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BEST & WORST OF DATING ASIANS
(Updated
Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:29 PM
to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)
What's the best thing about dating an Asian?
Laughing together over funny and bizarre incidents encountered by Asians. |
69%
Knowing your date isn't confusing your personality with racial stereotypes. |
14%
Not having to give long historical discourses to explain your background. |
5%
Enjoying the tacit approval of family. |
12%
What's the worst thing about dating an Asian?
Wondering whether your date likes you or your background. |
27%
Raising family expectations of marriage. |
11%
Being thought to harbor conservative ideas about love and marriage. |
10%
Coping with Asian conservatism toward premarital sex. |
2%
Being dragged into yet another Asian gossip circle. |
23%
Possibility of the family disapproving of the relationship. |
27%
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Rare Stuff
Noooooo!!! Moderation is as old as the Buddha! And formal procedures only occur at states dinners and military camps. Where I work at, it's barely alive and breathing. Americans aren't very formal at all in their work environments and far less in their R & R (rest & relaxation).
What, my dates are formal? Not in your lifetime. Given the choice of an expensive formal dinner or a day at the county fairground chewing on BBQ leg o' pig, I'd take the fairground in a heartbeat. The whole relationship will be formal? Hahaha! I can't even manage to be formal with you, the most formal of my Goldsea friends.
So why not your brother instead of you? Well, that's a wierd question, and I'm not in the position to be able to come up with the ultimate answer, but I'll try to answer it as best I can, if I was in the situation. OK. Let's just imagine that I somehow happened to have found myself in the situation where I was your spouse but utilizing your brother's sperm to conceive a child. Is that what you're alluding to? Well, there's one thing that puts a damper on the whole situation. It's real hard to sleep with someone you don't have any feelings for, especially if it's a brother-in-law. And it's also impossible to maintain a formal attitude once you've slept with someone.
So, I guess your premise is all WRONG!
If a woman loved you, your brother won't be an adequate substitute, nor any other man, for that matter. And you cannot maintain a formal presence with your lover. This is the one person you must drop all acts of pretense with and just be the real you around her. It's the only way I know of, how to be truly a human being.
MLK
Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 23:33:43 (PDT)
MLK,
Okay maybe we are not strangers. But that does preclude us from behaving strangely.
I'm more of a linus or snoopy fan myself. Linus is insightful, yet decieves people with the thumb sucking and blanket carrying. Snoopy is imagination on crack.
Charlie Brown is too wishy-washie, indecisive as they say. Look at the cute red-headed girl fiasco. He should have suck the Yin out of her right after the school dance.
AC Dropout
Tuesday, August 06, 2002 at 15:50:14 (PDT)
AC
AAAARRRGGGHHH! You got me again. It seems as though you will never let me get off easily on any debate, even silly ones such as these.
OK. We are not strangers because...because hmmm---because I say so! I am really starting to read your mind, you know that? How did I know you were going to tell that mmm... chick that you prefer the Chinese Zodiac over the Western one? And strangers don't tell each other the contents of their underwear drawers, now do they? Nor do they dedicate poetry to each other (OK, it's silly funny poetry, but hey--poetry's still poetry). Nor do they poke fun at each other and try to cheer each other up. (Oh, and I do understand that it's the other AC that kept insisting we were strangers. You, my jester friend, know better than that).
Did I miss anything? Oh yeah. Charlie Brown.
I think Charlie Brown's da bomb! hehehe. You kinda remind me of him, actually. Funny, sensitive, takes things waaayyyy too seriously (or not at all), and much wiser than you let on.
I forgot you're not well-versed on 'girlie' talk. It's quite simple actually.
Talk is something like this: "Hi! How are you? Isn't the weather gorgeous today? I hear it's going to rain tomorrow. So, any plans for this weekend? I'm going to take a drive up to Sonoma and go to a wine tasting vineyard..." etc. etc. etc.
'Talk' is something like this: "All things in life tend to come to a generalized median. The same can be said for Energy, and the thing to remember about energy is that to conserve itself, it travels mostly downhill. So when a person tells you he's exhausted, stay the hell away from him because what will end up happening is that he will suck all your excess energy from you and leave you more exhausted than before you met him. Conversely, if a person is full of energy (usually, that's me) seek that person out and gain some excess energy that person leaks out, thereby gainging free energy without duly exerting much of yourself...". yadda yadda yadda.
MLK
Monday, August 05, 2002 at 21:25:08 (PDT)
MLK,
no, stoneage past is emotional meetings with the other sex. I can hardly imagine how explosive or lame your emotions are because I don't know you that way. Shakespear's "Romeo and Juliet" is also a good example for "stoneage" type datings.
As you say "Be moderate." -That is truely modern. When you treat your hair it is also a very formal procedure, when you're at you must remain formal during the 10 hours. In the end you're so used to be formal that your dating will be formal and un-emotional likewise. The whole relationship will be formal from the first dating to the end. So, why not my brother instead of me (if we could give the same genes to you it would be formally the same) ?
A sorcerer? Did you ever date one?
rare stuff
Monday, August 05, 2002 at 16:16:31 (PDT)
MLK,
You're taking a dive on the stranger debate. Hmmm....somethings not right. When does an intellectual sparring partner take a dive. Is your nose wet? You got a fever? How's work?
There's talk and then there's 'talk'. Okay this is girlie vocabulary...I'm lost. This doesn't translate. I will agree with you that our topic are not normal coffee clutch stuff.
Bald and orange. Don't tell me as a kid you had a thing for Charlie Brown. ^_^
AC Dropout
Monday, August 05, 2002 at 07:36:43 (PDT)
Rare Stuff
I live to work, yes, but only 8 - 10 hours of my day, and then the rest of my time is just that...my time, and I can spend it doing whatever the heck I want.
Being in Harmony is great, but intellectual stimulation doesn't necessarily mean you are in harmony. You don't have to agree with someone all the time to attain intellectual stimulation. Verbal roughhousing to attain a mutual understanding of different stands is a good thing.
Stoneage past? Are you talking about beating a woman over the head and then dragging her by the hair back to the cave? Jeez...just think of all that money spent on expensive shampoos and styling.
MLK
Sunday, August 04, 2002 at 22:41:03 (PDT)
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