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WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:18:51 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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to rare stuff

"...all so called sexual "games" are unnecessary and sick. Sex is as healthy as a drug. If you have never experienced it you won't feel that you'd ever need it...after it one feels abused, especially if it doesn't result in reproduction and was "just for fun"."

Oh man, you seriously need to see a psychiatrist, dude, if that's what you really think. That's just so strange to me, coming from a guy. I have to counter your point with one of my own.

Having sex is definitely not abusing the body, especially if it's mutually consenting and creates a closer bond for a couple. In fact, that's what being a human is all about. You get to experience all the joys and pains of being a human by fully exploring your physical (sexual love) and psychological (emotional love) side. You know what's abusive to the body? Getting pregnant and giving birth! the fetus, even as a loved and eagerly awaited "parasite", feeds off the mother and gives her nothing but bodily pains and maternal love. She ends up with a battered and bruised body after giving birth, along with a precious beautiful human child.

I think I'll have to ask our resident MD here, AC Dropout, to comment on the "...Sex is as healthy as a drug" statement. NOT having sex may actually be detrimental to your psychological health. And as far as sex games being unneccessary and sick...I guess that just depends on what kind of games you have in mind. If you were actually all that unsexed, you wouldn't even think about it to this degree or to even hold this strong of an opinion regarding this subject.
And what's wrong with apes? When compared to the horrific evils that humans do, I'd say they're good innocent creatures of nature (or God, if you should so be inclined to think). But of course, you being a man, will never concede to that point.
MLK Tuesday, June 25, 2002 at 21:47:34 (PDT)

to 1/2LostSoul

Relationships can be a numbers game...if you are into gambling. I'm not really convinced that gambling is the best way to go. I have a better theory. It stems from an ancient Asian saying, "If you are into tears, go to a funeral. If you are after laughter, go to a wedding, and if you are hankering for a man, go to where the men are."

OK, ok. I admit it. It's not an ancient Asian saying. It's something I made up on the spur of the moment to illustrate my point. If you are looking for a woman, go to where the women are. Not just any woman, mind you. You gotta go to the places that the classy women you are interested in hang out. After all, your objective is to not just get any woman, it's to get a quality, classy woman, right? If you just hit the bars, all you'll see are hoochie mamas. I suggest you take a class in painting or music or poetry or pottery or something like that. Really interesting folks take those classes. You could even try your hand out at it. You never know...you might just get lucky and develop real interest in one of these hobbies, even if you never meet the woman of your dreams here.

My search for a General kinda got squelched after all the Generals went to the middle east to fight some kinda holy war over there (and besides, aren't they all really old and gray, and happily married? I've never heard of a young available General in my life). Now I'm sifting through the civilians...you know, them engineers and business men and such. Around here, that's all I see. If they aren't making something high-tech, they're trying to sell it.
MLK Tuesday, June 25, 2002 at 20:49:40 (PDT)

MLK,

Changing last name doesn't make any difference in real life. Get it hyphenated if you can't decide.

Only a girl would consider changing a last name based on asthetic qualities. heheh.

My only suggestion is not to change it to a Li or Lee. Can you image the tongue twister with your first name 10x fast. People will think you're saying "Call Lily" after a while.
AC Dropout Tuesday, June 25, 2002 at 11:59:26 (PDT)

1/2LostSoul,

I think it is not in the dating. It is in just the meeting. You need to met more people. Not date them. Dating requires too much effort to learning ratio. So be very unselective about the people you meet. Be very selective about the people you are willing to date.
AC Dropout Tuesday, June 25, 2002 at 11:44:42 (PDT)

rare stuff,

"WE ARE definetely NOT APES!"

Oh yes we are. Unless you don't subscribe to the theory of evolution.
AC Dropout Tuesday, June 25, 2002 at 11:41:06 (PDT)

to AC Dropout
No, most Asian girls don't change last names (my mom kept hers), but it's a practice that I think could do with a little change since we are living in the states, and I am an American first and foremost. It doesn't hurt to acquire your husband's last name, does it? Although, I guess it would depend on how nice sounding it is when combined with my given name, in which case, I reserve the female perogative to change my mind.

To Rare Stuff
I cannot imagine any woman who is so totally out of touch with her sexual side or so sexually repressed as to be completely indifferent to a healthy loving sexual relationship. Please show me where you see the study of a large percentage of women who "...would be glad to have no sex". And where do you get this idea that copulation is seen as "...work [to acquire] children/descendants, nothing more, nothing less." That is just a strangely morbid and depressingly wierd thought process, in my oppinion. Maybe I'm just thinking about this in a straightforward way and therefore, missing something here, or maybe I need more exposure to the "dark side" of human nature to fully comprehend what you are trying to tell me. I don't know. I just know that if you truly feel this way, then I can tell you that you are truly missing out on some glorious things still in store for you.

And how can you be chaste and a heathen at the same time? I don't quite get that either.
MLK Monday, June 24, 2002 at 22:27:13 (PDT)

firesnake,

I suggest that your "confusion" derives from those people who cannot stop their daily talk about sexuality.-Body contacts among humans have only two natural purposes :either to provoke the other or to support that the person calms down. From my point of view all so called sexual "games" are unnecessary and sick. Sex is as healthy as a drug. If you have never experienced it you won't feel that you'd ever need it. No doubt, we humans can live in harmony with each other --but sexuality has nothing to do with harmony in the strict sense.
The temptation, I think, is always to think something like "OK, one time, perhaps it won't be so bad."-But after it one feels abused, especially if it doesn't result in reproduction and was "just for fun".
Believe me, when I dare to admit this as a male that indicates that the industry wants us humans to consume articles for perverted people AND that the whole crap is just lies about human sexuality. (WE ARE definetely NOT APES!)
rare stuff Monday, June 24, 2002 at 17:13:26 (PDT)

MLK,
I have not made any progress on the other half yet. I'm still looking but have become more disillusion. Maybe i going about this the wrong way. I always thought relationship as a numbers game. The more i date, the better the odds are.
I'm wondering if i need to reconsider my objectives and my plan of attack.

what about you MLK? how is your searching for the general? Have you thought exploring West Point? They have some fine cadets there...jk.

1/2LostSoul Monday, June 24, 2002 at 13:13:30 (PDT)

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