Asian American Attitudes toward Height | Asian American Poll

AA ATTITUDE TOWARD HEIGHT
(Updated Saturday, Jun 6, 2026, 12:07:54 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian American, how important is height in your assessment of a person's attractiveness?
It's a key element of attractiveness. | 20%
It's one of many factors I consider. | 44%
It's less important than other personal qualities. | 28%
I am not attracted to tall people. | 8%

Assuming you are an Asian American, which best matches your feelings toward your own height?
I'd like to be 3 inches taller. | 43%
I'd like to be an inch taller. | 27%
I'm happy with my height. | 26%
I'd like to be an inch shorter. | 4%

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this is a response to an older comment made by Amber on may 29 (sorry i am really slow). =)

i think the whole "approaching a stranger" type of deal relies on looks and attractiveness. and american guys have a different ideals for what an "attractive AF" is, compared to asian guys. its not hard to understand that concept. yeah, your right, *i think* (from wat i observe in the boston area) asian guys prefer a girl with more of a pale complexion, and american guys like asians who are olive-complexioned and have more oriental/lucy-liu features. and u say that ur olive, so that is probably why. that might be the reason why american guys go after u and not asians. sorry for using the word oriental i am in a hurry.

as for the 6 inch heels, they are perfectly comfortable i CAN walk in them without a falter. they are wooden and have a big hole in the middle. maybe its hard for some people to believe. besides, if you missed it in my first post, i said that i wore them only a couple of times for fun, maybe i did not make myself clear. not like i wear them all the time.{ i usually wear flats or sandals every day. }

(( i do smile in 30% of my pictures if u didn't notice. but smiling for cameras are so overrated and fake. i smile in real life all the time. why should i smile for u anyways, ur a stranger}}

i think tristana is a man or just being sarcastic or playful. dont take him/her too seriously folks. thats probably wat she wants anyways.

jason fung u are funny.
Moonshineprincess http://moonshineprincess.50megs.com Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 11:01:10 (PDT)

Tristana:

You sound like a really cold and unfeeling person. So do you have any friends? And are they big mean giraffes like you too?
ShortStuff Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 08:50:46 (PDT)

5'7" Asian female,

There is looking up to a man, and LOOKING UP TO A MAN. Get my drift? I am 5'7" too, and I HATE it when men are more than 2 or 3 inches taller than me. When I wear high heels, I am usually about in inch taller than my bf (who's 5'9 1/2"), and I like that. It makes me feel powerful. My good male friend is 6'3" and its fucking annoying to have to crick my neck back to look at him when we talk.
arthritis sucks. Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 00:55:04 (PDT)

to Tristana

From one French girl to another...get real!!!! And get over yourself, nasty bimbo.

You think you're too good for Asian Men? Ooh la-la! What makes you think they even want you in the first place? Asian men are extremely intelligent, and you don't sound as if you have any brains at all to speak of. Your English needs major help and your logic and reasoning are nonexistent. Go back to school and get some education and some class, French out-house trash.

Oh,btw...maybe every one else is so tiny in comparison to you because you're so damn fat! Go put on some clothes and act like a decent person and not a hoochie-mama wanna-be. Your disgusting fat rolls are hanging out all over the place.
MLK Monday, July 01, 2002 at 23:30:35 (PDT)

I am 5'5". My boyfriend is 5'4"1inch.
There is not much difference in our heights. I am completely happy with him. I think its really cool that hes not that much taller than me. When we kiss, it feels so perfect!
DeeelightfuLL!!! Groove Is In The Heart... Monday, July 01, 2002 at 21:08:08 (PDT)

>only want to look up, not bend down

'It's just not in the asian culture for females to date someone smaller'

that's bull. maybe from where i come from, it'd different, but there are no rules like that in most cultures. the only reason we have this pseudo feeling that tall people are 'better' is because of the MEDIA. why don't you just admit that you're another one of their victims, a drone being controlled by society?

i for one won't be told what to like. call me old fashioned but i thought that personality, feelings of ease and comfort were more important? good people are out there. in fact, my grandfather was shorter than my grandmother. my new aunt in law is taller than me at 5'9", and my uncle is 'only' 5'5". my best friend's step mom is amost 5 inches taller than his dad.

anyway, you're right. asian guys that tall (6'2"+) are rare. you have some cajones to set your preferences that high. but being the gem you are you deserve no less. its your birthright; youre entitled to it. =)
hbt Monday, July 01, 2002 at 16:58:42 (PDT)

Moonshineprincess,

you are ridiculous. You need so much outside validation about your looks, it's pathetic. Here you are asking everyone to look at your website, asking "Do you think I'm pretty?" and then on the weight forum you say "I'm 91 lbs, is that normal"? You look average, you're not that pretty. And you look like you need to eat some food.
get over yourself! Monday, July 01, 2002 at 12:48:11 (PDT)

only want to look up, not bend down:

...amazing...an Asian girl using an alleged part of Asian culture to justify her own desire of really tall men, almost all of whom happen to be white. Do you also go for really dark guys who are tall? How many tall Asian guys have you ever dated?

Did you all know that it's also part of Asian culture for men to like tits and ass? Sadly, AF's just don't have T&A in general. That's why AM's are going for non-Asian women more and more as it becomes more "acceptable".

I get women to BEND DOWN AND LOOK UP! Monday, July 01, 2002 at 12:43:54 (PDT)

5'4" girl!

If you say that to my face, I pick you up and toss you away like piece of paper! Hahahahaha!!!
I am for real woman. I was such beautiful baby girl, then beautiful child, and now beautiful women.
I model swimsuit. Do you? No you do not. Do you want to know why not you do not?
Because you are so tiny like a little toy. You do not have long smooth leg to wear the bikini. Short legs girls cannot model the swimsuit. They feel jealous for it too.

Jason Fung, good riddance

If you saw me you would want to take me to your bed. I know. All men want to take me to their beds. It is true. They all love me.

Tristana Monday, July 01, 2002 at 11:42:59 (PDT)

Tristana,
I am almost 6ft tall. I have blond hair too, but I'm not stuck up and rude. I don't really consider myself as being sexy, I'm okay I guess. I don't like being this tall. I would give anything to be 4 or 5 ft. It is so hard to talk to men. I think they prefer women that are shorter than them. Men talk with me sometimes, but they don't always seem that compfortable with me. I am single right now. Most of the guys that I think are attractive are asian men shorter than me. And they wouldn't dare give me the time of day. Its frustrating. I focus on school and sports right now.
Maggie Monday, July 01, 2002 at 09:56:59 (PDT)

Jun,

RIGHT ON!!!

For all the Asian guys insecure of their heights, life is too short to ponder and hold back!!!

There is no mountain that is too high to climb over.

You have to show the world that you are a big little man!

You have a special place in God's heart as you have to overcome more barriers than others just to make it. Nothing comes easy in life and see your height as a blessing rather than a curse.

The experiences I had as a short, fat guy made me see this world and humanity in realistic light.

You have to continue loving even to the ones who continue hating.

If you are not getting dates, the FINE!!! It is those womens' loss. Continue improving in life where you are needed. If you make money, then make more of it to fulfill that work ethic given by God and your family. Trust me, the extra money will pay off later.

Continue to hold your head up high and things will come your way. You need that confidence, and no one can take that away from you no matter your height. Your air of confidence will be instantly seen. Yes, even by the same women who turned you down before.

a big little man Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 23:26:59 (PDT)

Tristana,

Are you KIDDING me? I am turned off by supertall women (above 5'9")! They look like giraffes when they're slim (like runway models), and like large pickup trucks when they are shapely or athletic! NOT SEXY. You are WAY too tall, and I find bodytypes like you a turnoff. Besides, your attitude is awful. I guess your parents didn't raise you too well. I think I am a well rounded, highly intellgent (I'm off to either Yale or Stanford next year) respectuful and good-looking Asian guy. I am a 6'2" Chinese-Korean highschool senior in Southern California. I've actually seen your type -- huge, lanky white girls with cheap brassy blonde highlights in their hair. They're a dime a dozen here, and they don't really catch my attention much. Good day, lady.
Jason Fung Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 16:38:26 (PDT)

Tristana,

I'm at a loss for words. I'm a six-foot Korean male, and you sound like utter scum to me. Good luck in your hollow search for meaning in this life.
Good Riddance! Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 16:28:29 (PDT)

Tristana,

lady, you rock.
french fries and french dressing Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 15:46:45 (PDT)

Tristana��

I bet that you are a MAN.
5"4 girl Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 14:35:01 (PDT)

Moonshineprincess,

6 inches? is that safe? must not be too comfortable. perhaps thats why you look so gloomy. nice pics, but what's the matter? smile :)
hbt Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 14:28:37 (PDT)

>Princess
will you and other people stop asking questions like that? you're not the first. stating your height (you being an average AF at 5'3") doesn't reveal much. it doesn't make sense for me to answer you. if you were to ask me whats attractive, id say its confidence. you don't need confirmation here.

>love can be bought, not how tall you are

"They never score with white and Asian women"

on average, aren't asian women shorter? now why won't they give these guys a chance? what the hell is up with that?
hbt Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 14:23:44 (PDT)

I'm a 5'7" asian female, and I don't think I can ever date anyone shorter than me. It's just not in the asian culture for females to date someone smaller. That's why so many petite girls like guys 5'11". well, tall girls are no different. we prefer guys that are 6'2"+, but of course, tall asian guys are rare.
only want to look up, not bend down Sunday, June 30, 2002 at 13:36:09 (PDT)

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