What AF Want in a Dream AM | Asian American Poll

WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:07 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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do you aa's or fobs believe in arranged marriages?

I was a rebel before, and then felt terribly screwed up by some bad choices I had made, and then was like putty in my parents hands. I lost my identity (not really their fault) and then soaked up the very strict rules I had rejected my life up to the time of my breakdown.

Now I cannot figure out how to pull myself together anymore and feel so out of sync with my values I don't know what to do. I feel as if the rules that I live by are too confining and uptight to date aa's, but I find the fobs that I meet are at the same time, too old fashioned (? -not quite the right descrption) and I don't feel very attracted to mannerisms of the new comers either.

I feel stuck. Any comments/suggestions?
old screwed up girl Saturday, April 06, 2002 at 12:23:32 (PST)

Blah Blah,

What is a FOBBY? I believe that I meet all your requirements as an asian male, besides that I'm 5'11. So you should be able to find someone like that from where you are from, I hope. If not, and your in Minnesota, I'll hook with ya, maybe.
BigSquill Thursday, April 04, 2002 at 16:02:52 (PST)

hey, how do you over 30 people meet other people? I don't go to school anymore, and my circle is pretty small. I would never date anyone at work --it would get far too messy (I learned this the hard way, from experience). I look about mid to late 20s (thanks to the asian genetics) and am considered not bad looking, but I am totally afraid to get out there. any suggestions?
overage AF Wednesday, April 03, 2002 at 16:18:32 (PST)

if he's 90% right for you, then you have to figure out how the 10% wrong is filling up more than its 10%. Is he really a 9 out of 10?

is he really regressing, or is he just developing in a direction that is not career centred? Is he developing in other ways? Maybe he will eventually be the househusband... would you be ok with that?

On the other hand, if he really is regressing, I don't think I would like it.
chicky poo Sunday, March 31, 2002 at 12:35:41 (PST)

Jenn,

It sounds like if you want to keep him both of you will need to come to a compromise about the living with his parents.

I've seen the following done among my traditional Chinese peers.

Multi-family homes, Mother-Daughter houses, or units in the same condo building. The strangest arrangement I've seen is to make sure the houses are in the same zip code.

But it just another common conflict of East meets West. As long as you don't say your planning to stick his parents in a elderly home, I'm sure something can be worked out.

AC Dropout Sunday, March 31, 2002 at 10:56:00 (PST)

I like the photo of the man in the "Lifestyles" section. He's got a great face! who is he?
chicky poo Saturday, March 30, 2002 at 16:54:40 (PST)

I've been dating my highschool-sweetheart for alittle over 8-years now. Here's my problem. We shared a lot of things in common, especially about the "future" - both agreeing to put US first in any situation. I have noticed, however, an increasing gap in our differences over the last year. - Me growing with my career, meeting more people in the profession, thus, making friends and reaping the benefits of my independence. He, on the other hand, has regressed. Since his parents live so close to him up in the Bay Area, he gets home-cooked meals and so forth (Ladies, I'm sure you can imagine this).

Our biggest disagreement is over our personal family values. I can enjoy the life between just myself and my significant-other, but he, on the other hand, makes it clear that he would agree to having his parents live with us in the future at their option.

This guy is Mr. Right - he's basically a 9 out of 10 (he has a great heart for me). I just don't want to drag this out if there won't be any compromises to this situation.

I'm not being unreasonable or a drama-queen, am I? I would really like to hear what other Asians think of this.
Thanks =)
Jenn Saturday, March 30, 2002 at 01:35:25 (PST)

No offense but, I don't particularly dig FOBs. Anything but a FOBBY Asian man! Some of the ones that I met were really corny; they always came up with the lamest lines.

I like a man who most importantly is honest! Most guys just lie through their teeth!

If I could find an Asian man who treats me right, respects me, doesn't lie, and isn't too heavy around the waist (has a cut up bod) and at least 5'7 and not too light skinned and has a good sense of humor, and has a good background in Education, then I'd be very delighted.
Blah Blah ivannah_@aol.com Tuesday, March 26, 2002 at 17:11:16 (PST)

I want a funny man that's at ease with himself. I want a good looking man that's not too stuck on, or too narcissistic. I want a guy who knows how to dress well, and stay clean and fresh (no b.o. thanks, and no cologne to mask (god knows what??)) hehe, and I'd prefer he was madly infatuated with moi...
chicky poo Tuesday, March 26, 2002 at 16:27:09 (PST)

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