What AF Want in a Dream AM | Asian American Poll

WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:18:57 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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I think that an AF should always accept the best things about an AM. She can't expect everything from him (i.e. tons of money, two or three college degrees, etc.).
chinalova Thursday, May 16, 2002 at 07:21:40 (PDT)

MLK:
Unfortunately, I only learn from my own mistakes (not others). That is why with each advice you'll hear from me was a lesson learned the hard way...hehe...sad, but true. You may feel somewhat jaded right now...but time will heal that as you learn that there are actually some really great guys out there. Take it slow though...you should never rush into any relationship.

My tips on relationships? Hmm..well, it give you confidence when you know you have the upper hand in the relationship. The question is how do you achieve that? This is what I do, and it has worked well enough to make guys want to commit (its usually me who dont want the commitment).

1) Allow them to be themselves, and trust that they'll make good decisions. This also means not getting jealous. If you see another girl flirting with them (no matter how attractive she is), joke about it. It's very important that you dont ever allow them to see your jealous side (even if you're furious inside).
If they did you wrong, as hard as it may be -- dont get emotional. Calmly tell them that you dont need them...and walk away. It'll leave them a bit confused to not see you get emotional, but they'll want you more (unless they're assholes...you dont want to be with them anyways). If they want a second chance, give them a chance to be your friend (which includes no physical affection), but nothing more until they have proven they're worthy. BTW, some of my ex's are also my best friends now. I know they're not the right ones for me, but they care for me like their own sister.

2) Be sincere and caring. Be there to listen to them when they're having problems, offer to pay (if they're a gentleman they wouldnt accept all the time), bring them soup when they're sick, etc.

3) Learn to compromise and try to understand their perspective. This doesnt mean doing everything they request. Voice your opinions, but dont argue if its not necessary.

4) This is probaly the most important -- dont be dependant on them. Dont ever believe, express, or act like you 'need' them. This would scare the daylight out of them. Tell them you 'care' about them...but DO NOT use the 'L' word unless you know they have already committed their heart into the relationship.

5) Dont suffocate them. Dont spend every single waking hour with them doing every single little activity together. Give them air to breathe so they can miss you. This would leave them desiring you more.

6) If you just started dating, dont reveal everything. Dont talk about your family history, boast about your achievements, or whine about past relationships. Also, dont be acting snobby...just be friendly. A smile is the most attractive thing a person can wear.

If you really want to drive them crazy...tease them, subtly. Like gently stroke your wine glass with your fingers, or wear a shirt that would reveal your belly button when you raise your arms. If you're at home, wear a tshirt long enough to cover your ass so it can imply that there could be nothign else underneath.
Guys love mystery...let them put their imaginations to use.

Try it and tell me if it leaves the guys weak in their knees, and yearning to be with you. Also, I've dated some hot guys, but I'm no supermodel.
be Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 17:20:12 (PDT)

MLK,

"...math-illiterate it's not even funny"

You mean if we went out for dinner you would need a calculator to figure out your half including tax and tip, like those Japanese people. ^_^
AC Dropout Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 14:05:52 (PDT)

chicky poo,

I stopped trying to think about life in good and evil terms by 6th grade. Living in a poor crime infested neighborhood puts life's motivations to do good and evil in a different perspective.

If you think you are in the constantly in the "evil" column, don't let society dictate your self worth. Revel in your evilness. Enjoy the pain of others. There is nothing wrong with that.

Remember being evil does not mean you cannot be constructive in life, or effect in other people's lives in a positive manner.

Without evil people in the world. How would the masses now who the good people were.

Do not deny your nature. That is key to living beyond good and evil.
AC Dropout Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 11:03:34 (PDT)

to AC Dropout

"...from a Neuro-chemical point of view. The reason why those list fall out the window when your in love, is because the phenal-ethal-amine (PEA) is a strong stimulant. Like a crack-addict, people who get their first "hit" are addicted to the stimulus and will do anything to ensure a steady supply of that stimulus."

So love really is a physical (bodily) response and not an emotional response. But how can we separate what is truly chemical with what is truly cognizant when our brain requires the one to generate the other? That's almost like saying, if a tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, did it really fall? I had always thought all along that love is not an emotion but an action based upon willful logical reasoning. I even tried to convince somebody of that some time ago in one of these posts, I'm not sure where, but he didn't understand and so blew me off. This PEA then, is what we're all searching for when we hunt for game? Interesting!
MLK Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 10:34:39 (PDT)

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