Asian American Attitudes toward Height | Asian American Poll

AA ATTITUDE TOWARD HEIGHT
(Updated Saturday, Jun 6, 2026, 12:07:54 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian American, how important is height in your assessment of a person's attractiveness?
It's a key element of attractiveness. | 20%
It's one of many factors I consider. | 44%
It's less important than other personal qualities. | 28%
I am not attracted to tall people. | 8%

Assuming you are an Asian American, which best matches your feelings toward your own height?
I'd like to be 3 inches taller. | 43%
I'd like to be an inch taller. | 27%
I'm happy with my height. | 26%
I'd like to be an inch shorter. | 4%

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gema,

avoiding eye-contact is both a cultural trait and a personal preference. I wouldn't call this shyness because a person who wants to be pleasant can also express this by avoiding eye-contact. From my experience I can say that I make eye-contact only if I'm lacking self-control at a moment. By the way, I don't even try to have eye-contact with people who are taller than me even if I'm angry, it only happens with people who are much shorter than me.

rare stuff Sunday, June 02, 2002 at 05:14:30 (PDT)

To the Korean guy dating a Chinese girl.

You imply that I have an eating disorder or starve myself on rabbit food. I have a very healthy appetite. Thank you. I have been equally blessed with a quick metabolism so I don't need to starve myself to look slim. I can chow down food like the next guy.

"aggressive guys are the most successful to getting passive girls like you to give it up"

I choose who & when I "give it up". I don't even kiss on the first date! And for you implying that I have herpes since you assume I sleep around, you couldn't be more wrong. I am disease free. I practice safe sex. I am sexually "conservative" It's dangerous to make assumptions about someone you don't even know!

"I've had my d*** sucked more times
than I care to remember."

Who's the slut now? Or is this "progressive" male a closet chauvinist. I am sure your girlfriend must be very proud of your "achievements"!

For those who labelled me a "ho" or "slut", notice I did NOT use any derogatory comments or remarks in regards to Asian males. If I can remain "civilised", so should you. This proves you're not as classy as you think you are. You should direct these offensive labels at someone who deserves it more.

Amber L. Amber1970@hotmail.com Saturday, June 01, 2002 at 14:21:57 (PDT)

well, i guess this section is no longer about height whatsoever
change the title? Saturday, June 01, 2002 at 12:12:53 (PDT)

Hey everyone, I was surfing the forums and I felt I had to put in my 2 cents. First of all, the height issue...while it is true that shorter men do have more of an uphill battle to fight then the more vertically blessed, you will find many examples throughout society that will prove that height isn't as important as you might think. There are alot of celebrities, Scott Caan(5'5"), Seth Green(5'4"), Al Pacino(5'6"), Tom Cruise(5'7"), Sylvester Stallone(5'7"), Jonathan Taylor Thomas(5'4") that are all of average or less than average height that are popular in the media. However, like the cliched "nice guys finish last", they only do so because they do not assert themselves and allow others to walk all over them. If you allow the strength of your personality to shine through, then people of all walks of life will come to love and respect you. If a girl won't go out with you just because of your height, she's probably not worth it anyway. Just like if a guy won't go out with a girl because she won't fit into a size 2 dress, he's not worth her time either.

Now onto the AM/AF issue...growing up in Nebraska, a predominantly white area, I have come across very few Asians, and the ones I have met I've been a little turned away from because they exuded no sign of personality, but that's just Omaha for ya. I think for the most part I've fit in pretty well and while some may say I'm whitewashed, I have to live two lives...Korean at home and English in the real world, and Spanish at work. I'm a Korean/American male, and I'm about 5'5" so I'm not gonna sweep anyone off their feet, but from my dating experiences, I've learned that when it comes to the opposite sex, personality is so key. I've mentioned it so many times in my post, but it's true. People have to stop worrying about what they look like and think more about what kind of message they are conveying through their speech and body language. Just go out, be yourself and have fun and don't worry about trying to hook up with someone...it's funny how close you get to people when you don't even think about things like that and you're just enjoying yourself. Sorry for the humongous post but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to make a statement. :) Take care y'all.
HurricaneSteve Saturday, June 01, 2002 at 10:51:48 (PDT)

To all those have responded to my
previous letter.

I don't think you are getting the whole picture with my letter. Yes I interact mostly with non Asian males but I did not say I pass out my coordinates to every single guy who approaches me. Many of these guys are in fact geeky looking. I'd pick an attractive Asian guy anytime over a homely white guy. I have been friends with Asian guys & have dated Asians as well. I guess my previous letter was misleading when I mentioned I date whites "exclusively". I apologize for the inaccuracy. But at times it feels like I date whites "exclusively" since I date them 80% of the time.

Don't make false assumptions about me. I don't wear bebe tops. I dress conservatively. I never show any cleavage, belly button or wear very low cut jeans. I have a nice, shapely body & considered a "good dresser" by many of my colleagues & friends.

In fact I go out of my way to avoid being approached by geeky & unattractive white guys but I can't help it if they approach me. It can be very annoying at times.

So you think I never take initiative?
Wrong here! I am currently dating an Asian guy. Nothing serious here. I see him as someone to hang out with. But it was ME who approached him at a dance.( I had met him at a previous function where it was him who took the initiative).

So I only look attractive to non Asians? Wrong again! I have a neighbour who is Asian & he is an absolute hunk. He thinks I am attractive even though he works in an industry bombarded with babes. Perhaps Asians don't find me as atttractive as non Asians since I have a golden-olive complexion. Many Asians like girls with lily-white complexions. Also I have thick lips. This feature is considered "attractive" by many whites but not so attractive by Asians who tend to prefer thinner lips.

So I hate my own culture? Wrong here. In fact when I date someone I try to seek someone who has a keen & sincere interest in Asian cultures.

I hope this letter clarifies some misconceptions about me. I am not as "white washed" as you bashers think I am. And for the record I am not "desperately" looking for an Asian partner.

I am just naturally more attracted to guys who are tall & well built. Many Asian guys just aren't tall or athletic looking enough for my taste. But looks is only part of the package of course.

I don't approach men all that much. I am a shy & reserved person. Also cautious. Even some of friends who consider themselves as "feminists" are reluctant to put their ego on the line by approaching & asking a guy out.

I lived in Asia for a couple of yrs. I bet you bashers are surprised!!! Now if I was REALLY anti Asian what the heck am I doing surrounded by Asians anyway?!!! Of course while I was there I had an Asian boyfriend (2 yrs). & dated other Asian men as well. By the way, my ex-boyfriend of 2 yrs. dated mostly WHITE women while living in the states. So it works BOTH WAYS.

I hope this letter clarifies some misconceptions about me. Besides it's really NOBODY's business if I date mostly white males. Just like there are some Asian brothers who date white women only.

Just remember different strokes for diffferent folks.

Amber L. Amber1970@hotmail.com Saturday, June 01, 2002 at 10:09:16 (PDT)

Sorry to rain on AF/WM parade but a good-looking asian guy doesn't really care about this. It's a free country the last time I checked. Anyone can date who or whatever they want. Besides, a lot of these asian girls are dumpy looking and the white guys are dorky. What is the big deal. Let them be.

What is cool is the increasing numbers of slick and handsome asian guys with really cute white and hispanic girls I see lately. These couple look great and everyone notices them. Kudos!

Ray daven@execs.com Saturday, June 01, 2002 at 03:38:04 (PDT)

To Amber,
I think that most likely you are sending the wrong signals to asian men. Maybe you don't act yourself when you're around them cause you get nervous and appear snobbish although you're not trying to be. I know when i was in my midteens i use to get nervous around good looking asian guys and I wouldn't know what to do so i'd look away from them or unintentionally make myself appear stuckup cause i know i'll be toungetied if they talked to me. I used to get so mad at myself for that...i would always worry whether i gave a bad impression or not.
But before i can give you any more advice, do you like asian men? It is true that alot of asians can tell whether another asian is into asians or not. Especially when they see who you're hanging around with.
I have been approached by blacks, less whites, but the most asians. I'm not a racist but i'm only attracted to asians and have only dated asians. And now married to an asian man for three years.
I think ultimately, you are giving the wrong impression to asian men by making asians think you're not into them, that is if you do like asians.

Strawberry Friday, May 31, 2002 at 23:10:16 (PDT)

I, a young woman, always SMILE when I see Asian males. I do not see why Asian guys do not hit on me as much as White guys do.
Face it!!! You Asian guys are good looking but are too Lazy and unintiative!!!!!!! I mean, I would smile at Asian brothers and some of them do not even smile back...AND NO, ME IS NOT UGLY. I do not understand! They would stare at me forever and turn around real fast when I look back at them. I know that they like to look at me but for some reason they do not like to speak. They at least do not like to be the first one to speak. I have found a lot of Asian guys to be extremely locquacious and talktive to me...but only if ME speaks first..!! I is tired of it...and ME refuses to be the first one to speak ever again to Asian guys!!!!! Dude..I quit on you!!! ME also refuses to smile like an idiot to inresponding Asian members of the opposite sex anymore.

If you do not have the guts to speak/smile and eye contact me(first)....then you are not man enough to handle this young woman!

My current height is 5'4 and a half and still growing...with a potential to be 5'6.

P.S-My post IS height related and needs to be aired.
I is Woman. Friday, May 31, 2002 at 21:51:47 (PDT)

"Asian guys, including the ones I know personally, are quite traditional in their upbringing. They only show interest in women they see as having 'potential' (ie, a serious relationship). I guess they are more serious minded, and hence put a lot of thought into who they go for."

i hear you asian brother! you mind to repeat this post in the "gender divide" board? i've been trying for ages to get this across to the females on that board but they just laugh at my ass and compare how our AM approach is "lame" compared to the "playas." AF are so messed up in america they don't even recognize quality when i'm screaming in their face i want commitment in a relationship.
villageidiot Friday, May 31, 2002 at 17:01:23 (PDT)

hello? U2

"You do the approach, then you find out if she is interested. If you wait for her signal, you would be waiting forever."

been there, done that. i might as well go buy lotto tickets and see what my chances are. sorry hitting on girls left and right spells desperation regardless girl or boy. i dunno what your dating experiences have been, but there has to be some sort of mutual signal for either side to approach. otherwise not interested in having drinks poured on my new shirt.
SLAMIN' villageidiot! Friday, May 31, 2002 at 16:50:26 (PDT)

The Sweetest Thing!

I LOVE YOU! i don't care whether you're male or female, i still love you for at last being somebody who understands and can articulate the plight of us AM so well as you do.
villageidiot Friday, May 31, 2002 at 16:46:31 (PDT)

Its like that:

Um...do not manipulate Ed into doing something meaningless. So what if the post are not refering to height every second every minute of the day??? If it really was like that on every poll then Goldsea would be plain boring. I mean, I love Goldsea because I can always find somehting interesting on each of the polls, if everything was strictly on the topic then it would be not be as fun.

I mean...you want us to stay on the topic of Height..what do you want people to talk about on here..? Have everybody report their height...? If it was like that then the height poll would only have like two posts.

People entrusted Goldsea's Ed to help them exercise their freedom of expression...you are in no place to control Ed into censoring people's mouth.
Feminist woman.....do not tolerate sexist activities. Friday, May 31, 2002 at 14:03:20 (PDT)

[Relevance is the big god that must be served. But He is sometimes patient in the face of an interesting discussion. But only for so long. --Ed]

The Sweatest Thing:

I'm glad you got it all figured out. Too bad it took too much time and your way too old now.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Friday, May 31, 2002 at 13:54:36 (PDT)

Varriiiiiii Long (Man):

Yes you are variiiii long but you are also variiiiii Wrong.

Asian woman are vari friendly and humble to people that show them humbleness and interest. Especially F.O.B woman who can cook.
Larry Kong (Feminist) Friday, May 31, 2002 at 13:41:40 (PDT)

It's just too funny that two separate guys describe asian girls as wearing bebe t shirts, high heels, arms crossed and bitchy. too true!
so true Friday, May 31, 2002 at 13:10:16 (PDT)

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