(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:45 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a man, which most closely matches your idea of a great first date?
Coffee and Conversation | 45%
Picnic in the Country | 7%
Brunch and Tennis | 2%
Dinner and Movie | 46%

Assuming you are a man, which gesture by your date would you most welcome?
Wears something extra nice | 39%
Arrives precisely on time | 9%
Compliments your appearance | 1%
Invites you up for coffee | 51%

Assuming you are a man, what's the worst mistake a girl can make on a first date?
Showing up late | 10%
Showing up badly dressed/groomed | 81%
Hogging the conversation | 4%
Brushing off your sexual advance | 5%

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Relax and enjoy your first date. Good conversation always help ease the awkwardness.
Lucy    Saturday, November 02, 2002 at 22:04:06 (PST)    []

" But those living an alternative lifestyle can."

Si. And I believed you're not one of them...(^_~)
SPRNZ    Saturday, September 28, 2002 at 08:58:12 (PDT)    []

"Anyway, you can't have a date without a woman/girl."

Okay you win. But those living an alternative lifestyle can.
AC Dropout    Monday, September 16, 2002 at 12:16:26 (PDT)    []

This board is open to anyone opinion and suggestion.

Anyway, you can't have a date without a woman/girl.
SPRNZ    Friday, September 13, 2002 at 09:15:19 (PDT)    []

Well this is a "what men want on the first date" board.

You should post that suggestion on "what women want on the first date" board.
AC Dropout    Thursday, September 12, 2002 at 10:37:12 (PDT)    []
AC D & Just being direct,

Guys, you shouldn't think about sex on the first night. That's not gentleman.
If wanna date with a "Good Girl", Absulutely no sex on the first date or first night. Just dinner to get to know each other better and a little kiss. Either kiss on the cheek or little smooch on the lips at the end of the date. That's it. (No French kiss). That's very gentleman way to treat your lady.
SPRNZ    Wednesday, September 11, 2002 at 03:21:16 (PDT)    []
Just Being Direct,

How about sex while having dinner on the first night.
AC Dropout    Wednesday, September 04, 2002 at 12:40:17 (PDT)
Come on, let's get to the point: dinner & sex on the first night.
Just Being Direct    Thursday, August 22, 2002 at 18:46:01 (PDT)

Judging by all your posts my conclusion is that you must be quite an attractive person.
But you sound so clueless to me. No guy would ever run their fingers through a girls hair, touch the sleeves of their tee shirt if they're not interested in you. If they don't like you they wouldn't be touching you period.
I don't know why you should feel uncomfortable if you see guys at the mall staring at you. Just as long as they don't look at you in perverted ways. Staring at your boobs for example. A lot of guys stare at girls. It's nothing unusual.
Jann2002    Thursday, August 22, 2002 at 09:48:40 (PDT)
I am still looking around,

Keep looking and I'm sure you will find what you are searching for. I agree that money can't buy it, or it can't be forced on someone else, but I do believe personality can take you a long way. I like your attitude in dealing with your ex. After it is all said and done, there really isn't any reason to fight about it or try to hold on. It's easier to let them walk away, because only then will the healing be allowed to come.
Good Luck    Monday, July 29, 2002 at 09:31:28 (PDT)
I am still looking around

are you that chinese guy who ordered a song on the chinese radio 88.9 for JUDY?

um dude, your story sounds like his. he had a girlfriend for like 3 years and she like dumped his ass for another dude. but the guy who ordered that song was so sweet and still wished the best for his ex JUDY.
oh well there are too many good girls out there. ha

Goooooooooood girlllllllll    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 01:17:28 (PDT)
When you have been burned once or twice, it gets to you. You feel withdrawn, especially if you really liked, loved, trusted, cared for and been with that girl a long time. She cheated on me for a more physically appealing man. I had nothing to say. Life is too short to hate or force anything on someone. The road ahead is long. I let her choose her path and we parted ways without any expression of hate or anger on my part.

Then, I have for a couple years chased after girls of all races here and there. So many times I have got rejected that I start to really question my attractiveness with the other gender?

Now, that I have gotten older, my expectations of love is more realistic. You cannot force it. Money will not buy it. Personality can only go so far.

Now, whenever I talk with girls, I tell her my real intentions. Girls who are not into family will just get it and walk away.
I am still looking around    Thursday, July 04, 2002 at 23:21:47 (PDT)
When I read this poll I think I've a proletarian attitude towards this topic. Meet to work together with each other without any conflicts, isn't that romantic for a couple? Harmony without any waste of time.This can't be too pragmatic,or what?
rare stuff    Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 18:09:27 (PDT)
AC Dropout,

I do not want my personal e-mail address to be polluted with junk mails (in case some advertising people saw this), so this e-mail address that I'm posting on this board is not the one I often check: Please send it to there and when I receive it, I will e-mail you back with my real personal address. =o)

We are always seaching for answers. But are you asking the right questions? Am I pondering upon something that is irrelevant and pointless? Should I be worrying about something else? Is there really more to life than just questions and answers?

I don't thinkt that guy is interested in me. When I think about...there really isn't much of me that is interesting. Only my closest friends ever could truly understand me and my strange personality. Even then, no one really knows how my weird mind works. Maybe it's because I don't let other people, especially guys, to get to know me; or perhaps they don't try hard enough; whatever the reason is, there had never been any guy that I felt as close as one of my closest friends since elementary school (my first and last "boyfriend.")

People are so inconsistent. I think sometimes people change their comments to accomodate the situations. That is why I always wonder if they are speaking the truth. Especially if the subject is me. I hear so many people tell me I'm a talented musician, and yet do they just say that because I played for them and that is the thing to say? Or is it that they had never heard of a violinist playing live before? At concerts, I spent 2 1/2 hours getting ready, and my friends tell me I look pretty or my top is cute. A couple of little girls mistakened me for another Asian girl (with different nationality) who is very pretty. But do they truly mean it? Is it because my friends are just trying to be nice? Or as for the little girls, maybe they didn't know that other girl, and assumed any other Asian girl is her.
Do I sound really insecure? Or just plain dumb? Personaly, I think a lot of this has to do with the adults and older kids who had put me down last year. The 2 adults (who were my coaches for dance) told me I was weak, unemotional, and looked horrible. The wife reminded me constantly and compared me to better dancers. I could not take that kind of emotional abuse and thus quitted. But I will always remember what they had said to me and maybe one day...I will find the heart to forgive them.

What is your real first name? (I'll tell you mine in my next e-mail) I have talked about myself too much. What about you? I want to hear you and your adolescense experiences. Yes, I may have to "find out the hard way," but I still want to hear others' makes me feel less lonely. My friends and I share out thoughts all the time, but it never hurts to add one more.

"A dream is a wish your heart makes." ~Anonymous

Arwen    Friday, March 22, 2002 at 17:56:00 (PST)