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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
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Kathleen is a stupid WF, and Mia
How am I putting down women of other races? I only said that Black and Asian women tended to make excuses to cry racism. How is that putting them down? I have nothing against them. So what nationality are you two? i am curious to know?
Kathleen
Wednesday, August 28, 2002 at 08:33:26 (PDT)
Hi Repost,
In answer to: "Let me ask you – does your boyfriend respect Asians, both men and women? Is he a sellout just because he’s dating you?"
My boyfriend respects Asians very much, both men and women. I don't think I would be interested in dating someone that hated his own race and himself. He's definitely not a sellout just because he's dating me. He's never said anything to put down Asian women, and in fact has dated many in the past, and doesn't speak ill of them, which shows his class. He's not whitewashed- he doesn't think that White American culture is superior. I definitely don't think of him or us as part of the great Gender Divide. It's not as though he rejected all AA women and thought of them as a lost cause, and decided to date only non-Asian women.
PS. I have a sneaking suspicion that "Thoughts" is none other than Backlash. The way that she writes- one sentence, then a space, and so forth, also the *stars* around a word, are very reminiscent of her prose. If it is her, then her temper seems to have calmed down a bit.
curious girl
Wednesday, August 28, 2002 at 06:14:22 (PDT)
To: I love the ladies
I'm a mixed female and my boyfriend is Chinese. I have always dated men of every race but rarely Asian men until I moved to LA. In the midwest where I grew up, they seemed to keep more to themselves and a little antisocial. Out here, they are more outgoing and I've met a lot more Asians. Yes, I happen to find Asian guys sexy. I think it is much, much harder to get them to talk to you though. I have girlfriends of other races (black, white and Latina) that are attracted to Asian men but we've ALL had the same complaint...they are just way too shy!! They rarely approach us but will smile at us a lot. Black, white and Latin guys approach all the time but the Asian guys seem to be either just too shy or fear rejection. I've heard from other Asian guys I've met now that they didn't think other women besides Asians would find them attractive. They never know we do b/c they don't make the effort to try to ask us out. Why is that?
CaliGirl
Tuesday, August 27, 2002 at 20:37:59 (PDT)
To: Thoughts….
Comments inline:
“There is nothing wrong with brunettes. I am only stating what I have seen. Elizabeth Hurley is a poor example. Pretty yes, but not beautiful. She has spent a good amount of $ on her looks, yes?”
Sure, you find her pretty but not beautiful. But that is what you see; I hope you don’t think whatever you think is universal. Some may find her beautiful and others may find her unattractve. Blondes also spend $ on their looks, no?
”Most WF's are brunettes, but the majority of them in America (about 60%) dye their hair blond as they are brainwashed daily by the media that being blond is better.”
I have two questions for you:
1. Where did you get the majority/60% figure? If you can be quantitative about this there must be a source, right?
2. Those who dye their hair are brainwashed that blonds are better. Is that an assumption on your part? If not, how do you justify that these brunettes bleach their hair because they are brainwashed?
”You have made my own point for me. You can only name a few pictures, because only a *few* pictures exist.”
Sure, there are very few. But your original point was Asian men are underrepresented in the media compared to Asian women. If that’s the case, how many pictures can you point out with aa Asian female lead with non-Asian male? And forget the Red Lantern BS. Even non-Asian people know that's not reflective of Asians here or back in Asia.
”The Dragon and Lover movies are auto/biographical so of course Hollywood would not be altering much with their storylines.”
I would think this is a good thing, wouldn’t you?
”Without the media, there would be no sell-outs. “
”We'd be dating within our own races.”
How big a part the media plays in each of our lives is determined by how big a part we allow the media play in our lives. It is our choice to turn on the TV. It is our choice to evaluate what the media says to us. It is also our choice to blindly believe everything the media throws at us. If the media told you to jump off the cliff, would you? Of course you wouldn't, at least I hope you wouldn't.
There are people who will listen to the media and take the media’s conclusion as the facts and fail to realize reality. It is a person’s individual choice to be spoon-fed information, just as it is a person’s individual choice to be a sellout. The media doesn’t make a person a sellout; the person chooses at his or her own free will whether or not to be a sellout.
Repost
Tuesday, August 27, 2002 at 15:42:51 (PDT)
Thoughts:
I wouldn't blame the media for everything. You assume that without its influence, everyone would automatically stick with their own race.
Curious Girl:
Yes, it's terrible but AM are finding that WF do find them attractive and WF are discovering that AM will date them. Others may not like it but they won't be able to stop it and will just have to deal with it.
S.U.A.G.
Tuesday, August 27, 2002 at 15:31:20 (PDT)
"I choose not to be rude to anyone" wrote: "I have chatted with women of all races online. It is only the Persian, Serbian, Arab and Hayastan (Armenian) women who complimented me for good looks. Jackie Chan is an icon in many of the Middle Eastern countries and he is considered good looking there (unlike in USA)."
I actually think Middle Eastern women can be hot too. A lot of non-Middle Eastern guys down them as ugly, harry, veiled cammel riders without actually knowing what exactly beautiful Persian or Arabic women look like. But I must say though, based on your observations, that a lot of them must have bad taste...because Jackie Chan is not even considered good looking in HK or China. It aint much of a compliment if they tell you you are better looking than Jackie (me laffing aside). You sound kinda lame... Hopefully those girls were only being nice to you, because otherwise, I 'd have to change my whole notion of what women want.
And the whole thing about Muslim women being repressed sexually is just such a blatant, misinformed generalization (I doubt you have had any significant contact with Muslim women), along with a whole lot of stupid things you said in your post.
Sean
Tuesday, August 27, 2002 at 13:31:08 (PDT)
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