What AF Want in a Dream AM | Asian American Poll

WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:18:58 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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chicky poo:

Dont be too hard on yourself. We all have made mistakes in our lives. Look at it this way, w/o those mistakes...you'll be less inclined to learn. Also, the fact that you have acknowledged that it was a bad mistake is a huge step to growing. I can give you some pointers and lessons I've learn over the years...maybe it could help you get back on track.

First, you must understand that looks arent everything. I use to date handsome, successful, charismatic guys b/c they appeared to 'have it together'. As I got to know them, my initial impression of them faded quickly...b/c personality eventually stand out above all other qualities...(I think MLK had mentioned this already, but I think its worth reiterating). I'm not saying that these guys are all dogs...believe it or not, some of them are actually sensitive and caring. But b/c they usually have flocks of girls chasing after them...it makes it easier for them to take us for granted.

Secondly, respect and love them 100% or 0%...depending on their attitude. It's a very simple concept and have always proved to work well for me. I let them do as they please, and hang out with whomever they want. But I also make it clear that if they show me any sign of disrespect or infidelity, they're out of my life. Think about it...this is a win win situation. If they do you wrong, you'll know they're not good enough for you (BTW, dont ever cry over these types, they're not even worth your tears...instead, you should be relieved that their true character was not revealed any later). If they care for you, they will treat you like a princess.

Third thing you need to know -- hope that they enrich your life, but NEVER depend on them for your happiness. If you do, you are bound for disappointment...b/c the expectations will never be meet.

Fourth thing is you must treat them as you want to be treated...or #2 would not work.

My past relationships have been great and hazardous in their own ways...nevertheless, many lessons were learned. The biggest lesson is how deceiving physical appearance and finanical success are. It gives the illusion of happiness...but it does nothing to provide real happiness nor does it determine compatibility.

Also, you should use MLK's criteria (posting from a few days ago) as a guideline to determine if he's a good man.

Good luck! Believe in yourself...and you'll be okay =).
be Monday, May 13, 2002 at 17:59:57 (PDT)

Did AC Dropout attend Stuyvesant High School? I attended and was asked to partake in the prostitution ring (with the allure of free beepers!). Was also a participant of the Westinghouse Science Research competition (amongst others). All of these long lists for generic stereotypical requirements of the ideal AM/AF seem like worthless rhetoric. Once someone is truly in love, these checklists simply fly out the window. Love is not some sort of contract written up like that of a catalogue for mail-order brides. Love defies these petty requirements because there is a certain unconditionality, trust and understanding involved. Issues of more depth, such as purity, integrity, an amazing emotional connection, deserve more focus than the lame polls of most desirable physical attributes in AM/AF. I was looking to find something a bit more enlightening in the banter on this site, distinct from that of cheap personal ads, featured in the Village Voice - "AM seeking AF" and visa versa. Instead I chanced upon this newsgroup, rife with flirtation and sexual innuendo. Though I indulged in poring through the messages (with the same embarrassment one does with trashy "news magazines") it would be nice to have a forum that looked deeper into the workings of dating and relationships. We merely have an oversimplified and superficial scratch at the surface of what defines desirability and attractiveness here.
firesnake Monday, May 13, 2002 at 15:51:32 (PDT)

Qualities I look for in Asian/SAM's are the same as in any other race.
cynnovel cynnovel@yahoo.com Monday, May 13, 2002 at 12:57:13 (PDT)

Beijing Angelique,
hehehe.. you are not even legal. of course that does not stop some people....LOL
And you welcome.. wow, i was really close. last time, my esp--i guess AC Dropout at 30 --when he was 27..and I guess your age at 19 when you are 16...wow... How about MLK, did I get you right at 25 -3 =22? And it would really help if i can get a pic of the people I'm guessing --especially the women....LOL

AC Dropout, taking the 5th implies guilt.
1/2LostSoul Monday, May 13, 2002 at 11:24:08 (PDT)

Beijing Angelique,

Some people are just weird.

Don't worry about morality too much, it's too victorian. You ever read a Jane Austen novel where everyone has a happy ending? Me neither. I'm sure those who enjoy Victorian Literature have a hard time finding happy endings in those stories also.

Life is beyond Good and Evil sometimes....most of the time.
AC Dropout Monday, May 13, 2002 at 09:55:25 (PDT)

AM of many faces, many names,

Now that wouldn't be a bad combinatortics question. On a finite large Twister game board with (a) number of colors and (b) columns. What is the number of compromising positions achieved on the turn (n) with (x) males and (y) females participating?
AC Dropout Monday, May 13, 2002 at 09:51:58 (PDT)

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