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WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:18:59 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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WHAT YOU SAY

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To SOG

"...what most women are in this society, average, morally bent, mentally intoxicated"

Wow, that's a bit harsh, isn't it? I will admit to being average, but morally, I'm at least almost as straight as a hand-drawn line (don't take a ruler to me, it won't line up perfectly...but that's because I'm only human and nowhere near perfect). As far as the mentally intoxicated part, I only get that way after one glass of wine (yeah, I know...I can't hold much liquor). You gotta let us off a little easier than that. We're not saints, you know. ;)
MLK Sunday, May 12, 2002 at 00:52:31 (PDT)

I want an old fashioned movie style heroic and good looking guy. I would like him to sweep me off my feet, and treat me like a princess. But at the same time, I am old and bitter and don't think that I could believe a word of flattery. Aaaaaw, isn't that sweet? I've forced myself into no mans land!

Anyone up for the challenge? I'm nice once ya get to know me... but I am very hard to get to know. what do you guys think about someone like this? if she was pretty, would you try hard or would you think she was just a bitch?
some messed up girl Saturday, May 11, 2002 at 14:26:28 (PDT)

"But for females I will double over and fake injury to make them feel better. Even a punch thrown by females in my direction will get an unconscious yelp from my mouth, all in the name of satisfaction for the gentler sex."

HAh. ha..how swEeet??!

ps. gentler sex?! huh. i could kIck ur asss..
shrubz Saturday, May 11, 2002 at 12:48:27 (PDT)

excuse my tag on the previous post, as "used up old bag", I was feeling particularly sensitized and unhappy at how my "love" life turned out (not to lay blame on anyone else, just that I hate the decisions that I made). How would a shy girl who tried to be a non-prude (yet in my own mind, according to my non-communicative, very puritanical family upbringing, was still being a "slut") fix my own attitude? I am afraid of being used, and cannot trust guys very well and am staying away from everyone. How do you unlearn what you have absorbed? and please don't say therapy ... I've tried that route, and they have been wholly unsuccessful as I am unable to trust people who sit back and say nothing for an hour (or 45 minutes) and then collect their money, saying, "I'm sorry your time is up".
chicky poo Saturday, May 11, 2002 at 07:52:10 (PDT)

SOG:

Your post enrages me.

What in the heckville are you talking about man!!!!!??????I don't see how it relates to me or anything that I was talking about. I don't know how and why you made your conclusions. I feel like you missed the point of what I was trying to say. I suggest that you
re-read my post...slowly for your sake.

First of all...nothing turns me off more than a so-called "Bad Boy" or in other words "wannabes". You also said something about meaningless sex and drinking. Those things are for Skanks...and I do not find skanky activities to be intriguing in any sense...so you don't have to worry about that. You are in no position to preach to me about how to have fun without commiting "Sins"!!!! I don't see why you think I have that problem. I'm a straightedged Chinese kid. I mean...although the internet harbors many very strange individuals...I am here simply because I am a computer nerd!!!!!!!!!! That makes me the last person that you should address your last post to:)

Nevertheless...I agree with some of the things you said ...heart is very important...and I'm all for your idea of Sinless blasts. It's just that your post would've been better off directed at another person whom it can apply to.
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P.S--Do I feel like I'm top 1%...?

:)

I can't answer that.

I feel that I'm tailored to be the perfect compliment to the man of my dreams. If you feel that my ideals call for a guy that's top 1%...then I guess I would have say "NO...I'M NOT THE TOP 1%"....I'm more like the top 0.5%

After all...I'm the perfect compliment to the man of MY dreams...right..?

P
Beijing Angelique Friday, May 10, 2002 at 21:30:28 (PDT)

to AC Dropout

RE: "...a Bobbit in the making"
I'm actually a very peaceful person...I don't think I've ever hit anyone in my life...unless the bully in the third grade counts, but she punched me first, so I decked her!

Anyway, I'm not sure what you mean by pleading the 5th, you've been pretty verbose up until now, why all of a sudden so shy with me? I've read your sex masterpieces in the other forums and so I know that you're not shy about sharing them with the other women here on Goldsea. I just haven't responded to any of them because I--well...just like public displays of affection, I don't really talk about this kind of stuff in graphic details in public. I guess my family really repressed me, but I was brought up as a girl in an Asian household. I can't help my mental attitudes towards it.

Forgive my ignorance. What is a Combinatorics?
MLK Friday, May 10, 2002 at 20:21:43 (PDT)

to used up old bag

God, what a name! Can I call you something more flattering than Old Bag?

Your guy laid it on thick and couldn't keep up the lies, huh? Sounds like he broke my number one requirement, Integrity (yes, with the capital I). Anything-one with integrity will be true from the inside out and will not require that lies be built up to maintain a facade, but I guess you already know that by now, huh?

Sorry to burst your bubble. I'm not noble. I've just had enough of pretty boys who are players, cheaters, and have no moral bones in their bronzed muscular bodies. After awhile, their looks, when added with their attitudes, cancel each other out, and I begin to feel ashamed to be seen around them because they act so badly and it reflects on me (dang, why's that nice girl hanging out with that loser!). It's not that I'm looking for an ugly guy with a great personality, it's more that I'm not zeroing in on just looks and disregarding all other warning signals that this guy is a jerk. I think I'm finally begining to understand that looks will only serve to hold my interest past the first couple of months, and then, if there's nothing more to offer, well, I get bored. I need a man with more substance than that, and looks can't do it.

Here's my suggestion for you. Dump the loser and find a man with:
1. integrity - so he won't lie to you.
2. intelligence - so you don't get bored with his small talk.
3. fairness - so he won't cheat on you.
4. compassion - so he won't physically hurt you or kick your dog.

It may take awhile to figure out if he's the real thing, so don't jump into anything immediately untill you know for sure by observing his actions when you guys hang out together and also from observing his friends (this is crucial because a man can be measured by the friends he keeps. If his friends are losers, he's a definite loser. If his friends are wonderful people, you have a sure bet!). Of course, you may never know for sure, but I'd rather be 75% unsure about how great a guy is rather than 100% certain how horrible he is.
If he's a pleasant looking fella, you're in luck (damn lucky!). If he's ugly as a dog and you want to gag when you see him, keep looking. Life's short. Go for the best that you can find and don't settle for the handsome hunk with a loser attitude or the nice guy that you just can't bring yourself to kiss. Good luck with your quest (you're gonna need it).
MLK Friday, May 10, 2002 at 20:10:07 (PDT)

SOG,

Have you fallen off the deep end?

Angelique is a HS girl heading off to college. It's part of American culture the way she thinks and feels right now.

So she wants to try the "bad boy" image. Either she likes it and stays with him. Or she won't and dump him. Part of growing up.

AC Dropout Friday, May 10, 2002 at 11:00:29 (PDT)

used up old bag,
Are you still in this relationship? and if you so..why? Is it because you like the attention and the flattery. Are you afraid the next man will not give it to you. Have you been in a worse relationship? Are you worry about being alone?
You have to know what you want and are confident inside to know that you can get it. Looks at other people�s high standards�like MLK�sorry MLK� It's not a matter of whether you can it or not. It's a matter of trying and saying that you at least try it. Success dependents on aggression, group outings(connections), and luck. Just go out there and hang out. You are bound to meet someone you like and would like to live with.
No matter what age you are..whether..30 or 60 or 90, there is no point in being in a unhappy relationship. Looks like at all those unhappy couples that fight every day. Do you want a life that? Do you want you kids suffer like that? Do you want to suffer like that? The point of living is to be happy. It maybe selfish�so be it..selfish.

1/2LostSoul Friday, May 10, 2002 at 09:31:26 (PDT)

SOG,
There is no need to be so harsh on Angelique. She lives the life she wants. And if she wants a badboy--that's her choice. At least, she knows what she wants in a relationship --that's better than some people. And from her email, it's not she wants a badboy, just someone exciting. There are quite a few "nice" exciting males out there. It certainly is not 1% of the population.
And you have to realize that for her age, there are different priorities in life. The priorities are different than someone older. She's only like 19 (i think she is.....there goes my ESP again)
There many different types of people in the world, not everyone's taste will fit yours. Be open about other people and their lifestyle. Being close will get you nothing but ignorance.
1/2LostSoul Friday, May 10, 2002 at 09:17:00 (PDT)

used up old bag,

I think you are half way there from moving on. I had a gf that was like that also.

Because humans are a creature of habit I find it helpful to associate vehement negative feeling to all traits this particular gf had.

This way when I met a girl that exhibits those traits, instead of a neutral feeling or a positive feeling of the past a wave of adversion hits me. Thus preventing me from repeating the mistakes of the past.
AC Dropout Friday, May 10, 2002 at 08:28:58 (PDT)

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