AA Attitude toward Hapas | Asian American Poll

AA ATTITUDE TOWARD HAPAS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are Asian American, which best describes your feeling toward Hapas (persons with one Asian parent)?
I find them more attractive than pure Asians. | 38%
I find them less attractive than pure Asians. | 11%
I find them equally attractive as other Asian Americans. | 13%
They put me off by seeming more white than Asian. | 28%
I am never quite sure how to relate to them. | 10%

Assuming you are a Hapa, which best describes your own feelings?
I am most comfortable with Asians. | 38%
I am most comfortable with Whites. | 33%
I am most comfortable around other Hapas. | 6%
I am equally comfortable with Asians and Whites. | 23%

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to larry kong:
ur a girl right? im only asking cuz larry is usually a guy's name. anyway. i am stooping to ur level. i'll speak in simple terms. u r a racist fool. all ur ranting and raving is completely untrue. i know plenty of beautiful east asian girls who r crazy for hapa guys. mayb YOU dont like them but it doesnt mean that others dont. so if ur gonna be stupid and bigoted, speak 4 urself and nOT others. ur claim that there are beautiful women ONLY in some asian countries is derogatory. u totally insulted people of evry other race. dont tell malaysian hapa to shut up becuz ur far worse. i think u have some kind of identity problem and many insecurities. u feel the need to cut down other ppl to maintain your higly inflated ego and sense of self-supremacy. oh and please feel to ask me to clarify anything that seems too hard for you to comprehend.
PS could "Please stop activating your mouth" too?

Half Chyna Doll Sunday, June 02, 2002 at 22:15:55 (PDT)

to malaysian eurasian gal18:
yeah my dad has this accent too when he speaks canto. eh well i shoudnt laugh. i have one too. oh but then sometimes he gets words mixed up, like the slight tonal changes. like he says tobgue when he means pear or something. my dad is a european jew and my mom is all chinese raised in the philippines. how did ur dad meet ur mom? are there many caucasian in malaysia?

to malaysian hapa:
i decline ur invitation. i actually love confident guys, just not u. hey at least u have self esteem (to spare).

to jay:
sorry i doubt my dad would adopt u. our house is too small as it is. id much prefer a mansion. u got one? btw wut's an "H-factor"? i might regret asking, but o well.

Half Chyna Doll Sunday, June 02, 2002 at 22:13:21 (PDT)

Half Chyna Doll,
Yeah, looks fade away. Hehe.........scary to think you are gonna get old someday? Well, for me, I don't think that much about that coz I think it's natural and I wouldn't be unhappy coz I'm getting old and wrinkled etc hehe.......To me, I think, leading a meaningful life is more important. Hmm? will I still love him when he's old? I have to admit sometimes that it's hard to face the fact that one day, you are gonna get old and gray. But, I mean, he's the person whom you choose to be with and the person you love. So, I'll still love him even though he's old and stuff. Old in the outside doesn't mean that you are old in the inside. You can be young at heart. :)
Malaysian-Eurasian Gal18 Sunday, June 02, 2002 at 21:16:39 (PDT)

Malaysian Hapa,
You can say whatever you want to say coz this is a free poll. But, Please don"t say that i'm one of your fans coz i'm certainly not.

Larry Kong,
Not all Malaysian girls prefer Hapa guys. Same with girls in every country in the world. One of my brother has an Asian girlfriend while the other has a Eurasian girlfriend. You know what? My brother spent two years in order "to hold her hand" and she's Chinese. She's a nice girl and surely does not drool over Eurasian guys.

And what do you mean by countries with HOT HOt Asian women? Please, there are beauties in every country. Not just Korea, Japan, Beijing etc.
Malaysian-Eurasian Gal18 Sunday, June 02, 2002 at 21:09:09 (PDT)

wow its really rare to see malaysian people in here...well im one of them ...well mostly malay people r no more pure malay... either they r mixed or at less their generation have a few blood of chinese indian or what so ever...actually my dad he is a minagkabau or consider a malay or something and also generation of Jawa and Dutch ...well anyway im a little confuse with my background history...

and one more thing r asian consider only chinese, japan, korean, taiwan..or anythig that look chinese...because i only see people compare japanese this chinese that ....WHAT malaysian r not consider asia...and i can see that malay r very rare subject here...

well i can only speak malay and english but i really dont know how to speak cantonese...my mom do speak cantonese... so i kinda regret that i dint learn it...should start and learn it tought...
mixed malay&chinese guy kzz79@hotmail.com Sunday, June 02, 2002 at 20:49:52 (PDT)

Jay:

Malaysian hapa and you are the same person I guess???

well i don't think asian girls have a preference for hapa guys. it's true that some asian girls only dig hapa or white guys but there are those who prefer asian guys and those who don't give a hoot about wether you're hapa, white, black or asian. it's not right thing to generalize that all asian girls want hapa guys. just like some white girls only dig white guys and there are many who date outside their race. theyy're just like girls of any race. It's really an individual thing in my opinion. As long as you're a nice person and if you're good looking that's a plus. however thingking you're the best cos you're hapa really is a turn off for asian girls.
Won Bin Sunday, June 02, 2002 at 19:36:45 (PDT)

jay:
hmm, I've found that speaking an Asian language is a disadvantage a lot of the time in dealing with AAs and some hapas. oh well.

Lawrence/Larriiiii? whatever your given name, Ms. Kong:
Wow, an East Asian chauvinist. Something against people in S.E. Asia? You do know that like a quarter of the population of Malaysia are ethnic Chinese, right?

Are you born in America (ABC)? I honestly have never encountered anyone else besides an ABC who thinks that mixed-race kids are somehow stuck in-between two cultures and can't possibly fit in with or be attractive to Asians. You really can't speak for people of both Japan and China, let alone the whole of East Asia, unless you've lived among them, made friends with them in their mother tongues, learned the popular culture, the whole deal.

I have. What did I find? While in HK and Japan I met girls who found me attractive and interesting. I don't think it had much with me being mixed-race, though maybe it was surprising for them to see a Eurasian speaking both Japanese and Cantonese. Maybe it was just a combination of luck, lighting, and liquor. Maybe she was that unusual individual with a mixed-race fetish. Whatever, it was me talking with her as myself, not as a representative of a race or group.

I also met girls who found me unattractive and boring. That was maybe because I said something cheesy or stupid or that made her uncomfortable, or the clothes I was wearing didn't suit me well, or I met them at a bad time, or whatever. Maybe even these particular girls disliked me because I was Eurasian. Racism? Oh well, no affirmative action in love, so I moved on. But I never met anyone who believed in this overriding blanket principle of "all Asian girls dislike hapas and would prefer an Asian or a White" which you think all of East Asia follows. I had pretty much the same experience as everyone around me - speak the local language, have something to talk about, keep yourself well-groomed, and you'll be sure to meet girls. Especially in the first aspect, following these three simple rules put me ahead of some Asian-Americans and white guys.

Any comments? or blatant generalizations?
T.H. Lien Sunday, June 02, 2002 at 16:20:41 (PDT)

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