What AF Want in a Dream AM | Asian American Poll

WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:10 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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WHAT YOU SAY

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do you women like AM who are built or have a small build? (like typical asian guys who are small and frail)
do you women like a guy who works out often? or someone who stays home on their computers? what do you want in a man that way? besides the usual stuff like intelligence, open minded, spontaneous, honest, etc. most guys would say that they are that. but on a physical basis.
i'm no way saying that i'm gorgeous and a model, but i'm not fugly. i do work out, and from what i've been told in the past by some women, they don't like asian guys who work out. i never really understood that. i now do it, in hopes for that women who is health conscious and does care about their body and how they look. (For those who aren't naturally petite)
cliff reddawg317@yahoo.com Wednesday, November 21, 2001 at 10:38:19 (PST)

Hey Burned,

sorry to hear about your story, but it's very true. Looks are important, and don't fool yourself into thinking they are not. The question is, how high a priority does each individual place on looks? Maybe this girl places a higher value on it than others do, or maybe you're just one ugly dude ... haha! sorry, that was really mean, but you know, it's really better that you and her stopped corresponding now --you are better off without her if she is not going to accept you.
Shallow Hanna Wednesday, November 14, 2001 at 17:47:41 (PST)

Burned...

Of course she does. I think the only and most effective way for an average looking male to find a gf is to get to know the person first. In clubs, personals, etc. looks have too much of a preminum place upon them. Good luck.
Above Average AM Wednesday, November 14, 2001 at 11:32:46 (PST)

Even if a woman admires your personality she still places importance on looks. I used to correspond to an Asian woman via e-mail. I met her throught the personals and we e-mailed each other for a few months. We got along great. She and I found common interests and had friendly feelings for each other. After awhile I realized that she might not be what I imagined. When she sent me a photo of herself my fears were finally confirmed. She was not very attractive but I decided not to judge her that way. At least I have made a new friend I naively thought. Well, to return the favor I sent her a photo of myself. To be completely honest, I am average looking - definitely not on the ugly side. Lo and behold she never e-mails me again! She stopped completely once she received my photo. Because of this experience I have become more apprehensive towards women. I mean, men never really know why women are attracted to them. Is it really the personality? Or is it the looks? Maybe its the high paying job. Be on your guard guys !!!!!!!!!
Burned....... Tuesday, November 13, 2001 at 12:54:43 (PST)

I love asian men
lover Monday, November 12, 2001 at 21:44:12 (PST)

Hey Mikan,
You sound perfect for me...
I have the same issue with individuals who have no opinion on the most basic things in life or that simply won't express themselves.

I have an opinion on everything, although its flexible.

I still guard the hope that I will meet a nice girl who actually reads...well we can all dream.
Danari Monday, November 12, 2001 at 20:08:30 (PST)

What I'm looking for in an ideal AM is kindness, warmth, and some kind of connection, whether intellectual or spiritual. I want to be able to discuss favorite poets, favorite books, etc...The most important thing is that he has to have his own opinion on things. Guys who respond with "Uhhh..." when asked "What do you think of...?" come off as clueless, and I usually end up feeling like there's no connection between us, and thus, no hope for a relationship. The cuteness factor does matter, but honestly if there's a connection between us, the guy will just sort of "grown on me", even though he might not be super drop-dead-gorgeous.

What I can't stand is LOUD Asian guys. You know, the ones who talk too loud and brag too much about themselves. I like guys who speak in low, quiet voices. Somehow they come off as more self-assured and mature.
mikan Sunday, November 11, 2001 at 17:11:38 (PST)

To "disgusted":

Since you think us Asians are 'hypocritcal racists'. Let me remind you (again), that some of us are *reactionary* to the racism perpetuated against Asians for centuries indeed.

Yet Asians such as yourself, have been so brainwashed that you think you should be a good little 'chinaman' or 'chinagirl' and sit down and shut-up and let 'em walk all over you.

This is why we'll never get on tv. This is why we'll never be recognized by other people, cause we don't complain are cowardly in the way we react. And the *old-old* stereotypes against Asians will yet drag on for another century or two. Thanks to people like you!
You're Not Welcome Sunday, November 11, 2001 at 09:27:12 (PST)

Pretty on the outside, Rough on the inside -

Dude, you've got to cut that crap out. What's up with treating the ladies so rough? It seems like to me that since you are soft spoken in public then you must feel like you got be the tough guy when you know there is no other competition.

I'd say lay off the macho crap and quit the rough stuff. Be the gentle kind guy you are in public. Work on it.
Big and Tall AM in Austin Friday, October 19, 2001 at 16:18:51 (PDT)

This post is for China Girl.

I am a very soft-spoken, gentle Asian guy (those "guy-guy" type of dudes often think I'm gay because I am "pretty-boy-ish" and am very soft spoken), but when I am with a girl I get these incredible surges of testosterone. I find myself throwing women around, man-handling them. Whenever I'm out in public with a girl, I tug her along, and I find myself being very dominant in my overall behavior. I am quite rough in bed too. I'm not sure why, but I find throwing women around like a rag doll such a turn-on. Some women (usu. non-Asian, esp white) find it a huge turn on when a "soft" guy suddenly turns into Mr.Mandingo in the bedroom. Most Asian girls run screaming. I assume it's because they are only used to really gentle treatment. They are very fragile, afterall. I find Asian women attractive, but once we hit the bedroom I find myself scaring them away. Am a sexual deviant, or do Asian women not have what it takes to be with a man like me?
Pretty on the outside, Rough on the inside. Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 12:01:19 (PDT)

Some of the stuff you guys brought up is very true. AF populations are low and every race wants a piece of that pie. On top of all this, her family is pressuring her to find a wealthy man (typical traditional Asian family). So no wonder AF's are tough to get, especially Chinese and Korean. Don't put with your woman's crap and don't let her treat you like poop, we AM should deserve some respect and dignity from our AF after a hard day from work facing career inequality and discrimination. We AM are most stereotyped males of all group and if you AF's don't start supporting your man and appreciate the things he would do for you, don't blame us on looking for others.
Faithful Rebound in Philadelphia droppedout@drexel.edu Tuesday, October 16, 2001 at 11:18:42 (PDT)

Taking charge is VERY important in a guy. If he continually says "I dunno, what do you want to do?" or "You tell me." I like a guy that does things on the spur of the moment. Sometimes it's not good to let the girl choose. You might just come off as sounding lazy, un-interested, and just plain stupid.
China girl Tuesday, October 02, 2001 at 16:46:55 (PDT)

I think that women can like guys for various reasons but I think that what is important is to just be yourself. If you are looking on this site for advice to try and change into something your not then it will not work because we all one day revert back to the same way. If you are you and she loves you for you then hey thats all that matters.
Special K Monday, October 01, 2001 at 22:35:04 (PDT)

Older but not much wiser,

You can't blame men you don't know for the choices *you've* made in the past. Open up your heart a little, there are plently of men who meet your standards.
Malpaso Thursday, September 06, 2001 at 14:39:15 (PDT)

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