What Men Want on a First Date | Asian American Poll

WHAT MEN WANT ON A FIRST DATE
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:44 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are a man, which most closely matches your idea of a great first date?
Coffee and Conversation | 45%
Picnic in the Country | 7%
Brunch and Tennis | 2%
Dinner and Movie | 46%

Assuming you are a man, which gesture by your date would you most welcome?
Wears something extra nice | 39%
Arrives precisely on time | 9%
Compliments your appearance | 1%
Invites you up for coffee | 51%

Assuming you are a man, what's the worst mistake a girl can make on a first date?
Showing up late | 10%
Showing up badly dressed/groomed | 81%
Hogging the conversation | 4%
Brushing off your sexual advance | 5%

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confused viet-am male

i think that means "go away"
fil guy wit chinese gf Sunday, January 06, 2002 at 00:04:04 (PST)

Confused Viet Dude:

Tso ai = to Make Love or F***, literally to "do love"
Mandarin Speaker Wednesday, December 05, 2001 at 09:13:49 (PST)

I was in Korea when I met up with a childhood/family friend whom I had not seen in 15 years or so. (She lived in the U.S. and moved to Korea.) I paid her family a visit and after dinner at their place, she asked if I wanted to go out. We went to a jazz club. I guess it was the wine, music, and typical dark jazz club mood because we found ourselves slowly kissing each other at our table. My God, that was perfect. I guess 15 years made our hearts grow much fonder.
KAM Sunday, December 02, 2001 at 23:48:50 (PST)

Dude,

Kobe Tai is a BOY with airbags attatched to his chest. Gross! My 8 year old BROTHER has more curves than that termite!
This Asian man's gotta have curves Thursday, November 29, 2001 at 21:29:27 (PST)

What does "tso ai" mean?
Confused Viet-Am Male Wednesday, November 28, 2001 at 13:03:55 (PST)

Best Date is one that ends with Three Things which in Mandarin are:

Tso Ai
Tso Ai
and
Tso Ai!!!
Horny Asian Dude Monday, November 26, 2001 at 11:48:28 (PST)

watching Kobe Tai flicks for a few hours. Then copying what was watched.
gordon Friday, November 23, 2001 at 19:31:03 (PST)

To Anonymous Male,
Dear Sir,
In your post, dated 19 Nov 01, you said that you had figured out how to spot a "professional dater".
Will you please share this knowledge? I have yet to figure this one out.
Thank you from Dallas TX.
Tx Tuesday, November 20, 2001 at 14:57:06 (PST)

There needs to be some kind of published "rules" with regards to paying. I know that they may be some etiquette guidelines from "Miss Manners" and those of her ilk, but I dont' recall them off the top of my head.

Since I am married it's easier. One of us will pick up the tab--sometimes me, sometimes her but we don't keep track of it. However, when I was single, it was confusing at first. After a few years, I set these rules of thumb:

With Female Friends: Separate checks or if one picks up the tab, the other picks up the tab next time.

Dates/Relationships: I usually picked up the tab unless the woman was adamant about splitting or she asked me out and stated specifically "It's my treat." I ended up picking up the tab 75% of the time, but I had no problem with it. There was no ethnic pattern to any of it either.

Lastly, it would be a good idea for you single guys to learn to read women and figure out those who are dating you as "professional daters"--those women who want three nice dinners and then drop you. I learned how to spot them on the first date so that the most I was out was 40 bucks--the cost of dinner and a movie. As opposed to about $200 when you get to the third date--the date when "things happen" if they're ever going to happen at all.
Anonymous Male Monday, November 19, 2001 at 05:53:51 (PST)

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