What Women Want on a First Date | Asian American Poll

WHAT WOMEN WANT ON A FIRST DATE
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:50 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a woman, which most closely matches your idea of a great first date?
Coffee and Conversation | 51%
Picnic in the Country | 3%
Brunch and Tennis | 1%
Dinner and Movie | 45%

Assuming you are a woman, which gesture by your date would you most welcome?
Brings flowers or candy | 2%
Arrives precisely on time | 72%
Compliments your appearance | 9%
Calls the next morning | 17%

Assuming you are a woman, what's the worst mistake a guy can make on a first date?
Showing up late | 5%
Showing up badly dressed/groomed | 7%
Hogging the conversation | 3%
Making a premature sexual advance | 85%

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Hi everyone,

I have questions for the ladies on this board. But first let me introduce myself: I am 33 year old Korean American male. I live near where there are many variety of people (one of the big cities in USA). As a curious person, about a month ago, I decided to try an online dating service. And here is my experience.

According to the online service which I used, in 30 days, 294 people read my profile and saw a couple of photos of me. That is about 9 people per day, who read my profile and saw photos of me. My profile was for women of any race. Now, the funny thing is among these 294 people no one contacted me. Yes, I had zero response. Also, I contacted about 12 ladies and no one responded to my e-mails. (see way below for descriptions of my profile and my ideal match.)

You may think that I must be butt ugly since I got zero response. Frankly speaking, I am an above average looking guy who is also in good physical shape. Simply put, my date's parents would not be disappointed if they were to see me.

Here are the questions. (I am asking these questions since I want to learn from you.)

1) Does my profile and/or my ideal match description tickle your fancy, or does it tell you to move on to the next profile?
2) As you read my profile, would you contact me based on the description?
3) Any turn-offs in my profile and/or my ideal match description?
4) In order for you to make the final decision on whether or not to contact me, do you need to see photos of me?

I need your honest opinions and answers. Please tell me what you think. If you feel that my profile/my ideal match descriptions do not interest you, simply respond with "no" to any of my questions. I am only curious about your opinions.

Here are my descriptions which I used at the site:

*** my profile:
Hi! I am an easy going and fun loving person. Many years have left me, but I still feel like a kid. I enjoy good laugh and I find it in truth. Yes, Truth, when examined carefully, it is funny. I believe in learning and sharing new experiences and pushing myself to be a better person. I am a type of person who waits for a person rather than shows up late. I am a witty and high energy person. I love being goofy and silly--simply have a good time... I love the sound, the view, and the smell of an ocean. When intelligent conversations are needed, I could do that too. I cook whenever I get a chance... I am a kind person. I am a thinker. Mentally and physically, I have a healthy balance between them. I am not a confrontational person, instead I am a negotiator. I do not look for dominant nor subordinate relationship. I look for equilibrium. These do not mean that I am a pushover (I mark my territory just like the other dogs: one tree at a time). I never sweat over the small stuff. Most importantly, I am as romantic as Pepe Le Pew. What kind of person am I? I am a type of person who says, "This cup is neither half empty nor half full. I will enjoy what is in the cup, and when finished, Supersize it! burrrrrp..." Why am I using this online service? Well, I enjoy clicking things, and the match.com has plenty of things for me to click. So, if you have free time, perhaps, we could double-click together!

*** my ideal match:
I am looking for a person who is smart, sassy, huggable, and independent. At the same time, sensitive and funny and down to earth. I am attracted to these traits. Moreover, if you are willing to laugh at silly stuff, that would be a big plus! If you are looking for fame and money, I am your type. If you are looking for an adrenaline junky, I am not your type (I am not tied to a bungi rope, 24/7). I am a casual guy who simply enjoying life: I get HIGH from it. I guess... You could say that I am a Zen master on cloud-nine. If you love Pepe Le Pew, you will enjoy my company. I am looking for a person who believes in taking baby steps when approaching/building a relationship (taking things slowly)--things that last in life were not built overnight, don't you agree?

curious george Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 08:24:24 (PST)

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