Outmarriage by Asian Americans | Asian American Poll

OUTMARRIAGE BY ASIAN AMERICANS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:11:04 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

On the whole are children produced from interracial marriages advantaged or disadvantaged?
Advantaged | 26%
Disadvantaged | 22%
Neither | 52%

Assuming you are an Asian American male, which best describes your marriage partner or your prospective/likely marriage partner?
Someone of my own nationality | 54%
Someone of another Asian nationality | 9%
Someone of a non-Asian race | 37%

Assuming you are an Asian American female, which best describes your marriage partner or your prospective/likely marriage partner?
Someone of my own nationality | 53%
Someone of another Asian nationality | 7%
Someone of a non-Asian race | 40%

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I see nothing wrong with adopting a child that does not share your race. Of course their will be some identity issues, and prejudices they face. But do you know the process you must go through to ADOPT a child? Do you know that it STARTS at $10,000? To put that much money and effort and energy into it, someone has to have a really good reason and want that child. My hope is that the reason is to provide love and a good home for that child.

I don't think that the world can wait around for everyone that is the same race to decide to adopt this huge number of homeless children!

I have talked to my husband about adopting a child from China, since my in-laws tell me stories about how rough many children have it, and how many do not survive, especially the female children. He says no since we already have a child.

I do want to say that my husbands Chinese mother wanted to adopt a little girl from China last year. She pursued and gathered all information for this purpose. When I asked her why she wanted to adopt a little girl..her reason almost made me fall over with disbelief.

She told me she wanted a girl so she could go to doctor appointments with her, she could speak Chinese with her and she could help cook and clean and drive her places.

Now please do not try to make out that if children are adopted into same race homes, they are getting the best benefits in the world! My MIL alone is an example of how that is not always the case! My husband said it sounded like she wanted a servant or a slave, not a daughter!

I am not Asian, but my reasons would only be for love..and I would expose my child to his/her culture the best of my ability.
hannybunbun Friday, August 23, 2002 at 19:53:03 (PDT)

To FilipinoGuy:

I wish you much luck and happiness.

I hope it works out for all three of you!
Anon Monday, August 19, 2002 at 06:02:38 (PDT)

My girlfriend is a BW. I am not really sure of what her background mix completely consists of. I think there could be some asian. She has face features very similar to mine, and she is the same height and skin color as me too. She also has a son who is 3 years old, he is part Filipino. He is so cute, I have grown attached to him alot. Many people always ask me if he is my son. I never thought I would date a woman who already has a child, but I feel different now. I definitely plan to marry her. When we marry, I have a good idea of what our children will look like. They will be very beautiful.
FilipinoGuy Saturday, August 17, 2002 at 02:32:06 (PDT)

AL,

You're right: "Cultural heritage" matters.

I think a really interesting case is that of a Caucasian boy baby abandoned by his white mother and then adopted and raised by a chinese immigrant family in california. Here's a white kid, growing up in the Asian community, and calling an Asian man and woman as "Dad" and "Mom."
Asian Machiavelli Thursday, August 15, 2002 at 08:27:33 (PDT)

Brad
I haven't had the chance to look across the world at all the mixed children , use some personal and highly subjective measurement of good/bad looks, and then sit down and tally up where most fall.
I happen to think all children posess beauty, and though I am tickled when someone finds my son attractive, I think it is his winning smile and his open face and devilish gleam in his eyes more so than any recipe of mixed races.
So to get back to your question - what about the less than stellar looking kids? Do we decide whom to marry and have children with based on the one to ten scale of how good our future children with them will look?
Maybe I sound harsh, but I find it bad enough that the emphasize on adult's appearance is so crucial and critically attacked on these boards. I have seen remarks made about some of the photos male posters have shared on Goldsea - and they are all truly good looking men!! Iconic ( sp?) for example, was so picked apart - yet when I saw him I was struck by his almost movie star appearance!
At any rate, I am getting off track ( ahem...thinking of those pictures...growing flustered...). I just hate to see children being subjected to this whole " appearance" thing. Granted, we all wonder when we marry what our kids will look like. And I know I wondered to what degree my son would look white and to what degree Asian.Would he look more like mom or dad? Whose nose and chin would he have? and so on .I think these wonderings are natural - and are fine to be discussed in here. But never did I view him ( or any other mixed child )as being better or worse looking than a non-mixed child. It just really strikes me as inappropriate to involve a child's looks as a subject of discussion when it is solely being judged on cute or ugly. That is too much like playground bully talk.
HappyClam Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 08:04:11 (PDT)

Hi people, what do u think of this article?? do u agree with it? whats your opinion about it?

Latino and Asian Children in White Homes
by Beth Hall and Gail Steinberg

"We want to adopt an Asian or Latino child," said the White couple. "She or he will fit into our community with no problem."

White prospective parents sometimes approach adoption with the idea that they can successfully raise a child of a race different from their own as long as the child is from a racial background they believe will be accepted by their community. Because it results in greater adoption opportunities for them, these parents benefit most from the myth that race is not an issue for Latino or Asian children.

What supports the conclusion that minority race doesn't matter from people without personal experience to justify it? In the public debate, it is rare to hear Latinos or Asians argue that they do not experience race as an issue. An Asian or Latino child being raised in a White family will experience the same stereotypes all Asians and Latinos face today in our country.

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Children who lose the history, traditions, and comforts of connection to others who share their racial background are the victims of this myth. Parents who take away their child's opportunity to feel a true member of their own racial or ethnic groups are depriving their child of a birthright and diminishing the rich contributions of the child's intrinsic culture. For a member of a minority group in America, it's an easy leap to conclude that the insignificance of one's cultural heritage suggests one's own insignificance as an individual member of that culture. As it is said, race matters. Help to make it matter in a positive way in bringing up adopted children.
AL Wednesday, August 14, 2002 at 07:29:31 (PDT)

People talk about the good looking children of mixed marriages. What about the ugly ones? There are many more ugly ones.
Brad Friday, August 09, 2002 at 06:58:46 (PDT)

How true Blasian Hapa
BlasianCutie Sunday, August 04, 2002 at 03:46:33 (PDT)

Malaysian-Eurasian Gal18

well thats the thing i dont speak chinese..i can understand a very little chinese...so wen i watch chinese movie i must have the translation..i think i should learn to speak chinese, but i want to learn japanese first ..so i dunno yet what am i suppose to do..next year i'll be extra busy, because im taking chef course and plus with two jobs,one as a designer and the other one is business with dad... so geez dont know if i have time for language class...my mom sure she can speak chinese, but i'm so use of speaking malay with her....
mixed malay & chinese Guy Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 19:49:39 (PDT)

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