(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:08:55 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Which of the following is the best kept secret about the personalities of Asian American men?
Sensitive and expressive | 41%
Imaginative free thinkers | 28%
Bold and aggressive | 31%

Which of the following is the best kept secret about the sexual attitudes of Asian American men?
Progressive about gender roles | 6%
Warm and emotionally engaging | 38%
Adventurous and imaginative | 31%
Skilled at lovemaking | 25%

Which of the following is the best-kept secret about the bodies of Asian American men?
Powerful and well-muscled | 35%
Tall and gracefully built | 7%
Sexually well endowed | 31%
Hairy in the right places | 27%

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*I have a "typical" blond, green eyed 5"10" French/German girlfriend and I have to say she is more asian than I am"*

Hmm. Is this really something to be bragging on? Shes actually more asian than you? That is such a turn off. I do agree with one thing you said. You commented("if I was Black or Green and from Mars, then I would be proud of where I came from. nuff said.") Yes, you would probably be more proud of your Martian culture if you were from Mars and were Black or Green, more so than you are of being Asian. Best kept secrets of Asian Males? Asian culture. The cultural aspects are the biggest turn on for me. There are other things as well.
best kept secrets of AM    Sunday, December 22, 2002 at 22:40:44 (PST)    []
"Yo" and "nuff said"
What is with the ebonics? And you WHITE girlfriend is attracted to that?
Besides, I thought this was the "Best kept secrets of Asian Men" Page. Your rants in ebonics have absolutely nothing to do with the best kept secrets of Asian Men.
what?    Friday, December 13, 2002 at 11:25:48 (PST)    []
Yo, ya'll got to stop stereotyping and hatin' everyone. I tell ya, hate runs in the family man, and my asian parents have bred hate into me and it took almost ten years to undo it completely. I have a "typical" blond, green eyed, 5'10'' French/German girlfriend and I have to say she is more asian than I am. She's currently working in Korea as an English teacher and she gets stared, poked and barred from restaurants who think she's American. Now that I've moved to Los Angeles from New York, wow do I notice that the asians and everyone else just stick together. I say f*** that.

As for some WF who think I may have dissed them at a club, it's only coz I've been lost in the music and dancin' by myself. If a girl can't dance than I don't pay attention to her coz I go out to hear DJs I've worked with or followed for a long time.

The more I travel and live in different cities, the more I come to realize that every race got their bad people. Hell I could hate all Isrealis after living with a psycho in NYC, but I don't...coz it's the same everywhere in the world. We are all human. When my GF told me about all the people giving her s***, and my other white friend got jumped by three guys in Seoul, I got pissed off, I was like, f*** all the South Koreans, but she told me that's how hate poliferates...and told me to calm down and she's right, we all gotta chill out and just have a good time, it's not about race, culture or anything else.

I'm a proud Asian male, and if I was Black or Green and from Mars, then I would be proud of where I came from. nuff said.
ocean    Thursday, December 12, 2002 at 19:35:45 (PST)    []
There is a big difference with asian men and other men. The asian men that I have dated were very gentle and polite with me. They did not get loud and brash. I also notice that the ones I have dated did have immaculate hygiene and found it to be an important habit (also they kept very clean homes and clean cars) I do not want to say that this is all asian men. This is just what I have noticed from the ones I have dated. I tend to have only dated asian men who were FOB. I am more attracted to them for some reason. I just tend to find them more attractive. The man I am involved with now is FOB. He cooks and cleans our place and I always help him out of course. I clean too, I want to cook but its never good enough for him. He does cook better than me, I give him alot of credit for that. I am not lazy or anything, its just that he does this cooking and cleaning thing on his own. He also rubs my back for me and covers me up when its really cold at night in our apartment. Hes a real darling. Being with him sometimes makes me feel like all asian men are like this. But I know this isn't necessarily true. Everyone is different right? Some are darlings and some are like the ones K.Marcelina described.
Jewell    Thursday, December 12, 2002 at 13:47:22 (PST)    []
I agree with you. Its a bit hard to say it without sounding like its generalizing. But I completely understand what you mean. I find that I am just more attracted to AM than BM or WM. I agree that its not that I would think of stealing someone's man either. I find a great many of them attractive, and I don't think you can help who and what you are attracted to. I think its all about specific tastes a person has.
I agree completely!    Monday, December 09, 2002 at 20:04:38 (PST)    []
I don't think that you can really generalize these things. I don't mean to be overly PC but really, some of these comments are absurd. I'm a WF and my ex-boyfriend is half AM but since he is half southeast Asian, he is often confused for being Korean. I think Asian men are mentally, physically, and emotionally sexy. That's it. I don't want to steal anybody's man by dating Asian men it is just what I find beautiful. I am not nearly as attracted to white men or black men but it isn't a racial thing because you can't help who you are attracted to.
Kristin    Thursday, December 05, 2002 at 13:47:58 (PST)    []
The BEDROOM is the best kept secret. I have dated white and black men. Neither could make me experience the feelings I have with an asian man. I am talking about sending chills down my spine until I was so weak with multiple orgasm. It sounds graphic...yet its graphically true.
being honest    Monday, November 25, 2002 at 10:13:14 (PST)    []
The best kept secrets of Asian Men. Well I think its not really the best kept secrets of all Asian Men. I can only speak for my boyfriend personally. He is a libra, and he is passionate and very romantic. When we are together, I find him finishing my sentences. Many times I will look into his eyes, and before I can even open my mouth to say anything, its like he knows exactly what I need. He has been on his own since the age of 20, and he is such an independent man. He came here to America all by himself and made his own way without family. He's a survivor and every hard line and vein in his calloused hardworking hands, tells me that hes the strongest man I have ever known.
Interracial Couple    Friday, November 22, 2002 at 10:20:01 (PST)    []
K. Marcelina,

Such bitterness! Damn. If you've been hurt in the past, I'm sorry to hear that. I guess it's only natural to take it out on whomever did that to you. If he was an AM, then it explains your reasoning. I hope you'll be able to think more clearly down the line.
Too Bad    Thursday, November 14, 2002 at 21:00:50 (PST)    []
Okay SweetCakes. Tell Daddy the details of whats going on with you? Do you care to elaborate on your reasoning behind all of this crap?

If you would like to find out the truth, leave your email address baby.
Corean Man    Wednesday, November 13, 2002 at 04:02:52 (PST)    []
"Asian men I have met are very calloused and icey hearted. Many have no intention whatsoever of being cordial or sweet in any shape or form possible to some women of different cultures. Just look at many of the postings on the various goldsea sites?"

K Marcellina, if your'e still around, I would really like to see some example. I'm not attacking or upset, I would really like to know.
Just some Asian Guy    Tuesday, November 12, 2002 at 14:07:25 (PST)    []
Asian men stick to their own kind and thats a known fact. It would be nice to meet one who is not a racist and who is not intentionally cruel. I have seen many postings from some women claiming that Asian men are wonderful and sweet and kind to them. Since this is the (Best kept Secrets of AM) I will not divert from the topic. I think the best kept secrets of AM is their strength and beauty. Yes they can be quite handsome. But they can be torturing racist barbarians as well. I am very sorry if some may feel discompforted by my choice of words. I am not intending to cause a friction or anger here. I just need to express how I truly feel and believe outloud. I have never said these feelings outloud and have always kept it bottled deep inside me. It feels as though it is rotting away inside my heart as a disease. I like reading the postive things written about interracial couples. It is very refreshingly healthy and wonderful to read about. I do feel joyful when reading positive things written by women here.
K.Marcelina    Tuesday, November 12, 2002 at 09:28:24 (PST)    []
"Many have no intention whatsoever of being cordial or sweet in any shape or form possible to some women of different cultures. Just look at many of the postings on the various goldsea sites? "

Hi I was just curious what ethnicity you are, and what you meant by your statement. Do you mean that Asian men are only nice to Asian women?
just wondering    Monday, November 04, 2002 at 07:14:23 (PST)    []
This is what I really believe. I believe that Asian men can be very physically attractive. Some are so beautiful that they can almost take your breath away. I also feel that they can be extremely critical,cynical and cruelly meanspirited more than any other culture I have ever come in contact with. I did not know this until I moved to California. I have also lived in New York and noticed the very same exact thing. I am not saying that all Asian men are terrible and I am not blaming or bashing an entire race for the behavior of some that I have encountered. I do feel strongly that many Asian men I have met are very calloused and icey hearted. Many have no intention whatsoever of being cordial or sweet in any shape or form possible to some women of different cultures. Just look at many of the postings on the various goldsea sites? This is the sort of thing I have dealt with face to face and it has made me only see the worst in Asian men. I have found many who are very physically attractive. I do admit that my feelings make it almost impossible to ever trust being serious with one ever again in this lifetime. Good luck to the women who actually have met Asian men who are not racist cowards. I wish your relationships the very best of luck from the bottom of my heart.
K.Marcelina    Sunday, November 03, 2002 at 06:43:34 (PST)    []
My Asian boyfriend is very skilled in bedroom, and I am completely intoxicated by his kisses. I also find myself mesmerized so when he speaks to me in burmese language. He is excited when I speak to him in creole french language. We make sexy sexy couple. I don't know other mixed creole with Asian man here in New Orleans. I am so lucky girl =)
Fe'fe'    Monday, October 28, 2002 at 15:14:04 (PST)    []
Asian men are quite sexy in that they have silent demeanors-but are very active in all the areas that really count
American admirer    Sunday, October 27, 2002 at 14:51:08 (PST)    []
"Is it true that AM are skilled in the bedroom as an art form?"

Contessa, the best way to find that out is to focus on a certain Asian guy you find attractive and then make your move.

"I like Asian guys. They are charming and hot, but I think majority of them just go for the skinny ones who dresses sexy all the time. I adore hilarious guys, and, first and foremost, that is what gets my attention, but what gets an Asian guy's attention?"

Hmong Woman, I think you should try staring at an Asian guy who catches your fancy. Keep playing the staring game for a while and if he doesn't say anything then you should get more forward and take the reins and move in for the kill. If you are any half decent looking, he will go for it.
Casual Observer    Saturday, October 19, 2002 at 09:58:40 (PDT)    []