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WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:18:53 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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I used to believe in love at first site, but I think it's better to wait and see if you're right for each other now. I don't think it's possible to know sometimes if you're right for each other.
chicky poo Saturday, June 01, 2002 at 09:56:32 (PDT)

I think true love is wanting the other person to be truly happy. It is a form of compassion.

All the other feelings we might call "love" are connected to the ego and self-gratification.

True love is devoid of self interest.

True love requires maturity and self discipline.

True love is rare in a romantic context.

krasavitsa Saturday, June 01, 2002 at 00:03:18 (PDT)

to AC Dropout

Your poetry is quite beautiful! Can we have more?
MLK Friday, May 31, 2002 at 21:21:53 (PDT)

firesnake

When you say the "...essence of love is captured by the endurance of the relationship tempered and tested through time, and built on trust and understanding", does that then diametrically oppose your stated view of "love at first sight", which is instantaneous, untried, untested, and built on nothing more than a chemical rush of desire for another human being upon seeing/meeting him/her for the very first time? I don't believe in love at first sight. I believe in lust at first sight! I also believe in admiration and a sense of completeness at the first meeting. But for me, love takes time to incubate, grow, and blossom. I think I've been in that first rush one too many times to trust it as the real thing...it inevitably isn't and I usually grow disenchanted when the person reveals to me, at a later date, that his looks don't quite match up with his inner qualities.

re: "...two ideas, concerning the comfort level from being in love, and the emotional excitement running high on love, totally conflict with one another"
Could it, perhaps, be a combination of the two ideas (force-of-habit & chemical dependency), the one occuring at the start of a relationship and the other, occuring at a later stage in life? Not sure, since this idea was brought on by AC Dropout and he's more familiar with his theories than I am.

And it's incredibly difficult to find anyone who could "...perfectly matches an innate level of emotional and intellectual liveliness" since we are all unique individuals (like snowflakes). I think we'd be doing really good to find someone who merely approximates our level of emotional and intellectual liveliness. (give me something to figure out!) I would prefer for my mate to have a little bit of...shall I say quirkiness, to keep me from being psychic and knowing all there is to know about a person (and he'd have to be one heck of a shallow guy for that to occur). I'd like to take the time to grow old with my mate, learn all about him and his ways, and find out how to deal with all his strange moods. After all, it's not the destination, right? It's the journey along the way that is truly the precious part of life.
MLK Friday, May 31, 2002 at 20:06:30 (PDT)

Firesnake,
Love at first sight remind me of the movies and Lust. I don’t know if it happens in reality. I truly wish and dream it would happen. My closest experience at love at first sighted, is when I had a vision of a girl which came out to be true but I’m not sure that’s magic or hallucinations. I believe everything else was lust.

BTW, great post. You are very well spoken person. You remind me of Joey at Dawson Creek..LOL

1/2LostSoul Friday, May 31, 2002 at 16:04:08 (PDT)

Small talk. Just smile and then say,"How are you" and if they want to keep conversing with you they will most likely go "Really good, how are you??" And then you can easily pick up topics from that point on. If they just say "Fine", then you should not ask more questions because you will be found annoying. Small talk,I do not suggest anything beyond a "What's up" because it can likely to seem too dramtic and unatural.

Woman, Larry Kong Friday, May 31, 2002 at 13:29:38 (PDT)

firesnake,

I've never stated that love was a simplistic experience which would could be explained by one scientific model. The novelty of experiences is a biochemical model. The habitual behavior is a psychological model.

Because there are two model for describing the same situation, does not mean the models are incorrect. Like light, both the particle and wave models are correct.

But unlike light, which exist simultaneously in its dichotomy. Love will evolve from thrill to habit.

Like nictodine addiction there was a thrill when one was young. The ability to master a culture display of maturity. Then succumbing to the physical and psychological addiction to the stimulus. And finally the comfort of a familiar habit.

But remember my definition is love is inclusive to the common definiton of lovers. Fraternal, maternal, and all other variation of this emotion have not been touched upon.

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Must you parry my questions with questions? =).
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Do you believe the beast with two backs is concerned with love? ^_^

AC Dropout Friday, May 31, 2002 at 11:34:56 (PDT)

krasavitsa,

It is true sometimes conversations with me can get very silly, but it is small talk. Nothing profound comes out of small talk.

Well the goal of the small talk artist is to find a topic you are interested in and get you excited about discussing it in an inane manner. That is the nature of small talk.

Oh my, I hope you never work in a Fast Food Joint. Wouldn't want to taste a urine sample.

The most efficient way to raise animal for slaughter is the feed lot method. That means the animal doesn't get an airconditioned room with cable tv and daily exercise with a personal trainer.
AC Dropout Friday, May 31, 2002 at 10:57:24 (PDT)

1/2LostSoul,

Of course you have to ask those question in context. I mean if your in a store buying leather goods, you think of some other inane topic to talk about.

Weather is a standard banal topic. Sometimes conversation needs a little silliness to spice it up.
AC Dropout Friday, May 31, 2002 at 10:51:12 (PDT)

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