(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:07:37 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Which best describes the way in which Asian males are perceived as a threat by other American males?
Potential physical/martial threat | 8%
Economic/workplace threat | 42%
Incipient sexual/romantic rival | 13%
Intellectual/cultural threat | 23%
No real threat | 14%

Which factor contributes most to the perception of Asian males as a threat?
Growing numbers of AM/WF couples | 18%
High concentrations in top colleges and professions | 41%
Flashy displays of personal wealth | 24%
Power and wealth of Asian nations | 8%
History of Asian wars | 9%

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Curious Girl,

You say it like it is. It's nice to know that there is someone out there who understands human behavior.

My fellow Asian brothers,

Just be yourself, dress nicely, and be mysterious. No baggy pants. Women don't like it when a man reveals everything about himself in a short period of time.
She'll want to find out more and more about you as time progresses out of curiousity. It don't matter what race she is. Biologically, women are all the same. Psychologically, they are slightly different, partly because of the environment in which they were raised by. That is of course if you are interested in a long term relationship, but not if you're into that rough sex sort of thing. You know what I mean. This is personality and honesty wise. Be honest, but try to say as little as possible. DON'T EVER LIE.

No.1 rule. No overwhelmingly romantic love poems at first. This will scare her off. Trust me; I'm a writer/screenwriter/film major and my words are really strong when put in literary form. It's just the way I am. In high school, I scared one girl off by doing that. I learned my lesson. I'll never do that again. Trust me.

No.2 rule. Never ask if the women could pay for a date. If she likes you enough, she will kindly do so herself without your knowledge at times. That is a sign that you could not provide a good home for her.

No. 3. Have fun and never forget her presence. Women love attention.

That is just part of nature.

Afterall, mystery is one of the strongest secrets of a long lasting relationship.
Ray    Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 19:18:34 (PDT)

Curious Girl,

Thanks for the wonderful post. It was encouraging and enlightening.
Ray    Thursday, August 29, 2002 at 07:10:28 (PDT)
Ray, I think that's great that more Asian-American parents are allowing their sons to choose freely who they would like to date. I'm beginning to see more AM/WF (and other non-AF) couples too. I've read a lot of posts from Asian men that said they don't think white women would find them attractive, so they don't ask them out. But that's so far from the truth, many white women, and other non-Asian women, find Asian men very attractive. So go with what makes you happy. If you want to date an Asian women, great. If you're more attracted to white women, go for it. And don't listen to any Asian woman that would say that she owns you.
curious girl    Tuesday, August 27, 2002 at 06:51:31 (PDT)
Curious girl,

You are absolutely right. This whole thing all boils down to the love category.
A couple of years ago here in the West, I used to only see one WF/AM couple every 5 days or so, but now I see 1 or 2 everyday or every other day.

Just like Asian-American parents got used to the idea of their daughters dating white men, the idea of their sons dating outside their race is becoming more accepted.

In fact just last night I saw a married white female and her Asian husband with their blond haired daughter eating with them on the table in a Chinese restaurant. The daughter looked like Italian, French, or Turkish as if she inherited all her mother's caucasian facial features and the father's innocent face and modest brown eyes.

Asian men are getting a confidence booster as well. Like me. When I like someone, I will express it by telling the girl right on. How is she going to know if the man does not make the first move. That's the way nature is and ought to be.

When I was in junior high, I used to be shy around Caucasian women, but all of that changed when I was in high school; some caucasian females confessed in liking me so I personally told them if I liked them or not.

Just because a Caucasian,Hispanic, and Black female says no on a date, it does not necessarily mean that they don't like you; many of them are pressured by their parents to find a mate within their race.

Girls are girls and treat them like one. I just hate people stereotyping every female of a certain race.

No one owns anyone.
Ray    Monday, August 26, 2002 at 06:42:48 (PDT)
AM are a threat because everything ties into the game of love. That's what it all boils down to."
- huu76,
Excellent point huu. I'd also like to add that as our relationships/couplings with WF increase as they are now doing, we AMs will be seen in a more favorable light. It seems that the natural byproduct of this would be that many previous selfhaters will be joining our camp. After all, the AF sellouts look through the eyes of white folks for their typical standard/view of desirability. When it becomes commonplace for WFs to view us as desirable then the banana and sellout AFs will fall like dominos. We are in a win-win situation. We can then stock our pools with all kinds of desirable females.
Toy Sunner    Sunday, August 25, 2002 at 17:34:56 (PDT)
AM are a threat because everything ties into the game of love. That's what it all boils down to.

1. Competing directly for non-AF (AM who do this seem more often to be better catches, in brains, body and bucks).
2. We compete for the best jobs, which in turn helps our chances in 1 (how many gay white guys complain about AM taking their job? It'd probably be a turn on for them). If a non-AM repeatedly gets beaten out of a crappy job, I doubt there'd be much whining.
3. More and more of us are turning towards 1, which makes 1 harder to achieve (the more suitors, the lower your success rate, especially when stacked up against higher quality competition).

I'd mention competing for AF, but there's no actual competition taking place (my opinion).
huu76    Saturday, August 24, 2002 at 18:04:49 (PDT)
The KKK-McVeigh Mentality Must Be Electrocuted,

Exactly! Of course Asian men are good enough to date white girls, and we certainly aren't "owned" by white men. If my b/f were too scared to approach me because he was worried that he wasn't good enough for me, or if I were too worried to date an Asian man out of fear of what white men would think, we never would have met and fallen in love. And that would have been a tragedy.
curious girl    Sunday, August 18, 2002 at 19:29:29 (PDT)
The KKK-McVeigh mentality must be electrocuted,

Right on! Noone owns anyone. Period. End of story.
curious girl    Monday, August 12, 2002 at 08:04:52 (PDT)

The chick, always the chick goes first!

We go first for everything, buffet lines, life boats, through doorways, etc. The only times you should go first is into a darken stairwell or foyer. That way, if someone gets jumped, it would be you guys, not us gals! :)
MLK    Monday, August 12, 2002 at 00:30:08 (PDT)