(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:41 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

What's the best thing about dating an Asian?
Laughing together over funny and bizarre incidents encountered by Asians. | 69%
Knowing your date isn't confusing your personality with racial stereotypes. | 14%
Not having to give long historical discourses to explain your background. | 5%
Enjoying the tacit approval of family. | 12%

What's the worst thing about dating an Asian?
Wondering whether your date likes you or your background. | 27%
Raising family expectations of marriage. | 11%
Being thought to harbor conservative ideas about love and marriage. | 10%
Coping with Asian conservatism toward premarital sex. | 2%
Being dragged into yet another Asian gossip circle. | 23%
Possibility of the family disapproving of the relationship. | 27%

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There's that type of Asian guy who tries to do the right thing, with integrity and morals, that what i like. A guy who treats me right. White guys don't usually have that. Or if they do, they're Catholic with a guilt complex.
sweetchick    Friday, November 22, 2002 at 23:08:32 (PST)    []
fun to be young n asian sounds like an awesome person. It's very attractive to like oneself and be proud of one's background. You will do very well.
Jux Rux    Friday, October 11, 2002 at 14:32:59 (PDT)    []

Yeah that's what I'm talking about! But then again, maybe it's because we live in SF that's why we will not understand the racial discrimination that other Asians face living in predominantly White societies, and which in turn, leads to an issue of identity crisis.

so...I don't blame the Asians that think that way to think that way, but it's still, ultimately, RIDICULOUS.

...being Asian American is great as far as I'm concerned. We can incorporate a mixture of the best of both worlds.

Asians have so much to be proud of. Wear your yellow skin proudly!
fun to be young n asian    Monday, September 30, 2002 at 03:47:52 (PDT)    []
hmmmmm i must really have grown up in a "protected environment" if you will, because I never even paused to consider "Laughing together over funny and bizarre incidents encountered by Asians" as one of the reasons why I date Asians. I just like dating Asians because I am Asian and relate better with Asians. (Weeell...also for aesthetic reasons. ^_^) For myself, funny and bizarre incidents regarding our racial profile don't really occur much. But don't get me wrong, I'm glad about that. Also, I've never been faced with Asian identity issues, so I've never been a "sell-out". I mean, sure, I know what looks good, I admire cute white, black etc. guys when I see them, but in the end, I still prefer Asian.

You can just pack 'em home better. haha...

and on top of that, I just think they're cuter...but that's just me. ^_~

...and for all of the Asian females that don't prefer to date Asians, that's fine by me, gives ME more choices! hahaha just kidding.
-19 year old abc chick
fun to be young n asian    Monday, September 30, 2002 at 03:03:27 (PDT)    []
I like to date Asians because I like their looks. That's because I am proud of how Asians look...and I am proud of how I and everyone in my family looks.

If you say you are not attracted to Asians, you are not attracted to yourself and have low self-esteem. Simple as that.

If you are an Asian male or female, be proud of your looks. Whether you like it or not, you are Asian, and shunning people that look like you will not change that.
SF AM    Monday, September 23, 2002 at 10:56:32 (PDT)    []
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"girls should always have a pepper spray just in case."

-Maybe some people will say I take such encounters as you described them as "too serious". But I would go further, if I had a daughter I would teach her how to use a dagger/knife before she left home.
rare stuff    Tuesday, September 03, 2002 at 18:55:28 (PDT)    []
yes it is disgusting,

I don't know if you are Latina, but one of my friend who was a very attractive Latina gal was once molested on her way back home from work. She is now 21 and this happened to her when she was only 14! She had a well-developed body even then. Two Latinos cornered her at a street in downtown L.A. One of them fondled her breasts. She got mad and asked them: "What if that happened to one of their daughters." They just walked away laughing.

But, your story of what happened to your sister was very frightening as well.

Girls should all have a pepper spray just in case.

Some people are just plain animals.
DISGUSTING    Monday, September 02, 2002 at 16:55:59 (PDT)    []

a guy who provokes violent encounters near a library is really disgusting, I agree. Especially, if it is essential for your job to date a female I cannot understand why a jealous guy does interfere. -Some men must be pretty obsessed by doing so.

At all, everybody should know that there is actually no totally exclusive community among common people. Only the rich (mafia etc) have the right to do so. But regarding the mafia I would definetely not fight back if they interfered my own dating.
rare stuff    Monday, September 02, 2002 at 16:42:28 (PDT)    []
rare stuff,

There were a couple times, when those white or Hispanic guys would just come right up to the middle of us when we are talking.

Take one time, I was at the library. I was walking back to my car when this Armenian gal (she looks kinda Latina)asked me a question and it led to a conversation. This Latino guy just comes right up to us and stands there listening.

I really want to get violent with that arsehole right then and there.

After awhile he walked away. The Armenian girl did not like it at all, and she said that Mexican guys hit on her all the time (she rejects all of them) and maybe because they were jealous and couldn't understand how a Chinese guy can be able to talk with the Armenian girl so easily.

I bet you if the girl was Mexican or Latina, that arsehole may have tried something foolish or even get physical.

But, I am not scared.

I want the guys here to know that even if you lose in any fight of a similar situation, the girl would most likely appreciate you more for having courage and backbone to stand up for her. You shouldn't be afraid to win or lose. But, play it smart and try to avoid violence if you can. But, when cornered, you have got to fight back.
DISGUSTING    Monday, September 02, 2002 at 02:48:19 (PDT)    []

It is so true. Hispanic males will hit on women that are holding a child in their arms. Even pregnant women! How do I know this? Because I have seen it over and over and over again! So many times! I even remember back one time when my sister was 6 months pregnant with my niece, and pushing my 3 year old nephew in the stroller. Her belly was sticking out enough to show she was noticeably pregnant. It didn't even matter because these two hispanic guys were asking her for her telephone number and for a date! She showed them her wedding ring, and they were STILL interested! Can you believe that? Its crazy. Makes no sense to me.
yes it is disgusting    Sunday, September 01, 2002 at 11:54:34 (PDT)    []