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CHALLENGES OF ASIAN AMERICAN TEENS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:07:43 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

What is the biggest problem faced by Asian American teens?
Pressure from parents to excel academically | 79%
Identity conflicts related to growing up a minority | 19%
Problems related to dating & sex | 2%
Gang influence, pressure & violence | 0%

What of these is the most common mistake made by Asian parents?
Not spending enough time with their kids | 18%
Pushing kids too hard for good grades | 34%
Being too strict in controlling kids' behavior | 45%
Neglecting the kids' social or cultural development | 3%

What factor contributes most to helping Asian teens grow up to be productive, well-adjusted adults?
Stable home environment | 93%
Cultural bias favoring academic success | 3%
Advantages provided by above-average affluence | 4%


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hehe..

i was 5'1 in 9th grade, and pretty slim, but i'd been a swimmer all my life- my lifeguard turned out to be the wrestling coach at my HS, so he asked me to join up, and i became a godly undefeatable wrestler, along with another tiny asian kid-

those were the good days- but seriously, without working out, you can be confident. kungfu is still a good way to go. I suggest wing chun for a year, and jiu jitsu for a year or two. if you really work at it, after those 2 years you will be absolutely confident in your ability to destroy 99% of all other high school guys in a fist fight. although there are scary things like knives and guns, when you get to that point of confidence, little things don't bother you anymore.

the gym is where the white guys are, you'll never look as strong even pushing 200lbs at the bench. i know a chinese guy who does 400. (too rare)

weights make you slow, and not much stronger in terms of fist striking. it's been years (and i'm 5'9 at last! woohoo~ hahaha..) since i took jiujitsu, but i'm still not afraid of anyone on the street. with wingchun (which i learned from my father), all other weapons (including karate/taekwondo kicks, baseball bats, knives) except guns are useless against your awesome fighting ability.

i think most asian gals don't wanna see over-muscular asian dudes. it's just not natural. (i lift weights mainly to stay healthy)

ps. both styles are made to be semi-mastered in a very short amount of time- wingchun is an ancient mass- soldier training martial art and jiujitsu is about perfecting basic ground fighting techniques.

TM 20    Monday, February 25, 2002 at 07:43:52 (PST)
Geoff DB:

I am a Asian-American. The "C" word is also the most dispicable word in the English Language.

Having to grow up in NYC and hearing it all the time from Blacks, Hispanics and Whites it is just as deplorable. I, too have lost all dignity and sleep by hearing the "C" word spoken before me as well.

What I've said to Phoenix Tears is to say the same racist remarks back to whoever says it back to you.

What I don't understand is that if a Black person says the "N" word it is ok and can be use in the context of a joke or affliation but if any other non-black person uses it even to shutup the one who is starting the racist remarks it is not OK and considered racist.

Well, every racist word you say is slander and no race is above another in saying racist remarks.

I had an incident growing up where a hispanic kid was making fun of asian people and saying "Chink this and Chink that" (I guess I can say the word because I own the word also) But then I started to mention out his nationality with "Spic this and Spic That" and then he said "That's cold, man."

No. How is it cold? Because you can say "Chink" to an Asian and yet I can't say "Spic" Back?

Just like him you are a hypocrite. If you say the "C" word, which I think is just as bad for me, then I'll say the "N" word right back to your face.

You are not above your race either. When racist words fly out no one is spared including you. Asian Americans face just as much racism as your culture does and even more so because Asians are so few and divided here. People think they can get away with it more because that it is so but any prejudice remark is just as bad.

If you are into Asian racial issues as I think you are concerned about then you will know where I am coming from.

Phoenix Tears:

Now that we know that you are a girl instead of a guy, you can still bulk up and kick ass. Still take a self-defense course so if that senior guy gets physical, you will know what to do.
With your height you can afford to gain some weight.

BTW, are there other Asians meaning relatives or other family members who can help you?

What others have said like going to a school where you go to college with other asian or joining any Asian-American organization does help. I had the best times of my life there until you have to go the white work world.

You can always go back to Asia and either work or go to school there as well but for the most of us AA's here we are stuck here and we can only make the best of what we have here.

Hopefully, you will remember us Asian brothers who have sacrificed so the next generation can have it easier here. Unlike all the sellout A-sisters out there who diss even their own culture and thinks white guys are the hotest thing since sliced white bread.

Whatever path you take in life, have pride in your culture and in who you are. You can break the status-quo. Don't let anybody else put you down or excuse you for your race and for who you are.

Just have to say welcome to America of the RED, WHITE and BLUE.

Where even the colors are pronounced segregated.

Fight On!!!    Monday, February 25, 2002 at 01:36:02 (PST)
I, too, had a hellish time in high school. Like so many of you, I took the route of improving myself physically, but you've got to toughen yourself up mentally too. Even though I have friends who appreciate me for who I am, there will always be someone who looks at me and only see my race.
I had this discussion just tonight at the dinner table. We humans aren't as smart as we think we are. As a race, we don't want anyone hating us. And yet, there are some of us who simply reciprocate that hate. That doesn't accomplish anything. So not only is there inter-racial hate, but there is also intra-racial hate. Different Oriental groups hating each other. Nothing will ever change until we make the change within ourselves.
Now I'm just going to sit back and take some lumps because I'm sure someone's going to say I'm on a high horse. I'm not better or worse than any other human. Just trying to make sense of this mess we call life...
Tigerspirit    Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 20:28:20 (PST)
To those Asians who are being subject to racial harassment in school:

Do everything you can to ignore those individuals who harass you.

Get in the best physical condition possible. It's true that people are less likely to harass you if you are in good physical condition.

Get involved in student activities such as student government. This will make you fell less isolated, especially if you are in a majority white school. It would be good to start an Asian Student Union if you have the numbers. Extend a hand to other student organizations who represent people of color - African Americans and Latinos. If you don't have the numbers, develop friendships with other Asians and other persons of color.

Always hold your head up high. You see, some of this harassment comes from an ignorant perception by some white students that Asians are not American and therefore can be harassed with impunity. Asians have EVERYTHING to be proud of.
As an example, Asians have served honorably in the US military. In World War II, the 442nd Regimental Combat Team of the US Army was all Japanese American. They rescued the all white Texas "Lost Battalion" of the US Army. The 442nd Regimental Combat Team later went on to help liberate the Nazi death camp at Dachau.

I know of several Asians who told me that they were the target of racial harassment in high school, and they later went on to serve very well in the US Army and the US Navy. I am sure that there are some in the Air Force and Marine Corps as well. No one can say that these Asians are not American. Few would dare harass an Asian who is serving his or her country.
Remember that those individuals who would harass you have everything in common with racist white supremacists, and that once you graduate you won't ever have to see them again.

INFORMATION MAN    Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 19:06:36 (PST)
Asians do not fight for each other that is why he got picked on...we must start helping each other out
fight back with weapons if you have to    Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 15:05:40 (PST)
Baglat u are so f***ing right. When some1 mentions sushi every1 in my class turn and automatically look at me. I was in awe when I first moved here and saw how ignorant, and immature americans were. And now sadly im becoming like them, no self control. Guess u become an idiot when ur environments full of them. And this sites articles on racism and seterotypes on asian people are so sososo right. I never thought about it that way until i read the aritcle and then I understood why I grew up thinking that being asian means im inferior and screwed for the rest of my life. And im in a depression due to these thoughts that constantly filled my mind a I grew up.
AzN MoFo Pilotshinjiikaru@aol.com    Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 14:53:25 (PST)
Geoff DB,

Fight on was commenting on my post of using racial slurs as a form of verbal self defense.

Perhaps the N**** word is not best choice of racial slurs for a black person.

But in NYC where over half the black population is use N***** word to connote everything from comradely to lack of eduction. The bite is almost removed altogether. The word is more overused in the black community than the word Smuf is used in the cartoon society.
AC dropout    Sunday, February 24, 2002 at 11:55:45 (PST)

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