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WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:18:55 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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is vic chao single?

(I know, I know, -- but it can't hurt just asking....)
chicky poo Saturday, May 25, 2002 at 18:46:17 (PDT)

hi,

how can you tell if he's the one, or one who might be the one? I would like to start dating again, but I don't want to feel like I am getting in over my head. Question for you guys & girls who are happily married --how soon could you tell? How do you know? Sometimes I think I see people who I think are right for me, and I don't know anything about them. Other times, as I am talking to them, I either see that yes, we might make a good match, or not. Sometimes, I meet people, and on sight, I feel as if they might be right for me, but I am very cautious now against believing in this kind of thing (hey, I've been foolish in love before!)For the ones that look right on first sight, I am often afraid to approach them, because I just don't know what to say. What would you do? How do we get to know people we don't know?
chicky poo Saturday, May 25, 2002 at 11:39:16 (PDT)

to firesnake

...and, in my case, it was just simply cheaper to not have to go to the hairdresser every two or three weeks to maintain a short cut. I don't neglect my hair, au contraire, I actually spend some time every morning blowdrying it because it takes so long to dry by itself. And it's less styling effort. I do nothing. It just hangs there and gets into my (and other people's) way. Actually wrapped itself around a man who was standing behind me to get onto a plane one time (wind gusts were terrible then). Thank goodness he had a good sense of humor or else I'd be in trouble (he would sue me for sexual misconduct! hehehe).
MLK Friday, May 24, 2002 at 13:35:05 (PDT)

firesnake,
wow, impressive use of language. So have you been to cloud 9?

MLK,
I think a good home cooked meal is much harder to make than coming up with the money for a fancy restaurant especially Dutch (AC). I have trouble chopping up the vegetables to even sizes. So, how about spaghetti or dumplings?

AC,
Good come back on the tree issue. Too bad there are many more lumberjacks than conservationist in the world.

1/2LostSoul Friday, May 24, 2002 at 13:20:04 (PDT)

to firesnake

I agree that words can be used as emotional exchange, after all, I've made many friends here on Goldsea, and I haven't a clue about any of you, except that you all are articulate and intelligent (just my kind of people!).

This goes against the grain of natural selection, where the girl chooses the strongest man, so that her children have the best chance for survival. In this day and age, it's not the brawn, it's the brain that determines the better man.
"...Love is not such a trivial "game" devised in our spare time to serve as a source of entertainment"

That is so true! Sometimes, love hurts! Not entertaining at all. I'd rather do without fun and games when it comes to my man, thank you very much.
MLK Friday, May 24, 2002 at 13:09:31 (PDT)

firesnake,

"what holds crinkly-soft and wrinkled elderly couples together"

Habit...Humans are terrible creatures of habit. Whether the habits be good or bad. We are forever ingrain to repeat the same train behavior over and over again.

AC Dropout ... Devil's Advocate of Love ^_^ Friday, May 24, 2002 at 12:11:54 (PDT)

Firesnake:

Your thoughts and sentiments are eerily similar to my own and some other people I know. I agree that communication, wholeness and emotional resonance (and not mere physical attraction) are what ultimately hold 2 people together. I could only fall in love with someone who satiates my emotional and intellectual hunger ... and this can only be accomplished through conversation and letters and not by any physical acts ... which are inadequate and woefully crude in comparison, don't you think?
Count me as fan :) Do you read Rumi, Khalil Gibran or Joseph Campbell BTW?
far, far away Friday, May 24, 2002 at 11:59:18 (PDT)

MLK,

Playing the Piano, while I'm stuffed inside. Sounds like a Tom and Jerry cartoon. Doesn't Jerry usually prevail in those situations. ^_^

MSG and Thai peppers. There are international laws about humane treatment of P.O.W. you know. Don't worry I will come prepared with bottled water and anti-acid tablets.

I suspect you are using all those spices in your cooking to cover up the burnt taste or the poisons.

Well there was this one time in FL, I had fried alligators. Tasted like chicken, I was very disappointed.

AC Dropout Friday, May 24, 2002 at 11:29:27 (PDT)

MLK,

Perhaps I should have listed some of good points of women with long hair I've dated in the past.

I was only trying to balance out all the opinions guys had about women with long hair.

Some of the benefits of women with long hair

1) They make for excellent curtains when one wishes to steal a kiss in public.

2) When wore up for more formal occasion the elegant neck and shoulders line are revealed to the public on those rare occasions.

3) There are more choices. When you have short hair there not much you can do with it.

AC Dropout Friday, May 24, 2002 at 11:21:46 (PDT)

firesnake,

The generalized claims were based on my experience. Granted I do have a preferrence. But my experience has shown they are not absolute preferrrence.
For each woman has a unique way letting their beauty shine. It is only the humble job of a man, like in ballroom dancing, to frame the beauty for the world to see...long hair and all if need be.
AC Dropout Friday, May 24, 2002 at 11:13:21 (PDT)

firesnake,

To play the devil's advocate on love...Hmmm

"but the typical human lifestyle......evident we have transcended"

Depends how you look at it. Even among the human race we use lifestyle as an example of how an individual can descendent below the lowest rung of the evolutionary ladder.

There are certain species of avaries and canines that mate for life. Which is more than you can say for most human. Do they know more about love than us monkeys?

"But life cannot be encapsulated as a series of amphetamine highs"

But it is. The happiness you feel when you expand knowledge are all amphetamine highs. The pleasure of learning the alphebets, or learning math, or singing, or excercising, or composing poetry...these are all based on chemical dependent reactions in the brain.

In essence human, when we grow and expand, are just chasing the next bigger and better natural chemical high.

Why are children bored so easily...because their stimulus of pleasure are simplistic, easily mastered. The pursue more challenging interested, not really for the sake of learning, but the high associated with learning. The same analogy can be made with emotions.

"Love defies the banality of a haphazard search for cheap thrills."

Since we define the very definition of Love and the environment in which it exist. It is whatever we see fit to be called Love.

"Have you ever been in love?"

Would a muse who has been scorned by love and basked in the intense pleasure of love, engage a virgin on such a profound topic?

Or is the question proposed merely a reflection of what is in your own heart's longing...lacking?
AC Dropout Friday, May 24, 2002 at 11:05:18 (PDT)

firesnake:

You are absolutely right.

In a sense, I feel that it is perhaps even more meaningful for someone to be attracted to another's mentality and then accept their appearance.
To make a meaningful and true relationship, there has to be physical and emotional attraction. Most of the time, you are attracted to the outer appearance of the person first and then you either keep that person or drop them based on whether you can connect to them or not in a deeper sense. However, if you can be attracted to a person's mentality first, you can then keep or drop that person based on their appearance. This way, you still have the two neccessary components of "love", just with a reverse of sequence.
Your Fan Friday, May 24, 2002 at 10:37:09 (PDT)

AC Dropout --

Not all girls with long hair fret about split ends. Long hair (on girls) stereotypically signifies a more obsessive vanity streak or concern about physical appearance. However, the converse in logic can also be applied. Long hair can be indicative of a neglect to tend to the Amazon forest growing atop the head. A complete disregard for the common concerns of proper grooming. An indifference to the excessive rigors of maintaining a shorn hairdo. The possibilities are endless! To make a generalized claim on the personal hygiene habits of girls with long-hair based on your personal preference is somewhat unfounded and biased.

firesnake Thursday, May 23, 2002 at 20:06:08 (PDT)

to 1/2LostSoul
heehehe...I was just trying to give AC a hard time. I'm quite easy to please, actually. My favorite meals happen to be simple home-cooked ones.

to AC Dropout
Your women have trouble with split ends, huh? Yeah, that's a problem with just about all women who have long hair because of the blowdrier, the curling rods, the chemical dyes and such. Really, the only way to control it is to trim 1/2 inch off the ends once every couple of months and do deep conditioning every other week. And it takes forever to dry and it costs a ton of money to keep me in shampoos!. One of these days, I think I'll just get so fed up with it and chop it up to my chin in a demi-garcon style.
MLK Thursday, May 23, 2002 at 10:42:11 (PDT)

to AM manly man

Kick me? Jeez, that would surely induce me to have breakfast with you...to get physically abused by a man! Get over yourself! And you think a manly man should hurt a woman to feel manly...you really need to learn about what it takes to be a real man.
MLK Thursday, May 23, 2002 at 10:29:10 (PDT)

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