What AF Want in a Dream AM | Asian American Poll

WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:19:01 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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It's unfortunate that most people dont marry the love of their lives. I think that is so messed up. A lot of people settle. They dont marry the person who they feel is perfect. I feel sorry for them. But i realize not everyone can achienve his\her dreams in life because of a variety of factors. In my opinion if you dont feel like you got the best, then get the best that you can. If you cant do that, it's better not to screw someone else too, by tagging along with them through your own unresloved issues.
SOG Monday, May 06, 2002 at 22:02:49 (PDT)

to AC Dropout
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Please take my carefree unshielded thoughts with a grain of salt. I'm sure you're a very worthy gentleman of unquestionable taste and quality and I'm sure the women around you also realize this. I hope you understand I'm just teasing you because you seem to be able to handle it well. You're very confident about yourself, and it seems as if nothing anyone can say can possibly deflate your sense of self-worth. I'd rank that at least a eight or nine in my book of cool qualities in a man.

And speaking of idle hands...I don't see you doing anything but taking up valuable space in Goldsea either. I always thought running a company meant no time to do anything! Your boss (you?) must be paying you good to chat on the net!
MLK Monday, May 06, 2002 at 16:11:04 (PDT)

to 1/2LostSoul

Thanks for your kind words, but don't feel that you have to put yourself down for something as trivial as having flaws--that comes with the territory of being human. Everyone has flaws...including me! That's what makes us interesting to be around with. I would be so bored with the PERFECT man! Note that nowhere on my list of desirable equipment in a man does the word Perfection appear.

OK, since everyone has a list of things they want...I'll indulge in my personal list of equipment I feel necessary in the man that I would seriously want to take care of, support, and cherish.

1. Integrity - He must be able to stand his ground on an issue if he feels damn sure about something...no wishy-washy flippety-flop thing just to be political, or to save face, or even keep his woman from leaving (if she did even though he is right, then she's the one missing out on a hot ticket item, not him...but my experience with this is that the woman usually comes running back once she realizes that she's about to lose out on the best thing in her life).

2. Critical Thinking - He must be able to think critically on issues and cut the crap out of the nuggets of truth. And then he must apply #1, #3 & #4, Integrity, Fairness, & Compassion, in his dealings with his findings.

3. Fairplay - He must be fair in all aspects and dealings with those around him, from family to business contacts, to (MOST ESPECIALLY to) his lover (me). That saves me from having to list fidelity, because a man who deals fairly with his lover will never cheat on her.

4. Compassion - He must have the ability to feel other people's pain to some degree. This is critical if he is going to be in a high-power position where ruthless decisions must be made...and will be made, but the difference between the great general who sends his men to die from the bad general who sends his men to die is the compassion in the decision (same decision, different method of execution).

I'll throw in playful, cheerful, and eternally optimistic simply because I can't stand to be around people who are always pessimistic about everything (because I'm always so damn cheerful all the time, I would wear out the man who couldn't keep up with me).

Looks are mediocre (at best) on my list. Don't be so ugly as to make me wanna gag when I see him, but a pleasant, intelligent face with plenty of character and strong determination is what I look for.

Money comes dead last (and actually is not even a requirement on my list). If a guy has all the qualities I list, there's no way for him NOT to make the money. It will come looking for him and beg him to please take it. (Come to think of it, so would I!!!!)
MLK Monday, May 06, 2002 at 14:42:09 (PDT)

Moonshineprincess:

Yeah...there are many girls out there that don't really want a "good" man. I have two sets of ideals for two kinds of men. One set of ideals for the" love of my life" kind...and another list of ideals for my "future husband" kind.
For the love of my life...I really couldn't care less if he is a "good" man as long as he's not way beyond reason:)
I would like the love of my life to be exciting...creative..extradinary... unique.
As for the man I marry...I want a "good" man. I look for things that would mean stability.
It would be nice if the man that I marry will also be the love of my life. However I don't think that most women end up marrying the most significant love of their lives.

Beijing Angelique (I think I read too much!!!!!!!!!!!) Sunday, May 05, 2002 at 22:10:41 (PDT)

Qualities..continued

11. good conversationalist
12. sense of humor
13. cultured
14. romantic
15. mature
16. confident

Physical
11. handsome
12. strong bodies
13. quick reflexes
14. killer strong legs
15. best proportioned bodies for height
16. fast ability to develop muscle

Listed in no order of importance.

It's a reality, folks.
AMs are #1 Sunday, May 05, 2002 at 14:42:08 (PDT)

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