What AF Want in a Dream AM | Asian American Poll

WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:18:58 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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ac dropout -

interesting point about good/evil. I think like that all the time. and guess what? no matter how "good" I try to be, I feel as if I am always in the "evil" column.
chicky poo Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 04:05:17 (PDT)

Chicky Poo(:

Hi...I am uncertain of my elegibility to express my input...but this is how I feel;

You said you want to move on...
There goes half of the process right there:)

Madonna once said something that I think may apply in your case. It went like this:
"Whenever you look towards the future in hope to disregard the past....you are a different person right then and there."

So...Chicky Poo...pretty much Madonna has just told you to leave any unpleasant experiences behind because you are already a different person man!!!!!!!!!!

Oh yeah...by the way..if you are still with that guy...then...붙붙
DUMP HIS @SS! I mean...how cool is that..? If you have already dumped his big butt...then stay single for a while...it would make you feel so much better.
Stay away from people that do not make you feel good and surround yourself with some postive influence. ( There are PLENTY out there)

Find yourself some cool nerds
(Hehe...they may be some of the most successful people in a couple of yrs.)

Besides...it just sounds to me like you were trying to not be "Prude"...and went a little to the extreme by your own definitions. Hey...rite of passage in America.

BEiJiNg AnGeLiQuE http://www.njceo.com.cn/wish/wish.htm Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 22:22:48 (PDT)

thanks be, mlk & ac dropout.

don't really know what else to say, but thanks.
chicky poo Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 21:46:42 (PDT)

AC Dropout:

"Life is beyond Good and Evil sometimes....most of the time."

That's right...

BEiJiNg AnGeLiQuE Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 21:23:26 (PDT)

1/2LostSoul:

Not legal for what...? Posting on the internet...? :)

BEiJiNg AnGeLiQuE Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 21:20:38 (PDT)

1/2LostSoul,

"AC Dropout, taking the 5th implies guilt"

How sweet it was to be breaking the law in Ohio back then.
AC Dropout Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 13:51:05 (PDT)

to firesnake
RE: "...Issues of more depth, such as purity, integrity, an amazing emotional connection, deserve more focus than the lame polls of most desirable physical attributes in AM/AF"

OK, well why don't you be the revolutionary leader and start the discussion and I promise you I'll continue it and try to pull other people from some of the other posts in to discuss these deeeeeep emotional thoughts with you.

OK, let me throw in the first wild card and let's see if you can pick up an ace or if you've got a two of hearts destined for your future. An amazing emotional connection doesn't require a physical presence. Theoretically, you can have an amazing emotional connection with someone you've only spoken to (or in this case, written to on GoldSea). N'est ce pas?

Please take your turn at the podium Speaker Firesnake.
MLK Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 12:29:24 (PDT)

to AM of many faces, many names & AC Dropout

oooookkkkkkk...if that's supposed to be dummied down for me to understand, I will have to plead insanity (cause I still don't quite get it, but then again, math was never my strong point. I'm soooooo math-illiterate it's not even funny!)

Oh, Mr. AM of many faces, we've had conversations before, I presume. You sound familiar...I can sometimes pick up on similar writing styles and do get vague deja vue feelings from some posters who write in similar fashions but use different names. As you can see, I can never use any other handle, my style of writing is just so odd that anybody can tell it's me whether I put my name on it or not.
MLK Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 12:21:14 (PDT)

to be
I am completely impressed with your understanding of what it takes to locate the man of your dreams. Your advice is duly noted and appreciated. Any other tips you have for us would be great! That one about depending on them for your happiness is one that I still need to learn. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm a fast learner and I'll get it eventually, after having been knocked down in the fighting ring a few times. I'm still trying to get my second wind and past relationships have haunted me as well so now I'm just sitting on the benches and hoping nobody notices me so I can breathe a little before getting back in and getting my heart knocked about (or at least just bruised a little). Here's hoping for the best for later.
MLK Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 12:15:22 (PDT)

to 1/2LostSoul
Re: "...Looks at other people뭩 high standards뾩ike MLK뾱orry MLK� It's not a matter of whether you can it or not. It's a matter of trying and saying that you at least try it."

Hey, I only listed four crummy requirements, and not a one of them a physical one. Why are you not pointing out the other loooooong lists from some of our other AF posters and saying that those are high standars? Why pick on my four measly points? hehehehe just joking with you. I know...I didn't list the easy stuff like...sense of humor, or 5'10", or expensive car, or even "can play a musical instrument" (tuba!) hahaha j/k. Compared to those doozies, my standards aren't so high after all, right? :)
MLK Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 12:08:55 (PDT)

Lets face it ladies, a "dream man"? Is there such a thing in reality? Asian or non-asian, guys/people are mostly the same. Of course we all have our ideals, but finding that in reality is a completely different thing. Speaking as a 35 year old woman, maybe I can offer some insight and please don't think I am jaded!

I found and married my so-called "dream man". We lived a happy existence for the the 6+ years together. I always felt that something just wasn't quite right. I disregarded my intuition by pushing that feeling aside and went on with my "happy" life. Things (for various reasons) got to a point where I felt like I wanted out --we were living abroad in Italy at the time and I wanted to return to the states. I returned home with the intent that maybe we should just cut our losses since we had only been marred for a little over a year and had no children (we dated for 4+ years before getting married).

To make a long story short, we got a divorce in the fall of 1999. A few months ago I was in contact with this "dream man" to obtain paperwork for an annulment and he informed me that he'd reunited with the mother of his 10 year old son --that he had never told me about. Needless to say, I was very shocked and bewildered. However I felt a sense of relief that I had finally trusted my intuition that something just wasn't right about this guy.

So ladies, there really isn't a "dream guy". My experience tells me that there are some guys that are better than others for you but not necessarily a "dream guy". Unfortunately, we as little girls are taught that when we fall in love, it will be like a fairytale. This is a huge disservice to our daughters to teach them that love is as such. Love is not like a fairytale, infatuation is. Love has its ups and downs and is never perfect.

to "be": well said, bravo!
Half Corean Girl stlgirl2@yahoo.com Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 11:11:21 (PDT)

firesnake,

No not Sty. The cooler city HS in the Boogie Down Bronx.

Intellectual discussion on dating an love. Where to begin. Neuro-chemistry, Victorian definition, Psychology, or Biology.

Becuase from a Neuro-chemical point of view. The reason why those list fall out the window when your in love, is because the phenal-ethal-amine (PEA) is a strong stimulant. Like a crack-addict, people who get their first "hit" are addicted to the stimulus and will do anything to ensure a steady supply of that stimulus.

Free beepers you must be from the class of '90 - '95. Cell phones were offered in the later part of the 90's to the girls.
AC Dropout Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 10:47:30 (PDT)

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