What AF Want in a Dream AM | Asian American Poll

WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:11 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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When woman set standards for their dream man, it's what they PREFER in a man, not what the man must HAVE. Because in many cases, when you're attracted to some one, you're simply attracted, regardless of how fat, ugly, poor and sweaty they are...
well... maybe not THAT bad, but you get the point.
Lili Saturday, September 01, 2001 at 14:43:40 (PDT)

I've been attracted to jerks all my life. The playboy type.

I've avoided dating or any social scenes for awhile, and here is what I would hope to find in my ideal man:

1-self confidence
2-caring
3-devoted
4-intelligence & wit
5-comfortable to be around

I don't trust guys very much so I don't think I'll be able to meet anyone.

Here's what is a problem for shy girls: other shy guys.

older but not much wiser Saturday, August 25, 2001 at 14:34:55 (PDT)

My type of man should have these qualities. If not, hey nobody's perfect until you fall in love with them.
1. Genuine warmth and understanding (no fakers, please.)
2. Makes me laugh in the most bleak situations. (life isn't always peachy.)
3. Understands my sense of humor. (very important.)
4. Loyal not only to me but his friends and family. (morals are a plus.)
5. Stable occupation. (okay, superficial? No. that's just sensible.)
6. Loves me for who I am. (duh.)

Well hopefully that is what most men are but I think us girls should give the obscure guys a chance.
CuTiEgUrL Wednesday, August 15, 2001 at 18:44:42 (PDT)

I hear that you look taller if you work out. Is that true?
Trying to bulk up Wednesday, August 01, 2001 at 23:38:19 (PDT)

Kevin, you're so cute! ;) Eat what you want--just stay sweet and you'll have the girls eating out of your hands.
MLK Monday, July 23, 2001 at 23:06:02 (PDT)

MM MM good,
delicious things? I think that's my problem. I think EVERYTHING is delicious. I've never been very picky. I see your point though. Most females do like a little bit extra in a man who's comfortable with it. But man, i gotta stop the sushi/chinese food consumption!
Kevin
Kevin Yang

Apologies if i'm in the wrong place <=],
I'm a cbc, christian, about 5-4 (hehe check the poles, i'm in the 0 percentile), planning to go into 3d Animation industry.

So how do I rate? i left out personality and all that, i'm trying to 'pick up' so no flames plz. i'm just wondering, like if this is what you may be interested in, or is it rather the Doctors/Lawyers who are well off financially, that kind of thing.

If its yes, I think i understand, i guess everyone wants someone smart and financially well off. Art isn't the most high demand job and maybe not much pay.. But in defence, i just wanted to do something i enjoy, rather than doing it for the money. But then again money will help down the road when u have kids...

Aaannyway i just want to know rough chances for later on..=]

Shy to reveal name guy 19 (maybe next time)

TomHo,
If the complaint is that "there are no "good" men out there", then that covers both Asian and White men, but more so White men because...well, there are just more white men than Asian men out there.

MLK

I am an Asian female. I am disgusted by the outright racism by Asians /Asian-Americans on this sight. YOU wonder why there is so much racism in this world, but YOU refuse to look at YOURSELF.
disgusted

Kevin Yang,

Enjoy your gym time but don't forget that some of us women like a man with a little extra to him. Something comfortable about it -- and something about a man who can't resist delicious things! Oh yeah. ;>
mm mm good

What I want in an AA Man? A MAN And everything that he would want in me .. I like to date different kinds of personalities. As long as you're straight up (like me) then it's all good =o)
MiChiE justmichie@hotmail.com

I am not against a girl having standards for a man, nor do I expect a girl to hump every guy she sees. However, don't have a strict and lengthy list of expectations, and then turn around and complain that there are no "good" men out there (especially in the context of asian guys, and use that as an excuse to cater to some fetish for non-asian guys). Just expect a longer fishing trip if you are throwing back every fish you catch.
tom ho

Tom Ho & all about the Yen,
You give this (I want a guy who is a horse jockey and over 6'4" or an NBA basketball player who is also a Taiwanese Christian who loves classical music and Chihuahua dogs WTF?) as your example.

Let me give you a set of real-life picky (and I mean real-life) desired qualities that HIGH QUALITY women are looking for in their dream man...and none of that stupid Chihuahua dog shit either. (LOL) Here we go.

1. Well-spoken, well-mannered gentleman who knows how to turn a bad situation into a good simply by out-classing his opponent with eloquence.
2. Wit and intelligence to turn bad situations into one that can further his objectives and goals, ie. closing the deal after a dead-set "No!" has been issued.
3. Perserverance in the face of failure...meaning failing over and over and over, because he keeps going back to attack the mountain, knowing that he probably will face another failure.
4. Creativity when you least expect it... ie. attacking from different angles until the opponent can no longer tell which way is up and which way is out.
5. Courage in the face of the unknown. When a woman is upset, he has the courage to find out why, and then just holding her, and all without thinking that it's his fault or that he somehow must "fix" the situation. He is simply physically there to share the burden/problem/situation.
6. Strength of character to NOT let the woman walk all over him. In a situation when he knows with a dead certainty he is right, he will hold his ground. He must have the strength to walk away from the woman even though losing her will be the worst thing that could happen in his life. What will normally end up happening is, she then realizes that she really loves the character strength in him and comes running back to him because she knows she'll never be able to find that kind of man again.

There are more, but this is a simple board, and too much of this stuff gets me lots of hate mail. heehehe

MLK

MD2B,

I was not trying to insult your boobs or your dating life, I was just using those examples to illustrate the flaws your assumption that it is so bad being a highly educated women or how good for their male counterparts. This is especially true for asian males who already have a stereotype of being nerds. Making more money helps some asian guys get girls, but it's hardly enough to overcome the stigma that comes with being a unromantic dweeb, as asian guys who are highly educated are apt to carry. These days, most women are already independent enough to not have to depend on a guy to take care of them financially. I don't think you give your sisters enough credit when you say that they will go for any idiot with extra letters behind his name.
tom ho

all about the yen,
Most of the asian women I know are not gold-diggers, and i've been surrounded by asian women here in the bay area for the past 6 years. Many of them like being taken to nice places, and like their ideal man to dress well, but they hardly drop their pants to the shiniest BMW's or to the guys with the flashiest jewelry. These qualities of going for guys with nice rides is seen more in young and immature girls, of every race I've seen (ie. high school girls). I myself have never driven anything but old beat up Japanese cars, and I've never had an asian girl turn me down because of my car. These asian girls even seem to appreciate hint of having character that comes with not having the nice cars and the bling-bling before you are making any real money of your own. It's true that every girl seems to love ambition in a guy, but we sometimes confuse having money for having the drive to be successful. I am glad that you can break stereotype, and cross racial boundaries to find a girl who is not materialistic, but please do not take parting shots at asian women.

tom ho

Another Asian Girl,
Thanks for the input, but I wrote that line a month or so ago. I'm now pushing 170 and that's NOT a good thing. I guess I just can't resist food of all sorts. I'm probably the least picky guy anyone will ever meet. I simply eat ANYTHING! Anyhow, I'll ve visiting 24 hour fitness ALOT more from now on to get rid of this GUT. Any advice on how to do that?

Kelly (MLK),
Thank you too for your comments, but I'm NOT as hunky as some might think. I admit I have a larger frame than most AM, but I'm also a little heavier. See, I'm an engineer here in Silicon Valley and as you can imagine, there's a stigma attached to us. You know, how we're all fat and nerdy, geeky people. Well, I hardly fall into that category as I try hard NOT to stereotype or be stereotyped. OH well, I guess some girls just don't know what they're missing.
Thanks Again,
Kevin

Kevin Yang kyang@marvell.com

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