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WHAT AA WOMEN WANT IN A DREAM AM
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:18:49 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the personal style of your ideal AA man?
Reserved & Cultured | 8%
Warm & Understanding | 85%
Aggressive & Take-Charge | 7%
Party Animal | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the body type of your ideal AA man?
Thin | 1%
Trim | 54%
Sculpted (V-shape) | 45%
Stocky/Heavyset | 0%

Assuming you are an AA female, what would be the height of your ideal AA man?
Short (5-6 or Under) | 0%
Average (5-7 to 5-9) | 51%
Tall (5-10 to 6-1) | 48%
Supertall (6-2 or Above) | 1%

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sorry, I forgot to include 1/2 lost soul - he/she (sorry, don't know which one you are) always is interesting.

I love this forum!
chicky poo Friday, July 05, 2002 at 07:27:33 (PDT)

hi MLK,

I forgot your list, it's been awhile since you posted it. (it's been awhile since my computer has been working too)

anyway, that's a very good list, and I am going to try to use it for myself, as I have been pretty horrible at picking out men in my life. Usually, it's just been a kind of passive acceptance of whoever is willing to try hard enough to keep pursuing someone who is as shy as I am, and those are not always the nicest guys. (in fact, it's been my experience that they are not). Usually, the ones that I wanted to date, I've been petrified to approach, and have been pretty tongue tied and fearful of rejection so if they even came to approach me, I am sure I behaved in a manner that made them back off (i.e. really fearful! -- being fearful has never made those "other" guys back off ) Anyway, hate to sound like a victim. I am in therapy now, (well I'm looking for a therapist) and hope to take more active control in life.

just wanted to say that I especially enjoy your posts, (and AC Dropout's too!)

the funny thing about the internet is that you can write all sorts of things that you would never dare say. I doubt I would ever have the opportunity in real life to actually speak with people as confident as you two.

Anyway, enough gushing.
chicky poo Friday, July 05, 2002 at 07:24:24 (PDT)

to Rare Stuff

"..A bit closer too the extremes (consciously of course) would bring a larger scale of different types of men."

Yeah, I suppose you're right. I've just never really had the oportunity to meet really extreme types of men (and in extreme, I'm thinking more in terms of introverts who do things differently from the norm, like cross-country runners and Mount Everest climbers and astro-physicists who spend half the year isolated within their Hubble telescope, and the such. Am I reading you right?). My problem is, they automatically see me and assume I'm not interested because I'm, like you said, too brightly moderate and too loudly feminine...and I cry sometimes, and men hate that! As a matter of fact, I know that I'm right up your alley in the "can't stand that type of chick, she drives me nuts!" category. I don't even know why you're trying to convert me because let's just suppose we actually went out together...I'm bright and cheery and blonde, and I tend to draw too much attention, and you being you, would hate to be stared at by all the guys.

I mean, I suppose I could start by being a bit more serious about things in general and try not to crack a smile when I read all of the funny posts that get aired here (like AC's. He's always had that ability to make me laugh even when he says almost nothing important and earth-shattering...your posts, on the other hand, make me think and wonder ...hmmm, what's he really getting at and what's his agenda). I could just imagine living with a man who's so serious all the time, I would be so afraid to crack a joke at him for fear that he would take me seriously and be all upset.

And there's nothing wrong with being optimistic. It sure beats going around with a sour face all day. Like Lincoln said, "People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." and I think he sure knows what he's talking about. There is just as great a chance of me stumbling over my own legs being a pessimist about everything. I might as well enjoy myself and stay my bright cheery self even as I stumble. I am even optimistic enough (and maybe foolish enough even), to think that somewhere, someone is going to catch me if I fall, and if they don't quite make it to me before I hit the ground, they'll help me get back on my feet again. And in the rare event there's nobody to help me up, well I'm a big girl. I can pick myself up, dust myself off, cry a few tears, and go back to living my life again.
MLK Wednesday, July 03, 2002 at 19:56:32 (PDT)

AC Dropout,

of course women don't want semen as such. They want to see that the man who has overcome them during intercourse lies exhausted in the bed because he has wasted his energy through the intercourse. Women want the victory of their feminine passive endurance over the male active work. Women have no sex-drive, they just want to look down upon the cute lover lying exhausted in their bed and sleeping like a child.
rare stuff Wednesday, July 03, 2002 at 14:51:06 (PDT)

Moonshineprincess,
for me, i already said what i wanted, so now i write to discussion opinions, jab and flirt with people. I have not been very successful at it but if I try, try, I�ll get there one day. There is always plan B, a monk with T1 connection (or cable modem with cable tv)

MLK,
A monk have can have a good life. Think about it, a monk has no worries, no taxes, no income, and prays all day (assuming AC is willing to sponsor�donation for the poor?). Isn't that great? And for social life, there are hundreds of other monks to joke around with in the monastery.

1/2LostSoul Wednesday, July 03, 2002 at 12:05:01 (PDT)

rare stuff,

Women want to take our semen? I not sure about that. Most women I know find semen to be icky. Only in porn movies have I seen women find semen to the nectar of the gods in a desert.

When all is said in done most women I know ask for a tissue afterwards to catch the dripage...unless it is in a condom.

Sex has no connection with power. Power is power. Sex is sex. But neither have to do with the forces of Ying and Yang.
AC Dropout Wednesday, July 03, 2002 at 10:44:07 (PDT)

to Moonshineprincess

I got into a spot of trouble with the men the last time I tried to stick to this subject. You wanna see my list? OK. Here it is again, in all its pathetic little sick glory. The men were upset that my demands were so high and I got flack for a long time afterwards.

My dream Asian (and he's gotta be Asian) man's gotta have healthy doses of these things:

1. integrity
2. intelligence
3. fairness
4. compassion

Comparing my list with yours, mine seems kinda stale and dull, but I'm not hard to please. That's all I want. I don't care too much if he's cute, funny, organized, sexy, independent, rich, or successful. I would like for him to be smart, as that's my requirement number 2, and treating me like a princess...hmmm...I think I'd be extremely lucky if I could just get treated like a cherished woman.

MLK Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 20:56:24 (PDT)

AC Dropout,

you're referring to the connection between power and sex? Common men suffer from energy loss after sex and thus give women a feeling of power. The battle is lost when the semen is lost. I think that is the mere reason why women should date men from their point of view.
rare stuff Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 17:04:30 (PDT)

MLK,

you sound that much optimistic that I suppose that you're going to stumble over your own legs during the next time. That would be the natural consequence of being too moderate. A bit closer too the extremes (consciously of course) would bring a larger scale of different types of men.

"whoever heard of a monk having a life"? -why not as a wolf in sheep's clothing? (Monks can be more potent than you might imagine.)-that would be a real challenge in some areas of the world.
rare stuff Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 16:16:38 (PDT)

MLK,

"I'm more blonde (and female) than you could ever handle, Mr.!"

Of course this statement makes perfect sense for a blonde. :P

"shave my legs and wear high heels... dying my hair blonde"

Does this qualify for artifical intelligence. Throw in the Wonder Bra I'm sure the IQ will shot up another 20 points. ;)

I had an ex-gf that was blonde. You can see with my blonde sense of humor why she's an ex now.

AC Dropout Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 14:18:02 (PDT)

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