WHAT WOMEN WANT ON A FIRST DATE
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a woman, which most closely matches your idea of a great first date?
Coffee and Conversation | 51%
Picnic in the Country | 3%
Brunch and Tennis | 1%
Dinner and Movie | 45%

Assuming you are a woman, which gesture by your date would you most welcome?
Brings flowers or candy | 2%
Arrives precisely on time | 72%
Compliments your appearance | 9%
Calls the next morning | 17%

Assuming you are a woman, what's the worst mistake a guy can make on a first date?
Showing up late | 5%
Showing up badly dressed/groomed | 7%
Hogging the conversation | 3%
Making a premature sexual advance | 85%
Dating is so 80's. I have never gone on a "date" in my whole life, and I'm soon to be 26. Nowadays, it's all about hooking up and just kickin' it. That way, there is no pressure. Just be yourself. You don't have to worry about where to go, how much to pay, what to buy, and all that crap. If you want to impress a girl, you have to show her your true colors, not some fake facade that you would display on a date.
Toi San Jai Eric@KristinKreuk.net    Sunday, December 30, 2001 at 12:44:04 (PST)
to "help me out":

if you think it went well and are afraid to go for the lips, the cheek is a very nice way to go. That way, if it didn't really go as well as you think, you won't lose anything.

if she wants(ed) the lips, she'll let you know -if not right away, next time. but if she didn't and you went for it, ... I don't know...

shy girl    Monday, December 17, 2001 at 17:11:11 (PST)
all i really want in a date is a great conversation. and for them to help plan the date.
aleea    Wednesday, December 12, 2001 at 19:36:47 (PST)
Bad Conversationalist,

As an Asian Canadian female, I think it is important that the guy I'm dating has good conversational skills. I want someone who has an opinion about things, whether it be about careers, life in general, sports and hobbies, or political/social issues.

It is okay if you don't have a strong command of the English language. What's more important is that you have something to say and that you say what you mean. That is, have strong opinions and thoughts, and be open and truthful about them.

I guarantee that good conversation will follow!
Talkative AF    Friday, December 07, 2001 at 21:20:39 (PST)
Here's a question for all you ladys. If we're on a date and it went well, would it be better to kiss your lips or you cheek when the date is over?
Help me out here    Sunday, November 18, 2001 at 21:49:54 (PST)
aa guy,

thanks, I always wondered about that.
aa girl    Sunday, November 04, 2001 at 06:10:09 (PST)
what do u gurls mean by conversation? I often get the impression that I am not assertive or out spoken enough sometimes vis-a-vis the opposite sex because I am not the very philosophical or humurous type of person. That is why I shy away from dating really educated women. What constitutes good conversation for most women? Family talk? Life? Career? Sports and hobbies? What???.......

I find this problem most acute when dating white Anglo women. Their figure of speech is more refined compared to other races women. But, many Americanized Asian, Latina, Indian and Middle Eastern girls fit this pattern too.
bad conversationist    Sunday, November 04, 2001 at 03:29:36 (PST)
pradaprincess,

I just went for it and kissed this girl right on the first date. She didn't seem to mind at all -- I could feel her trembling and her legs get all week. And when I hugged her right after we kissed, I could feel her heart beating furiously against my chest. Awww.... so cute. Anyway, we spent the whole evening talking and necking on top of a hill overlooking Los Angeles.
Ko-Rean Dood    Tuesday, October 23, 2001 at 13:19:32 (PDT)
aa girl,

on a first date, the guy ALWAYS pays. Yes, this does make it feel more like a date. But I woud expect her to maybe chip in or pay for the 3rd, 5th, and subquent dates, until I'm convinced that she isnt just leeching off my wallet.
aa guy    Monday, October 15, 2001 at 03:18:27 (PDT)
what i want on a first date is dinner, conversation, coffee, dessert, and conversation again. of course the guy should pay. first impressions mean a lot. a goodnight hug would be fine, but kissing on the first date or holding hands should be held off until further dates.
pradaprincess    Sunday, October 14, 2001 at 20:16:12 (PDT)

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