minded. C'mon now, if those homelier guys got more money, they would want a young, hot fresh one, right?
Everyone just wants a little loving    Sunday, July 14, 2002 at 22:06:28 (PDT)
to RightOn

Wow, you've actually quoted, almost word for word, my "4 basic required characteristics in a man"!!! That's some memory you've got there.

to you girls know what I am talking about

Maybe you should look for females who are NOT clueless and barely out of highschool. Once they've been played around by chiseled-faced players (gosh, that sounds so...not-handsome to me) and hurt by tall hunks, they begin to see the light and start basing their preferences on less banal characteristics than mere looks and height.

Some guys got no game because they still look for love in all the wrong places and all the wrong faces.
MLK    Thursday, July 04, 2002 at 12:56:53 (PDT)
as u grow up, ur standards lower [or technically higher] themselves cos ur just that much desperate [for the guy to withold a conversation longer than 5 mins]
brit    Wednesday, July 03, 2002 at 11:03:48 (PDT)
For many young girls, I still think looks places a high importance.

I don't know about Asian women, but I am certain this is the case with other races women.

If you are not the right height or if your face is not chiseled enough like those on soap operas, odds are stacked against you.

You can just see how they look and respond at you during conversation. You can feel the vibes whether they are working or not.

Money and personality are secondary to looks in my opinion.

Most young girls would not even give a guy one chance if his looks did not pass her requirement test.

Some guys got no game, not because his plans are lacking, but because he wasn't even given a chance to play.
you girls know what I am talking about    Wednesday, June 26, 2002 at 00:11:42 (PDT)
all this talk about looks vs personality...! The fact is lots of really GREAT people have NEITHER ! And they're still great because there are other qualities a human being can have ( ie. culture, intelligence, honesty, integrity, etc. ) These are not always apparent, because the person can be shy, introvert or even "weird". There is nothing wrong with being different, every person is unique. From my experience, the stereotypical "cute guy" is usually shallow and suprisingly dumb.
RightOn    Wednesday, June 19, 2002 at 06:31:53 (PDT)
Just as long as the guy acts like himself, that is all that matters.
Jaden    Sunday, June 16, 2002 at 13:31:42 (PDT)
spoiled Viet lady-hey i don't know if this is too late but i would say don't let him get to far, from conversations and experiance, just go out and have a good time without to much of that "mushy" stuff or you'll regret it! he sounds like a really great guy (sounds pretty cute too:) and i hope that you have a good time with him. hey, it's okay if you can't find people that have a dated him before, you'll proabably just get a biased opinion him, and it might spoil things for you, then again, be careful, even guys you know can try and take advantage of you.
wendy    Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 10:38:27 (PDT)